My meanie Mother-in-Law

My mother-in-law who is not a very nice person sometimes and has been less than kind to me throughout most of this weight loss process continues her unpleasant comments...

Since the beginning I have heard that my weight loss is "quite unbecoming," and I look "terrible."  Nice, right?  This weekend I heard that I look like I a gaining weight again and need to be careful!  I usually bounce up and down between 143 and 145, and am OK, hell I am THRILLED with that.  I weighed myself the day before and was 147, where I usually am, and even if I was more what makes her think I need to hear it from HER, and that it's not something I could figure out on my own!

She is overweight and always has been, I think she is just plain mean.  Please watch your own scale and leave mine alone! 

Just needed to vent. 
Thanks

 Some people NEED to wallow in their own meaness.  It just makes them feel better to think that "they" are somehow superior in some way.  Bless your heart hon....BE PROUD of all you have accomplished.  I'm willing to bet it's more than she has...

Perhaps you should consider telling her,  firmly and politely,  that she is not welcome to comment on your weight or appearance and that the subject is not open for discussion.

Perfect.  I love it and I'm so using that.

 Where is the "like" button for this!

As I have come to see in this life, mean people will never change even when confronted. Unfortunately mother-in-laws can be the worst as they will always believe you are not good enough for their son.

You stated she is not a very nice person so I am sure that picking on your weight loss is just an easy target for her... as they say..... misery loves company so if she is miserable there is no way she wants you to be happy with your success.

Congratulations on your success. Wish I could give you good advice about how to deal with a mean person but in my own experience letting it go in 1 ear and out the other has been the best solution because sometimes bringing it to their attention about how much it bothers you will only give amunition to mean people.

Certainly I don't expect people to change - but what I can change is my response to people.  People who are disrespectful to me will always be told by me that it is not acceptable.  It's about my self-respect.  I realize everybody handles things differently.

I do agree with you and wish I had the courage to speak up but the few times I did, it backfired on me. Also, where I live... from what I have seen from my friends and their dealings with their mother-in-laws... better to just walk away as it is a never winning battle in this culture over here.

She may be jealous. Or, maybe just mean. Or mean AND jealous.

I think you have 2 choices. Arguing with her is not one of them, as it will get you nowhere and just give her more opportunites to dig away at you. So either take sweet Lyn's approach and ignore her, or take NYB's approach and tell her her conduct is unacceptable and never to be repeated.

But either way, don't let her pettiness and meanness get to you. That's what she wants, and will just encourage her to continue.

Larra

 This is a BIG issue for me.  The belief that bodies are public property to be commented on (too fat, too thin, too whatever) is absolute and utter bull**** and is a large part of why so many girls grow up with crappy self-esteem and wind up dieting themselves bigger.  A very firm reply "My body is none of your business.  Please pass the bean dip," rinse, lather, repeat, might work.  I have no patience for that bull****  I know it is an accepted thing to do in our culture;  beat up on womens (especially, but mens too!) bodies in public whether it is your own body or someone elses.  But the buck has to stop somewhere.  

The last time I lost weight a bunch of my SIL's friends were speculating that I was on drugs/anorexic/something else unhealthy.  You cannot win with that kind of conversation no matter what weight you are.  That topic hurts all women, especially if little girls overhear it.  

I haz teh rage about this.  I'm sorry your MIL is being a tool.