New here - how to support partner

Just an aside...when I'm in a restaurant and a waitron refers to my party as "guys" or "you guys" I usually say "excuse me,  do I look like a guy to you?"  I can't stand that.  First of all I'm not a guy.  Second,  the waitron is not my friend and has not been invited to speak me in that type of casual way.

That's not nearly as irritating as when they assume I want to hear their life's story, or random ramblings about nothing. If I had wanted dinner conversation with a stranger, I'm sure there are escort services for that.

My latest gripe is when the checkout person at the supermarket feels it appropriate to try to discuss with me what and how I plan to cook with the various things I'm buying. 

I am not interested in having a conversation with you...I'm interested in you doing your job quickly and efficiently and getting out of here as fast as possible.

I don't mind being grouped in as "guys." I call our daughter my little guy sometimes.

Apropos hormone dump: Assuming you're a male partner, make ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that non-hormonal birth control is in place. Take responsibility for this. Pregnancy soon after WLS is a Very Bad Thing.

The hormone dump can make ANY type of hormone-based BC ineffective, NOT just the oral pills. Barrier time, folks. No one-timers, no partials, no "oopsies." And I don't care HOW much she says it's okay. It is NOT okay.

BTW, with hormone dump happening, you might get lucky and have the ******** lady on the planet, or she might find the mere thought of sex pukeworthy. Remember I said it's a rollercoaster ride? 

No worries about pregnancy.  I'm the one who carries the babies so it's not an issue. At least with having just had a baby in December I can kind of sympathize with hormonal imbalances and mood swings.

She put up with my crap for 9 months of pregnancy and a year of fertility drugs before that. If I'm not understanding about this, she'll probably kill me in my sleep.

Okey dokey, that definitely makes the BC thing much easier :-D. And since there's a risk of murder involved, I'm sure you'll do beautifully :-p.

This is an awesome post.  It should be added to the newbies list.  EN you're such an awesome source of info!

How lucky your partner is to have someone who cares SO much for her!!!  The vets here have wonderful advice.

Very refreshing to hear from you!!!

Donna

Excellent response EN!!  That's a keeper to save and repost.

OP: If it weren't for these vets, I would have also not focused on hydration when I got home. With their advice, I saved myself much grief.  I'm glad you are there to support your partner.

Hugs,
Ratkity