No surgery for me; husband got laid off today

Exactly Huneypie. I'm scared, but I also know we'll be okay. I must be absolutely insane, but I'm kind of interested to see which direction our life is heading.

I have an adult daughter who wants to have a family, and her love life is nonexistent. She grew up with all the eligible boys around here. Dating one of them would be like dating her brother. If we move to another town, she might find her soul mate there. 

Yeah, I'm worried, yet I'm excited too. 

Lynda

Se if you can get your surgery date expedited before the insurance runs out.  Apply for Medicare and Medicaid.  You could be eligible because he's laid off.  Different states have different rules.

I hope you can get your surgery date moved!

Thanks Jazzy. I'm not sure that would work for me. My surgeon requires a six to three month diet before surgery, and I haven't even gotten to that point yet.

I don't know, doing the surgery just hasn't felt right. Do you know what I mean? I sometimes get gut feelings, intuition, whatever, about things and usually if I heed those gut feelings, things work out for the best. 

So I've had these sort of pressing feelings that it isn't the right time to go forward with this surgery. I'm scared of surgery, yeah, but my reluctance is more than just fear; it just isn't the right time right now. 

Things are so up in the air right now. We had some serious financial setbacks and had to file bankruptcy. It nuked our credit score and we lost our house. We're renting from some friends now, but we're not locked into a lease. Then this layoff out of the blue. No warning at all. Everything is just up in the air. 

 I feel like things need to stabilize before I do something as drastic as revision surgery. I'm still working on getting some of my health problems under control, but even so, our very lives are up in the air. I can't even think about surgery just yet. And the way things are going, it may never happen anyway. 

Sometimes I think I'll never make it to the dark side and I should just stop coming to this message board...

Okay, now I'm getting myself discouraged. Need to knock that off. Things always work out for the best, I need to be patient in my adversities. Things will happen the way God intends them, and I can't see the whole picture the way God can. I need to be patient and endure the trial of faith that God seems to require of me. That's how it works, right? The blessings come. Sometimes even miracles happen, but first a trial of faith is required. It's kind of the story of my life. 

Thanks for letting me pour out my feelings here. I hope I didn't depress anyone. 

Lynda

Surgery or not I would recommend getting COBRA.  Medical bills can be devastating.  I would sell things just to have medical coverage. 

You know, I wish you the best for your hubby finding a job.  Technical writing is still hot.  Maybe he could try guru.com.  See what's out there for freelancing.

Onto your surgery, don't let your spirits get down.  I do believe in signs.  I'm the odd man out here.  I had signs upon signs the 2 months prior to my DS not to do it.  No need to go into them now.  I didn't listen to them, nothing was stopping me from having this surgery.  I truly don't believe anyone should have this surgery without insurance right behind it.  I've had complications and now issues.  I felt 2 days before surgery, the day before and the day of to cancel.  I didn't.  I wish I would have gone with my gut.  Now, I'm tied to a job and live in a part of the country that is not for me because of my "great" health insurance coverage.  It's been 9.5 mo since I had my surgery.  I thought by now, I would be back in my area of the country that I consider home going on with life.  Cobra in my case is too expensive.  So, until I get my health issues resolved, I'm stuck in limbo.   You don't want to be in any kind of health issues after this surgery without health insurance.  You will be ok!!  Be encouraged... When the time is right for you to do whatever you are going to do... Then go for it!