New to Group looking into GB to help with diabetes
Hi I am new to this group... I have met with a surgeon and I am a perfect low risk candidate for RXY surgery, I have all the comorbitities that go with obesity but yet I am not "that" big. My husband is supportive, and my friends, but my family is not. I am lloking for otheres who have had this issue and how you handled it. I know I am going to be successful at this but they just say what got you to this point is all your fault and why put yourself through this to fail. I cannot get them to understand that it has TONS to do with the diabetes which will resolve after surgery. They don't get it, and furthermore they have no idea what it is like to be married to medication, it runs my life!!!! From having to remember refils to shopping around to filling my pill organizer every 2 weeks! It sucks. I have to hoard extra medicine for when we go on vacation because if I am to run out while we are gone, I am screwed! Anyhow, My husband is my biggest cheerleader as he has seen me deteriorate in the last 3 years at a rapid rate. If I have his support I can be confident in my decision to have procedure done. I just wish I could get them to understand!
Congrats on getting this far with it and on considering ways to make things better for you! I am a Type 1.5 diabetic so I certainly understand the idea of being "wedded" to medication. I had RNY in September 2011 and things are definitely improving. Because I am the type that I am, I still need insulin at every meal, but I have significantly reduced oral meds and made some very positive headway in reducing the amount of insulin I need. It's still a little bit of a moving target, but I'm definitely moving in the right direction. I did this to improve my overall health - and not for weight loss. That was not my motivator and still isn't.
I think the most important issue is that YOU want the surgery and understand what you are getting into and then, of course, your husband too. Everyone else? It doesn't matter. They are going to judge you regardless of what you do. And, if they are saying the kinds of things now that you say they are, they are not supportive of you now either. So, are you really losing anything? When they see results, they may change their tune or they may not. Again, does it matter? I don't think so, but you need to answer that question for yourself.
My mom used to say, "if you are picking on me, you are leaving someone else alone..." I agree. I also think that it's so easy to judge, rather than turn the mirror on yourself and challenge yourself to grow and change and be better. That's a comment about your family, not you, by the way......
Best of luck to you and keep posting and moving ahead. This is a big step. Ultimately, YOU are the one who has to take it and keep investing in yourself and your success. No one else.
I think the most important issue is that YOU want the surgery and understand what you are getting into and then, of course, your husband too. Everyone else? It doesn't matter. They are going to judge you regardless of what you do. And, if they are saying the kinds of things now that you say they are, they are not supportive of you now either. So, are you really losing anything? When they see results, they may change their tune or they may not. Again, does it matter? I don't think so, but you need to answer that question for yourself.
My mom used to say, "if you are picking on me, you are leaving someone else alone..." I agree. I also think that it's so easy to judge, rather than turn the mirror on yourself and challenge yourself to grow and change and be better. That's a comment about your family, not you, by the way......
Best of luck to you and keep posting and moving ahead. This is a big step. Ultimately, YOU are the one who has to take it and keep investing in yourself and your success. No one else.
When I first considered looking into wls, the first person I told was my husband. He was all in because he knew how important it was for my health(diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholestrol, the works). Basically that's all I needed. Next I told my kids the rest of my family and my closest friends. Fortunately, no one had any objections but it wouldn't have made any difference, I had my husband behind me and he was the most important. Everything has gone great and my health problems have been resolved. NO ONE else lives your life and it is your life and up to you how you live it. Your health is everything. Do what you feel is right for you.
Hi, I am 5 weeks out of my RNY and my bloods are in normal range with no medication, I still have to take care of what I eat and drink, orange juice and yogurts will raise the blood level so you will still be looking at the products that you buy to check the sugar content, also even after the op, we have to stick to a low calerie diet, but saying that, it has been worth it, just to be med free. Karen x
Gas By Pass Jan 28th 12, I live in London, England.
Diabetes type 2 gone, Bloods in normal range with no medication! I am one happy bunny.
Hi & welcome! I'm so happy that you're putting your toe on the first brick of your WLS journey. 
I am type 2 diabetic (or I was). I'd been on every oral medication you can mention over the past 15 years & they never ever brought my glucose down below 150 fasting. And have you noticed how many oral medications for diabetes the FDA has pulled from the market?
When I started on insulin (4/2010) I was taking 20 units Lantus every night. At that time my fasting glucose without insulin was 349. I was up to 90 units insulin 2 days before my RNY 2/28/12 (living proof that diabetes is a progressive disease).
When the surgery was done & I was taken to my hospital room, my glucose was 127.
My endocrinologist has me on 20 units of Lantus a night to bring my glucose down around 80-90. I just started on that 3/21/12. I'm off my blood pressure meds & my high-cholesterol meds.
When I told my husband I wanted to have RNY, he was all for it because of the diabetes, & because he knew how miserable I was with my health AND my weight (looks, clothes, social limitations, etc.). I told my son (college freshman now) & he was happy about it because the diabetes would be improved.
About a month before my surgery, though, he came to me & said, "Mom, please don't have the surgery. You look great. You're beautiful. I mean it. Please don't do it."
This didn't bother me because I knew it must have just sunk in that I could die. I told him that this was something I had to do & that I'd put years of thought & prayer into the decision. He's been 100% on my team since then.
When I told my 32-year-old daughter I was considering the surgery, she had a complete & utter fit. She yelled, lectured, shook her finger, blah blah blah. She got her weight genes from me, & I think she was just incredulous that her OLD mother might not be fat anymore (she's never known me any other way). This was about 18 months ago, & my daughter & I are estranged now for many reasons. Sad, but hey, this is MY LIFE & MY JOURNEY.
My mother? My siblings? FORGET IT. I wouldn't tell them. They are all petite & skinny as a rail & always have been (my sister, 2 1/2 years younger, is a size 0 & cannot stand how fat she is when she sees photos of herself).
I look at it this way: I gave the first 50 years of my life to my extended family. The next 50 years are for ME.
I am type 2 diabetic (or I was). I'd been on every oral medication you can mention over the past 15 years & they never ever brought my glucose down below 150 fasting. And have you noticed how many oral medications for diabetes the FDA has pulled from the market?
When I started on insulin (4/2010) I was taking 20 units Lantus every night. At that time my fasting glucose without insulin was 349. I was up to 90 units insulin 2 days before my RNY 2/28/12 (living proof that diabetes is a progressive disease).
When the surgery was done & I was taken to my hospital room, my glucose was 127.
My endocrinologist has me on 20 units of Lantus a night to bring my glucose down around 80-90. I just started on that 3/21/12. I'm off my blood pressure meds & my high-cholesterol meds.
When I told my husband I wanted to have RNY, he was all for it because of the diabetes, & because he knew how miserable I was with my health AND my weight (looks, clothes, social limitations, etc.). I told my son (college freshman now) & he was happy about it because the diabetes would be improved.
About a month before my surgery, though, he came to me & said, "Mom, please don't have the surgery. You look great. You're beautiful. I mean it. Please don't do it."
This didn't bother me because I knew it must have just sunk in that I could die. I told him that this was something I had to do & that I'd put years of thought & prayer into the decision. He's been 100% on my team since then.
When I told my 32-year-old daughter I was considering the surgery, she had a complete & utter fit. She yelled, lectured, shook her finger, blah blah blah. She got her weight genes from me, & I think she was just incredulous that her OLD mother might not be fat anymore (she's never known me any other way). This was about 18 months ago, & my daughter & I are estranged now for many reasons. Sad, but hey, this is MY LIFE & MY JOURNEY.
My mother? My siblings? FORGET IT. I wouldn't tell them. They are all petite & skinny as a rail & always have been (my sister, 2 1/2 years younger, is a size 0 & cannot stand how fat she is when she sees photos of herself).
I look at it this way: I gave the first 50 years of my life to my extended family. The next 50 years are for ME.
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