Body Image issues after WLS

Hi Ladies,
I have a question...I went from 44DD to 34D, but not really a true D because there is really nothing left inside them but skin.  It just takes up a D cup.  I'm really more like a B.   I alwys say they are like half full water ballons :).  My question is how do you deal with intimacy issues now.  I was always the one with the big girls.  And I liked having the big girls.  I finally discovered the padded bras and I feel more confident, but I struggle with the fact that someone will see them one day and they don't look like what the padded bra makes them look.  I'm happy to have my new body.  Losing over 100lbs sure feels good, so I'm not complaining....just still trying to adjust to my new body.  I'm thinking about a boob job but I cannot afford that right now,  plus I'm wondering will I ever get past this and feel good about myself even with the saggy girls. 

 I know exactly what you mean, for I have the exact same thing.  I was self-conscious at first, but noticed the thinner women in my family had the same thing, so I've decided I have 40-something boobage and that's that.  One major difference between us is that I've been married for 21 years, so there's no problem with the big reveal, if you will.  

If I were single though (heaven forbid), I'd be a total prude, so there will be no sex until there's a true established connection that will yield to that boobage not being such a big deal to him.  The next step would be an extremely supportive sexy bra that I can keep on for the event.  Perhaps that would put you at ease. 

 or perhaps some sexy lingerie with a fitted bra top?

I'm off to the store tomorrow for a new bra or two.  I look like I've had a double masectomy.  My girls up and left me.

I'm married so intimacy is not an issue.  But, I've known plenty of women who were flat chested their whole lives, and they never had a problem with intimacy.  I did struggle in my youth with the idea that a padded bra was like false advertising!  I think it bothers you more now because it is such a change for you to go from gifted, to ah, not gifted.  

In a solid relationship, it won't matter.    And if that great guy makes a comment about wishing you had a little more, don't worry about it.  It's a guy thing and I hear it from husbands all the time.  Women are just too kind to make the appropriate comments back at them.....if you catch my drift.

Oh dear. You could have walked in my bedroom and we would see the same thing. When I lie down my boobs, such as they are disappear, usually somewhere around my armpits. I don't wear push up bras because all they really do is push my poor saggy deflated boobs out of the bra. I've taken to getting full coverage bras and not even the padded ones because my boobs tend to fall out from underneath. Weird. I get the kind that have the soft seamless cups. For me that works best.  I used to be a 48DDD and now I'm a 36D and like you I'm probably a lot smaller it's just that there is skin that needs corralling.

As for handing how I feel about it, well I try not to think too much on it and I avoid positions and my eyes that make me see my boobies. Such as being on my knees. Christ, it looks like I have freaking udders!  I do tend to laugh a lot about them too.  My husband will sometimes kid around pretending to find them. It used to bother me, but now it just makes me laugh.  I cannot do anything about my boobs or for any of the excess skin I have and focusing on it just makes me feel bad so I try not to focus on it. I tend to avert more often then not. I also invest in good bras and good foundation garments. I HATE trying on bras, but I've been known to spend several hours doing so just to get the right fit and look.

Sadly, you just described my boobage. But since I'm 49 and they shouldn't be pointing to the heavens, I'll stick with what I've got. I just invision me laying in my casket and my tits standing straight up for all eternity, never to droop under my armpits again. *lol*  Now about feeling good about yourself...I think that takes more time...I refer to myself as the obese woman trapped in a thin womans body. It's only been two years for me, and things are changing again....settling...shifting into place again. Skin is firming up more where I want it like my neck and face, but nothing but surgery will correct the stomach and boobs. Meh... it is what it is... just try to enjoy your freedom from the weight ...at least that's how I focus for now.

I was sure I was not the only woman feeling this way so I thank you all for sharing.  I'm 34, no children yet and single.  I'm having the time of my life now.  And yes I feel like I'm the fat girl in the thin body most of the time, but I'm getting better with that.  I'm not use to the attention I now receive from men.  They think I have this wonderful shape when really it is all body magic. I just get myself all stressed thinking about going to the beach or getting undressed in front of a man....the fear of rejection after I take off the Victoria Secret's Miraculous bar, shapewear and/or spanx...when he sees the real me will he be  grossed out?   FullHouseMom made an excellent point that it won't matter if it is a solid relationship. 

Again, thank you all for sharing with me.  I'm going to try to work on accepting myself and realizing I am not my boobs.  However, if I come into some extra cash I just might get my DD back!!!  :)  Happy V-day to you all. 

 

I've been single for a year now and have been dating around, and this is a concern of mine also. I went from a 48ddd to a 36d, and they're not exactly pretty. I mean, they're not horrible either, but I definitely keep my bra on for the festivities, lol. It's going to be a long while before I can have them pumped up, so I'm just being cautious for now :P