OT My Father Passed Away today

Loretta W.
on 5/20/11 3:42 pm - Inland Empire, CA

I (along with some of my siblings) was with him through the night, snuggling as much as I could and he is just gone

I didn't know it would hurt so much, it was just so hard leaving him on the bed and walking away knowing I would never touch or see him again

what can I do?

He isn't suffering anymore, but part of my grief is that he did suffer

I love you Daddy

I love you so much

I can't breathe, I just want another minute with him

Kathleen F.
on 5/20/11 3:45 pm

DS on 01/02/01

My deepest sympathies. I understand completely. Big hugs.

Loretta W.
on 5/20/11 3:49 pm - Inland Empire, CA

It just hurts too much and I can't believe he is gone

I guess I will just go to sleep and feel better in the morning

kj80230
on 5/20/11 3:50 pm

DS on 07/28/10

Loretta,
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

(((HUGS)))) Kj

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BeSwitched
on 5/20/11 4:00 pm, edited 1/23/12 5:16 pm

sweetdew
on 5/20/11 5:08 pm - CA

DS on 12/08/10

I am so sorry for you loss during this time.....

Sweetdew

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zuzupetals2u2
on 5/20/11 5:14 pm - Sedona, AZ

DS on 12/17/10

the hurt will still be there in the morning and it will be with you a long time . . how you deal with it is going to be important after the DS as carbs can temporarliy sooth hurts. . .go easy on yourself awhile if you aren't perfect with eating . .but new coping skills might be needed. Talk it out to whoever will listen and dont be afraid to cry. Stay close to those you love and loved him too. Remember he will always be with you and part of you and be grateful for all the years you had him rather than focus on the loss. There is so little one can say at such a time as this. My Mom died 14 years ago and I felt like I lost my northern star and I almost felt like I had so much identity with her I had to recreate myself in a sense. It is definitely a time for great growth in life when your parents pass, especially if you were close . It does free you on some levels too. Any suffering he did is over now so keep positive thoughts. You will get thru it & it will get easier in time. Be glad you were there in the end and cherish those memories . .

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airbender
on 5/20/11 8:05 pm

I am so sorry for your loss, may you find some peace in your family and friends

southernlady5464
on 5/20/11 8:32 pm

DS on 01/24/11

I am so sorry for your and your siblings loss. The hurt will always be there but it will get easier to cope with in time. I lost my Mother in May 2002 and I still miss her terribly.

Take care of yourself and know we are all praying for you.

Liz