Dates..and not the surgical kind :)

I don't see the point in waiting.  You're far enough post op that you've settled into a routine getting used to your "new normal." 

Honestly, I know it sounds terrible, but you probably won't find your soul mate right off the bat, but every experience you have can be a good opportunity to identify traits you like and do not like to help you narrow down a future partner.

Just go date for the sake of having fun.

I say as others.   Go out, have some fun, identify what YOU enjoy doing, and go do it.   If you meet a nice fella along the way YOU decide if he's worthy of you, and not the reverse.   I have dated as an overweight person (not MO - like 185 @ 5'4)  and as a thin person.    I've never dated MO.     I met a lot of people at 185.    I had a pretty face and a curvy body that some men felt was too fat, and some felt was just right.    Some were ******** and some were pretty nice.     But, let me tell you, at 125, the playing field opened WAYYYY up.   It seemed that the skinnier I got, the more men chased me.   And I was 47!    I thought I looked old and wrinkly and that didn't seem to deter them one bit.   Men would try to pick me up pumping gas, at the grocery store, riding the BART in San Francisco.   It was bizarre.    Interestingly, the man I ended up marrying teases me and tells me that he would have preferred me at 185.   He likes a little meat with his potatoes, he says.    Oh well, he's not getting it, LOL.

Just get out and date. I actually dated more while in the WL stage than once I was maintaning, lol. But it helped me figure out what I like and want. Use this time to kiss the frogs, LOL.

Cause now I have more control over it all. As I know my body better and myself better.

Personally I usually say nothing about surgery, only two knew. One was a WLS (rny) patient himself and the other has never cared he just truely likes me (current guy). The funny thing is I was more intimate before my tummy tuck, lol. And no one ever said a thing about the skin. Men usually aren't as concerned about that kind of stuff as we are, lol.

Just get out and have fun.

Also if you want some good tips go to the Singles Forum. They are awesome over there. Its not a hook up forum, just tons of good info and no cliques.

 Just call them practice dates and go out and have fun.  You have a lot of catching up to do so might as well start now.

Have some fun, kiss some frogs, and learn.

Hee Hee Hee. I wonder what my last 2 exes would say if I told em they were just practice boyfriends LOL.

I had so much fun dating as I lost weight!!!  Why wait until you're at goal?  It is a personal decision, though, & I think that some people are uncomfortable with it or simply need that time to find themselves/ adjust to their new lives.  If you want to though, why not go for it?!

I will say, though, that if a guy is interested in you, unless he is painfully shy, he will make it known to you that he is interested, typically in subtle ways.  He talks to you when he doesn't have to.  He goes out of his way in a room of people to position himself to look at you & does so from time to time.  He talks to you a little closer than necessary with his body turned more fully towards you than away.  He will do a glance down UPON OCCASION.  Too much is disrespectful & is a bad sign, imo.  Etc.

You will find that the more weight you lose, the more attention you will receive, and the more options you will have.  Sad, unfair, yet true.  Just how it is.  Just accept it & move on - don't waste time on negative emotions if you can help it, is my motto.

In short, dating gets easier in terms of getting a date as you get thinner.  Maybe/ arguably it gets a little harder in terms of having to screen their intentions of dating because some people just want a "friend with benefits".  Most want more.

I was always upfront in my WLS on the first or second date, but not before.  I never had anyone walk away because of it.  The uniform reply was so long as you're healthy, I don't care.  Other people will only tell someone if the relationship is turning serious, past getting to know you dating.  If asked about not eating carbs, a lot of people just say they follow a South Beach diet.

I think you should let be, let be & have fun with it :)

I say go for it! Like the previous poster said, you aren't marrying anyone right away.  So have a little fun.  Even at the weight I am now, I do a lot of dating.  I think its the confidence I have that attracts men.  I dont show my insecurities.  So I am scared how it will be once I get back down under 200#.  Watch out now!

Lashelle, you are hilarious!

Shavonne You're Cute! 

 aww...thank you!

Such awesome replies. Thank you all so much for your advice. I definitely want to get out there and have fun. I'm not looking for a fiance right now or anything like that. I'm just SO nervous getting back out there, lol.  I think I'm going to make my move on this guy and ask him out, ahhh!!!  Wish me luck, lol!