Going back home six years and 146 pounds later
doesnt it suck that you didnt have to explain why you put on the weight but you constantly have to explain how and why you got the weight off!! i encounter this alot lately and try to chalk it up to the society we live in but it still bothers me and i still find i hard to deal with. i bet you didnt think that you looking fabulous was going to cause such a commotion! by the way i love TJMAXX!!!!!!!
Ahh, Julie, I always love reading your reflective posts, this one especially. I'm glad that you got to show off. All the "big" comments were meant to be a stab, imo. **** 'um all who said so. They will forever be trapped in their visually-oriented, materiallistically-oriented, pecking-ordered small world all the while missing the freedom of really just being happy in the moment & not giving a **** what others think.
BTW, your last post about changing/ standing up more for yourself was the impetuous for my debate that past week on how to respond to a deteriorating friendship. She was cut loose. I only feel a sense of relief that it's over. I think that's even more "proof" that I made the right decision. It was a long time in coming.
Take care!
BTW, your last post about changing/ standing up more for yourself was the impetuous for my debate that past week on how to respond to a deteriorating friendship. She was cut loose. I only feel a sense of relief that it's over. I think that's even more "proof" that I made the right decision. It was a long time in coming.
Take care!
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I'm not so sure if the "big" comments were so much as a stab, but more like one poster said in that they think because I'm no longer big, it's okay to talk about me as if I was never there, had no feelings, whatever....like I've been disembodied or something, LOL. At best, they were thoughtless.
I'm happy that you were able to reach a decision about your friendship. I had to cut loose a friend of 35 years a couple of years back because of her drinking....it just got too difficult to be around and, even though I miss her, and I feel badly that it happened, and I hope that she someday gets help, I don't miss her drunkenness.
I'm happy that you were able to reach a decision about your friendship. I had to cut loose a friend of 35 years a couple of years back because of her drinking....it just got too difficult to be around and, even though I miss her, and I feel badly that it happened, and I hope that she someday gets help, I don't miss her drunkenness.
Julie R - Ludington, Michigan
Duodenal Switch 08/09/06 - Dr. Paul Kemmeter, Grand Rapids, Michigan
HW: 282 - 5'4"
SW: 268
GW: 135
CW: 125
Duodenal Switch 08/09/06 - Dr. Paul Kemmeter, Grand Rapids, Michigan
HW: 282 - 5'4"
SW: 268
GW: 135
CW: 125
Julie, I don't think you "think too much" at all.
It's frustrating. You've accomplished so much, your ambition soared through the clouds, you've beat every battle, you've got so many medals under your belt; but all anyone cared about was your friggin' weight.
It gets you thinking: Why did I bother? Why did I work so hard? No one cares anyway.
It's frustrating when you don't get your due attention for what you've truly done; the hardest things you've done (like being a piano teacher, the exchange students you've housed, the two great kids you've raised, et cetera). All they care about is that you shed some weight.
I feel your frustration and I'm angry for you because I KNOW that when I lose my weight, I'll be in the exact same boat. No one will care that work for the company I work for, that I go to school full time and work full time, that I'm the first to graduate college in my ENTIRE family and that I'll be graduating with honors and going on to graduate school. All anyone will care about is that I won't be so huge. Ugh!
It's frustrating. You've accomplished so much, your ambition soared through the clouds, you've beat every battle, you've got so many medals under your belt; but all anyone cared about was your friggin' weight.
It gets you thinking: Why did I bother? Why did I work so hard? No one cares anyway.
It's frustrating when you don't get your due attention for what you've truly done; the hardest things you've done (like being a piano teacher, the exchange students you've housed, the two great kids you've raised, et cetera). All they care about is that you shed some weight.
I feel your frustration and I'm angry for you because I KNOW that when I lose my weight, I'll be in the exact same boat. No one will care that work for the company I work for, that I go to school full time and work full time, that I'm the first to graduate college in my ENTIRE family and that I'll be graduating with honors and going on to graduate school. All anyone will care about is that I won't be so huge. Ugh!
All anyone will care about is that I won't be so huge.
Yup, that's kind of what I thought.....I felt like I was remembered more for my fatness than for other far more rewarding, validating requirements. A lot of people made the comment that I looked so happy. I was happy then, dammit! Am I happier now because I've lost weight? Absofreakinglutely, but it's a different level of happiness. Delighted might be a more accurate term. I have always been a deeply grateful, happy woman, despite my weight, but oh noooo....I look happier because I'm now thin! Grr!
Yup, that's kind of what I thought.....I felt like I was remembered more for my fatness than for other far more rewarding, validating requirements. A lot of people made the comment that I looked so happy. I was happy then, dammit! Am I happier now because I've lost weight? Absofreakinglutely, but it's a different level of happiness. Delighted might be a more accurate term. I have always been a deeply grateful, happy woman, despite my weight, but oh noooo....I look happier because I'm now thin! Grr!
Julie R - Ludington, Michigan
Duodenal Switch 08/09/06 - Dr. Paul Kemmeter, Grand Rapids, Michigan
HW: 282 - 5'4"
SW: 268
GW: 135
CW: 125
Duodenal Switch 08/09/06 - Dr. Paul Kemmeter, Grand Rapids, Michigan
HW: 282 - 5'4"
SW: 268
GW: 135
CW: 125
still it was your moment and you did shine like a shining star and I hope you take that away from the experience and forget the negative stuff.
1985 Verticle Banded Gastroplasty to DS revision 2010 sw 280 gw 140 cw 188 hw 360
“If the person you are talking to doesn't appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in his ear.?
Winnie the Pooh
Julie, you are always such a class act. I'm so inspired by your grace in this situation.
And, imagine the miserable inner lives most of these folks must have. *Being* them would probably feel more awful than how they acted--seeing as how they acted is only a reflection of what's going on inside, anyway.
And, imagine the miserable inner lives most of these folks must have. *Being* them would probably feel more awful than how they acted--seeing as how they acted is only a reflection of what's going on inside, anyway.
Jenn
Type 1 diabetic, 26 years
With great power (the DS!) comes great responsibility.
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on 6/14/11 8:20 am - Markham, Canada
on 6/14/11 8:20 am - Markham, Canada
You look GORGEOUS! I agree with all the other comments about those shallow "**** waffles" (lol I love that term). I'm so glad you got to rub your success in their faces!
I also want to smack all the idiots who couldn't stop commenting on how "huge" you were before. How dare they think it's ok to say all the hurtful things they thought of you just because you're thin now! Do people even THINK before they open their big mouths??? Geez!
With all that nastiness set aside, I have to admit, this experience of yours is one of my ultimate fantasies! I can't wait to stun all the nay-sayers and shallow idiots who think their smaller size makes them better than me one day with my gorgeous new bod! It must feel so good inside to have done that!
I also want to smack all the idiots who couldn't stop commenting on how "huge" you were before. How dare they think it's ok to say all the hurtful things they thought of you just because you're thin now! Do people even THINK before they open their big mouths??? Geez!
With all that nastiness set aside, I have to admit, this experience of yours is one of my ultimate fantasies! I can't wait to stun all the nay-sayers and shallow idiots who think their smaller size makes them better than me one day with my gorgeous new bod! It must feel so good inside to have done that!
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