Feeling really down and depressed!

I'm in the first phase of the process. I still have to get a supervised diet done with my physician. I've been very honest with my kids about the surgery and the risk that involves surgery in general. I've been discussing this with my husband and my parents for over 10 yrs. So when my two oldest ones got older I explained what WLS means. My mom was suppose to have Roux-en-Y back in "09" but I talked her out of it not only for fear of her dying (she has alot of heart problems) but because I was just learning all about the DS, I really felt that the gastric bypass wasn't right for her. But, when she was going through all her pre-ops that was when I explained everything to my oldest two. My son understands he just I guess what you would call comfortable with mommy the way she it. He doesn't like change. I am looking forwards to a NEW me, and I really can't wait! =)

hi Brandy.

Every day is another day closer to obtaining your goal, 1 less day in your struggle.  Don't beat yourself up on the past - You're right, we've all been there!  

Your family's objections are a clear indication of the love they have for you!  See if you can get past the actual words to the meaning of what they're saying - might that bring you some comfort?  And get your support and encouragement from these great people here.

Best of luck -- Sharon

Thank you Sharon, I'm looking forwards to making some great friends on here. I just can't wait to get started and begin a new life. =)

Brandy - you are not alone.

My 24yr old only daughter went with me to the WLS support group with me on Monday.  From the beginning of my journey I could not even talk to her about my decision to have the surgery without her tearing up.  Well, after the meeting she again started tearing up and saying that her biggest fear is me not making it through the surgery.  I keep trying to explain to her like you have been explaining to your family that I will also die if I do not have this surgery - period.  I believe it if I keep allowing others fears to drive my decision I will never be able to live my life.  Like you, I have my concerns but the benefits seem to weigh out the concerns.  I like you depend a lot on this forum to get me through.  I just completed my last testing so my case can be submitted to the insurance company for approval.  I am a little nervous but I have decided that I am going through with this.  It just seems like there is another life out there waiting for me!  The folks on this forum, especially those who take the time literally right after surgery to write to us to let us know what's going on with them are a God send and I also believe its a sign that WE are on the right path.  Hey, if there was another way that worked for me (and it does not) I would take that route in a minute.

Hang in there - you are not alone.  Have you gotten your approval/date?  Please share, lets keep the focus on what we have to do to keep ourselves alive - not others happy.

I know how you feel, when our family doctor first started suggesting the surgery my family opposed to it, I also had (and still do) have a fear of having a heart attack... My stress manifests itself with left arm pain and shortness of breath and it has caused me to visit the ER many of times... even after multiple heart stress tests and ekg's I constantly feared it. I feared the operation because during my last surgery my heart when into supaventricular tachycardia  unexpectedly and I feared something worst would happen for an even more invasive surgery.

I am now 2 months post op, was only in the hospital for 2 night and was up and back to work at near full steam 2 weeks after surgery. I have lost nearly 90lbs... I can walk as much as I wish... my heart rate is down and I need to go back to the cardiologist to get taken off blood pressure pills because its now to low on them. My skeptical family did a 180 when they saw me 1 and 2 months out, they now think its the best thing I could of done for myself. It was one of the best "risks" I have made. 

There is a very small chance something could go wrong... but if you stay the way you are something WILL go wrong eventually. A controlled risk is much better then the unknown.

PS: I dont mean to alarm you but while I had a near perfect recovery my aunt who had 3 C-Sections had to spent allot more time in the hospital healing due to issues they had with old scar tissue.