I need a freind

Hi I have posted here a few times because of the fear thing. I sit her today felling like i'm alone I need someone to talk to I feel like i have made such a mistake in having this surgery from wondering what if something goes wrong to what if I lose my insurance and cant get my yearly checkups. Do people who have gastric bypass always have to go to the doctor or do they get to live normal lives I just dont know. I want to live a normal life I have dreams thats why i had this surgery so I could do some of those things. I dont mean to ramble but I feel so confused. I am making my hausband nuts i think. All i have done is cry sense I got home.3 weeksago. If anyone would be willing to talk to me and pray for me I would so aprreciate it.

Dear Eliza, My name is Renay. And I don't usually post. But I know how you feel. I had wls in aug.04. And I feel great! Praise the Lord. But I know right after I had it I had the feeling Oh no what did I do. But that pass and you start feeling great. Sometimes I get lonely because I don't have any support. I had my wls about 100 miles from home. So I don't have any support groups to go to. But you will live a normal life. Just give yourself a chance to heal. And don't try to do to much. Take the time to rest and let the Holy Spirit comfort you. And about the ins. I don't have any, and I haven't in a year. Not the smartest thing to do. But right now that the way it is. I just trust the Lord for all my needs. When I can get ins I will but until then I pray, but I haven't had any problems. And if you need to talk you can e-mail me. I would love it. And I will be praying for you. In HIS love, Renay

Hi Eliza. I'm Glendie and while I have only just begun researching WLS I wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you. Yours in Him, Glendie

Eliza, What your feeling is normal. Everyone has their doubts right after surgery. "What did I do?" "How am I going to live like this forever?" I am 2 mons post-op and can tell you this gets so much easier with time. Within the next 2 weeks you will see a positive change in your outlook. In the meantime you just have to rebuke this spirit of fear out of your life. Fear is not of God therefore it should not dwell within you. If you are allowing fear to rule your life, where's the room for God?? You need to cast your cares on Him (Psm 55:22) and He will give you peace (Php 4:7). God bless, Dawn

Eliza, I am sorry that you are having these thoughts and I don't think any of us want to make light saying that "these type of feelings are normal after WLS." Have you discussed this with your surgeon? The foresight of the pscyhologist and surgeon had me start taking an antidepressant 6 wks before surgery until about 2 months after surgery. It helped so much. No matter how much I read and educated myself before surgery, I was not prepared for the emotional feelings and grieving for the loss of "normalcy" in my life. It does get better for most people as the body heals....hopefully, so will the mindset. Try to exercise, do diversion activities, and, of course, spend time in prayer and devotion. God's strength is evident in our weakness. He is faithful and will sustain you through this if you allow Him control. Dear God, I pray for Eliza just now. I ask that you comfort her and that her anxieties be relieved through your awesome Power. Take control of her worries and provide her with her needs this day...Help her to rely on your strength...... Give understanding to her husband and family....draw them all close to you and each other.......in Jesus name. Amen.

Eliza, I pretty much agree with what everyone else has said. What you are feeling now is pretty typical. The first 6 weeks are the worst. I also had to take anti-depressants for a while after surgery. I am 6 mos out now and I feel like I am leading a very normal life. I eat normal food. I go out to lunch with my friends. I just eat much less and always have a togo box. Some things will always be different. We have to eat more often now which is the biggest change for me. I actually feel like I am always eating or drinking now. The doctor's visits will slow down but not for a year or so. Then we should just be going for yearly checkups. If you are like me, you never got yearly check ups before. Hang in there. Call your doctor and tell him how low you are feeling and see about the anti-depressants. Also, make sure you are walking as much as you can. Getting out and moving around really helps. Everything WILL get better and you WILL get back to normal. We are all praying for you! Love, Jacinda

Eliza~ You have gotten great advice from these lovely ladies and we all care for you very much. Good and valuable info, especially the anti-depressant thing, (something to think about). I went on a low-dose anti-anxiety med, which is something I never thought I would do. I wish I had considered it as an option sooner. During your first year following the by-pass, you should keep in close contact with your MD's and visit regularly. Then after your first year, you should be having an occasional visit for blood work and alike. I see why you feel that life is just one big doctor visit right now. It took a lot to prepare and get to this point, (ie: tests, evaluations and so on), and you've only been out of the hospital awhile. You are over the biggest hurdle now and things will return to normal soon. The only thing that has changed in my life in regards to my eating habits is that every meal feels like a Thanksgiving feat. I still put way too much on my plate and, well, uh, kinda miss stuffing myself and tastin' everything. But the blessings and benefits far outweigh that. Food had always been my enemy and I was overjoyed when it finally was conquered and out of my head. Prepare for battle - you're goona do great. Also, one important thing, your biggest need, (salvation), has been taken care of and the rest is just details. Finally, we would love to be your friend, and, yes we will pray for you dear one. In Christ~ Sally

Hi everyone!!! I wanted to say Thank you to everyone who posted a reply to my post. I also wanted to tell you guys a few things about my self an my relationship with God. I guess so you guys would know that its not like me to be this way all time an to see a differant side of me an get to know me. So here goes. I was born in Arkansas and lived there most of my life until I was a married adult then we moved to california in 1998. My dad abandoned me when I was born an i've seen him a few times through my life the last time I seen him was in 1996 I havent seen him sense and Have know idea where he is or even if he is alive. My mom remarried and and it was to a very abusive man who abused me verbaly and sexualy. My mom divorced him when I was 12 and I didnt see him again till I was 21 my mom remarried him and he was in my life again God did alot things of through this whole experiance. He died in 2004 but befor he died he came to the Lord we had forgiveness between us an he showed me the dad he would have been if he had gotten Jesus when I was a child. I got saved when I was 8 It was an amazing experiance I was slain in the spirit an spoke in tounges all at once I never felt such complete love an peace an joy in my life I never wanted to leave that place where I was at with just Jesus. I loved him at that moment an I new HE loved me and HE WAS REAL!!!! Know one would ever be able to convince me other wise! My relationship with Christ kept me together trough those times growing up. As a teenager I experianced alot of suicidal thoughts and tried a coulpe of times first time when I was 9. I was sad and depressed growing up from all the things that had happened. I got married when I was 17 I was not pregant just in love I married the youth group leader at my church I loved him at first sight. We were so young and so stupid neither one of us had a job or any money I was In LOVE!!! an so was He. I got prgant 3 months after we were married. I know! What was I thinking but Im so glad i did I have a beautiful daughter shes now 13, I also have 2 sons 12 an 8. I've been through everything you can think of though in my marriage. We both back slid really bad. I cant belive what Gods Grace is for those He LOVES!!! He brought us both back. I love him more now than ever God completely restored my marriage and My husband is so in love with me an I him. He is my biggest cherring section and he calls me his rockstar. We've been married now almost 15 years. We are part of our leadership at church and i am a worship leader at church God gave me the gift of music and he also gave me art I paint prophetic pictures now. God is so awsome that he can turn things around so much. We still have struggles but now its finacale we are in alot of debt $15,000 worth my husband got disabled and we had to use alot of credit cards. You know how that goes. We are thinking about seperating are family for 3 months so me and my kids can go stay with my mom in arkansas and my husband can stay here in california with some freinds so that we can not have rent and he can work alot of overtime so that we could get a savings so we can move an pay off some debt but we arnt sure that is what God wants so we are in waiting stage we need a break through finacialy. I had this surgery because I've been over weight my whole life (obese). I got up to 310 thats big. I want to be healthy but most of all active I want to get a job and help support my family. I am now as you guys know in the recovery fase an its hard all the questions I wish I would have had before the surgey but hinde sights 20/20 . im doing great physicaly but mentaly not so good thats my bigest struggle now, but after reading this I know God is faithful to me hes always been there for me. Im sorry Lord for forgetting. Thank you guys for taking the time to post replys and thank you for reading my story. Elizabeth

God Bless you Elizabeth. You definitely came to the right board. That is how the Lord works, isn't it. I just wanted to let you know, in regards to the insurance, alot of the more reputable surgeons offices will see you even without insurance, and not charge you or keep it low. The better practices want to make sure you are getting adequate follow up irregardless of whether you can pay. So if you are ever without insurance call and explain your situation. Even if you move away from your surgeon. Others who take their work seriously will also want to see you, and make sure everything is going well for you, even if you weren't originally their patient. Yours in Christ, Heidi L-S