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Topic: RE: A car with no reverse
I agree that there are negative consequences to dwelling in the past, especially when the devil wants to use our past mistakes to torment us, and cause us to lose our focus, God's awesome grace.
But there are times when it is necessary to discuss the past in therapy to learn what unconciously is triggering inappropriate reactions to present day stressors. But once resolved, it should be given to the Lord, and then claim the victory in Him.
Hugs,
Trish
But there are times when it is necessary to discuss the past in therapy to learn what unconciously is triggering inappropriate reactions to present day stressors. But once resolved, it should be given to the Lord, and then claim the victory in Him.
Hugs,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: A car with no reverse
A car with no reverse is a big problem! For us Christians we shouldn't go in reverse. Going reverse for us is a no-no, we need to always forge ahead to our goal, which is to be more Christ like. We can't go forward if we are looking backwards. So we have to let go of those past issues and look forward to our ultimate goal. When we try walk ahead but look backwards you can trust that we will fall. So to avoid that fall keep your eyes forward at all times.
God bless!
Karen
God bless!
Karen
Topic: RE: Washing away sorrows
Thanks ladies! I feel so sorry for kids that aren't allowed to cry. My grand daughter's mom always told her to "suck it up" or "quit being a baby" and now as an adult it's hard for her to cry when she needs to because that always rings in her head. Her mother was and still is an addict and has mental health issues that she refuses to acknowledge much less deal with, so GD has had a rough life till she was grown enough to live with us.
Topic: RE: Washing away sorrows
Hi Karen,
I used to cry at the drop of a hat. My family used to call me "Tiny Tears" after a doll I had that would cry real tears. I was hypersensitive and manipulative and used tears as a ploy to get sympathy. So, now that I have been in therapy for a long time, and in more control of my emotions, it is rare when I cry.
There have been occassions when I would be going through some stuff, and I would be singing the praise and worship songs on a Sunday morning at church, and the tears would just fall. That is when I am worshipping from my heart.
But, I do have occassions when I am extremely tired, and angry, or hurt, when I cry. I had one such occassion recently when I had an argument with my Mom, and I called my dear friend, Ruth, and just cried. I was grieving the reality that I never had, nor will I ever have, a relationship with Mom where I am loved unconditionally. Mom is bipolar and had her first breakdown shortly after my birth. We never bonded, and she was hospitalized when I was an infant. I never felt close to Mom at all.
Sorry to babble. This was a good topic.
Hugs,
Trish
I used to cry at the drop of a hat. My family used to call me "Tiny Tears" after a doll I had that would cry real tears. I was hypersensitive and manipulative and used tears as a ploy to get sympathy. So, now that I have been in therapy for a long time, and in more control of my emotions, it is rare when I cry.
There have been occassions when I would be going through some stuff, and I would be singing the praise and worship songs on a Sunday morning at church, and the tears would just fall. That is when I am worshipping from my heart.
But, I do have occassions when I am extremely tired, and angry, or hurt, when I cry. I had one such occassion recently when I had an argument with my Mom, and I called my dear friend, Ruth, and just cried. I was grieving the reality that I never had, nor will I ever have, a relationship with Mom where I am loved unconditionally. Mom is bipolar and had her first breakdown shortly after my birth. We never bonded, and she was hospitalized when I was an infant. I never felt close to Mom at all.
Sorry to babble. This was a good topic.
Hugs,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: Washing away sorrows
How many of us were told big boys and girls don't cry? My parents weren't too much that way but I know plenty who were. Try this on for size, even Jesus wept! If weeping were not a good thing and part of life God would have made us incapable of tears. There will be a day when we weep no more but not here on earth. Tears are healing and cleansing. Ever have a good hard cry? Afterwards I always feel like a weight has been lifted, I'm truely exhausted and actually feel more peaceful. Sometimes we don't even understand why we cry but even if it's just to release tension it has its importance. If our own Lord and Savior wept who are we to think it isn't neccesary. So when life wears you down and you can't see the top of the hole try a good heartfelt cry to God for the best relief you can get!
God bless!
Karen
God bless!
Karen
Topic: RE: Are you ready?when
I'm so impressed with your journey Trish! I know you battled for so long and like you I really just don't even think about much less want alcohol anymore. It just has no interest to me. I'm really thankful for that. I think the biggest reason I drank was to get rid of the horrendous pain I have. I didn't do it to get drunk or to run from issues, it just was the only way to stop or ease the pain. Since I've gotten proper pain medication I have no interest and don't have any inclinations to abuse the medication in fact I've been on the same dose for several years. I still have considerable pain but it's tolerible. You have been one of the best blessings from this forum. Hope we can always stay friends.
Topic: RE: Are you ready?when
God has been working on my behaviors for many years now. I never thought about my drinking being something I would not want to meet the Lord doing before. If I had, I probably would have stopped sooner. My relapse lasted about two years, where I would get a couple of months sober, and then drink myself into oblivion for a week to ten days. They say that alcoholism is a progressive disease, that gets worse, and mine did just that. I am so grateful that God had me place two phone calls on January 14th. First one was to my drug and alcohol counselor. The second one was to the therapist I have been seeing since 1989. Both suggested I go to an inpatient facility. My therapist told me to go to the emergency room, and I went to a crisis center that admitted me to a psych ward of my local hospital first, then from there, I was transferred to an inpatient drug and alcohol rehab. I was gone from January 14th to February 1st, with my first day of sobriety being January 15, 2010.
I am grateful I don't have to drink anymore. The obsession to drink was lifted while I was in the hospital that time. I have had no desire to drink, and I am grateful that God lifted the obsession for me.
Hugs,
Trish
I am grateful I don't have to drink anymore. The obsession to drink was lifted while I was in the hospital that time. I have had no desire to drink, and I am grateful that God lifted the obsession for me.
Hugs,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: Are you ready?when
Everyday in life we say we are getting ready, ready for work, ready for school, ready to see a friend. However are we ready for the most important day of our life? Are we ready for the day Christ returns?
I used to be a big drinker and dabbled with drugs in the way, way back days but one of the things that changed that was when I accepted Christ because I didn't want to be wasted when He came back. I stopped the drugs entirely and cut way back on the alcohol to an occasional glass of wine with dinner when going out. Now because of this and my pain meds I have had 2 whole drinks in the last 4 years. Like I say the biggest reason I made the effort to clean up was that I didn't want to have to face Jesus on that day and be mentally impaired.
This isn't the only thing I have to work at to change but it was one of the biggest. God reminds me often of this behavior or that behavior that needs work because I don't want to be doing that when Christ returns. God is continuing to grace us with more time so that "all should come to repentance". So don't waste this precious time doing what we should not be doing, work at living in a way that will be pleasing to our Lord upon His return.
God bless!
Karen
I used to be a big drinker and dabbled with drugs in the way, way back days but one of the things that changed that was when I accepted Christ because I didn't want to be wasted when He came back. I stopped the drugs entirely and cut way back on the alcohol to an occasional glass of wine with dinner when going out. Now because of this and my pain meds I have had 2 whole drinks in the last 4 years. Like I say the biggest reason I made the effort to clean up was that I didn't want to have to face Jesus on that day and be mentally impaired.
This isn't the only thing I have to work at to change but it was one of the biggest. God reminds me often of this behavior or that behavior that needs work because I don't want to be doing that when Christ returns. God is continuing to grace us with more time so that "all should come to repentance". So don't waste this precious time doing what we should not be doing, work at living in a way that will be pleasing to our Lord upon His return.
God bless!
Karen
Topic: RE: Life is a roller coaster
Babble away that's what friends are for! I know what you mean about not being able physically to do things. I have the same problem, I didn't really realize how bad it was until recently it dawned on me that I hardly go anywhere or do any of the things I've done in the past. I used to be so active, loved nothing more than to spend the day outside working in the yard or helping around the church. Now because of my lungs and gimpy body I can barely walk from the parking lot to the church and working outside is impossible can't walk that far without losing my breath. I have a scooter that was my mom's but no way to get it into the car to use it! So here I sit, knitting and crocheting, at least I do something constructive. I'm making a bunch of doggie sweaters and hope to sell them at the holiday bazaars and such. Will just have to see how that goes.
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