Ok stop now.
OK, just so you know, I' pre op, I'm still huge, I started with a bmi of 53 so my opinion may reflect that.
This is what I think. I believe that you are OK. You are still in the higher portions of the healthy bmi. I think you're freaking out because people aren't used to seeing you normal and you aren't either.
I don't know what your weight history was before your surgery, but I believe the fat ***** with our minds. If you were to see someone of the same height, build, and weight, you probably wouldn't think they were too thin.
I would worry when you break a bmi of 18, then you're underweight and then you have a real problem. I also read on these boards that there is a rebound gain after the loss phase. Maybe it's a good thing to go a little low now, granted I don't think a 23 almost 24 bmi is that low.
I think that you're also more upset because it was a doctor that made a comment to you rather than a mere mortal. I would try not to worry about it, because he could potentially be a hater only wrapped in a white coat. Just a thought. Even some of people's closest friends on this board throw a little rain on their weight loss parade. He just comes off as having more clout.
I wasn't fat my whole life, I got this way during my first pregnancy and it just never stopped. Until then I was 5'5" and I weighed 125-130 lbs. I was athletic and had amazing boobs...sigh...anyways, my point being that I didn't starve myself to be that way. I was very healthy and my bmi was between 20.8 and 21.6. I never had anyone telling me that I looked sickly or I needed to gain weight, if anything I was told I was FAT because I didn't look like the other string bean girls.
Here's the thing though, if I manage to get back down to that weight after surgery I KNOW that the comments are going to come flooding in. You look sick. You're too thin. Is your weight going to stop? You need to eat something. The really funny thing is that some of these comments will be coming from the same ******** that told me I was fat back in the day. Have I changed under all of this fat? I don't think so. Will I look different than way back when? I will because my perception and everyone else's perception has been me over 300 lbs for many years. Of course 130-125 is going to look super thin! Put someone that size next to me now and they'll look like they could walk a real runway in Paris with the best of the twigs with heads! We know in reality that they couldn't because those women are almost half that woman's size.
I also believe what others have said about skin needing to tighten up and all of that. Let your body catch up to the weight loss. My mother in law had the RNY and she was told she looked like a stretched out piece of gum. Nice. She has since redistributed and looks fine and the people around her have adjusted to the change. Now she receives comments that she's putting some weight back on. You just can't win my friend.
Bottom line, and sorry for the novel, I believe that you're fine and I saw the photographic evidence too. Sorry about your stress over this matter. I know stress all too well. I empathize with you dear.
This is what I think. I believe that you are OK. You are still in the higher portions of the healthy bmi. I think you're freaking out because people aren't used to seeing you normal and you aren't either.
I don't know what your weight history was before your surgery, but I believe the fat ***** with our minds. If you were to see someone of the same height, build, and weight, you probably wouldn't think they were too thin.
I would worry when you break a bmi of 18, then you're underweight and then you have a real problem. I also read on these boards that there is a rebound gain after the loss phase. Maybe it's a good thing to go a little low now, granted I don't think a 23 almost 24 bmi is that low.
I think that you're also more upset because it was a doctor that made a comment to you rather than a mere mortal. I would try not to worry about it, because he could potentially be a hater only wrapped in a white coat. Just a thought. Even some of people's closest friends on this board throw a little rain on their weight loss parade. He just comes off as having more clout.
I wasn't fat my whole life, I got this way during my first pregnancy and it just never stopped. Until then I was 5'5" and I weighed 125-130 lbs. I was athletic and had amazing boobs...sigh...anyways, my point being that I didn't starve myself to be that way. I was very healthy and my bmi was between 20.8 and 21.6. I never had anyone telling me that I looked sickly or I needed to gain weight, if anything I was told I was FAT because I didn't look like the other string bean girls.
Here's the thing though, if I manage to get back down to that weight after surgery I KNOW that the comments are going to come flooding in. You look sick. You're too thin. Is your weight going to stop? You need to eat something. The really funny thing is that some of these comments will be coming from the same ******** that told me I was fat back in the day. Have I changed under all of this fat? I don't think so. Will I look different than way back when? I will because my perception and everyone else's perception has been me over 300 lbs for many years. Of course 130-125 is going to look super thin! Put someone that size next to me now and they'll look like they could walk a real runway in Paris with the best of the twigs with heads! We know in reality that they couldn't because those women are almost half that woman's size.
I also believe what others have said about skin needing to tighten up and all of that. Let your body catch up to the weight loss. My mother in law had the RNY and she was told she looked like a stretched out piece of gum. Nice. She has since redistributed and looks fine and the people around her have adjusted to the change. Now she receives comments that she's putting some weight back on. You just can't win my friend.
Bottom line, and sorry for the novel, I believe that you're fine and I saw the photographic evidence too. Sorry about your stress over this matter. I know stress all too well. I empathize with you dear.
I was kinda freaking out last month too! I'm 9 months out and 161-165 kinda bounceing in there.... but the thing that scared me was my weight loss has seemed so slow to me and then in JUne/July BAM.... I dropped 27 pounds in 3 weeks!!! eeeks! I eat WAY more now and my weight loss SEEMS to have stopped for now. I DO want to lose about 20 more pounds eventually but damn... not in a week and then what if it doesnt stop or slow? LOL Im not really too worried now that it seems to have stopped but I was alarmed....thats a LOT to come off very very fast. I went from fat to thin in a month just all of a sudden. LOL
PS I miss you!!! I am sorry I dont post more here. :) I keep trying but I dont really have intnernet yet sicne my move a few months ago and my phone doesnt do much more then FB and not even well there.
PS I miss you!!! I am sorry I dont post more here. :) I keep trying but I dont really have intnernet yet sicne my move a few months ago and my phone doesnt do much more then FB and not even well there.
Been there myself, girlfriend. I got down to 18.5 BMI, did buttloads of carbs and enzymes etc. to try to stop it, and waited for the mystical 2 year rebound that everyone kept talking about... 2 years out, no rebound, 3 years out, finally got back into a normal BMI, 4 years out, guess what? I am fighting the extra 10 I have put on since Christmas, and more near the top of normal BMI, wishing I could fit into all of my cute 2-4 sized clothing.... That being said, are you doing probiotics? Also, make sure to add high quality carbs, not ones that are going to have you in the bathroom all day, that's not going to help! Whole grains, fruit, etc. Hang in there, it will eventually stop.
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