Need peace from God

Today is my first time posting messages. Someone named Sally (thank you, Sally) suggested I try this forum. I have been approved for WLS, but my mom and brother are totally against it. In fact, my mom said she would never speak to me again. I have had complications with 2 previous surgeries (of the female type) and am naturally apprehensive. I believe my God is an awesome God! I am 51 years old, mother of 5 (one 13 year old still in the nest) and a grandmother of 10! I want to have quality of life again so I can be active with my youngest son and grandchildren. After 21 years of marriage, my husband left (with a girlfriend). Over the last 12 years I somehow allowed depression to consume my life and the weight piled on my once small body. God is setting me free spiritually, mentally and physically! Yet I am freaked out about proceeding with this surgery because I do not want to get out of God's will. If this is God, I need His perfect peace. Pray for me. Sher

Sher, I will be praying for you. This isn't a decision to make lightly. God will lead you in the right direction. Just trust in Him. Shel

Shel, What kind of person cares enough about some stranger to pray for them? I know...you! Thank you sweetie. The peace from our precious Lord is exactly what I want and need. Until He gives it, I will stand still and know that He is God! Sher Lo

Dear Sher, If you are approved, then you've taken some time to think about WLS and fill out quite a few forms to reach that decision. I'm sorry that your family is not behind you, while I know concern is there, my hope is that if this is what you know you need and want, then feel confident in moving forward. When someone asked me critically about the risks of surgery, I asked her to consider the risk of me weighing 350 pounds, and I appreciated the concern, but knew deep down that right now this decision is right for me. I'm praying that God will bring me through my surgery on Oct 18th and I will pray for you that you will find peace in your decision, and strength to move forward with that decision. Sounds like you have a wonderfully large family to live for!! Cynthia

Cynthia, Thank you for your words of wisdom. You seem at peace about your upcoming date. I will definately hold you up in prayer on Oct. 18th as well. I can not believe the kindness of members on the website. I do not feel so alone now. God bless you! Sher Lo

Hi Sher Lo Glad you joined us here and welcome. It's sounds like you have a few things to sort through. God is with you all your days. I am a little biased b/c both the surgery and my life have changed so much, for the better. You do have other medical issues to be concerned with and no one heals the same. The longer you wait, the older you'll be though, something to think about. I wish I had seriously looked at it five years earlier. I will pray for you, for clearer understanding of God's will in this matter. One thing....take heart dear one, a Mom isn't going to disown her child over something like this. She is probably a bit fearful, that's all. She'll be there for you if needed. We love you, Sally

Sally, Are you the same Sally who sent me to this forum? If so, I did spend the rest of the evening reading your profile. It took hours. But it was very enlightening. You are such a beautiful person, both inside and out! Thank you for taking the time to help me. God bless, Sher

Hi Sher! I know exactly how you're feeling. It wasn't until God reassured me THROUGH HIS WORD that I knew, that I knew, I was in His will. ( I share the Scriptures in my profile.) I will be praying for you in your decision. Remember, seek the Lord...acknowledge Him in all your ways...and he promises to guide and direct your every footsteps...HE PROMISES!!!! Cindy

Cindy, I just read your profile, and I am weeping as I respond to you. I understand that your surgery is coming soon and I want you to know that I am praying for you as I write and will add you to my prayer list. What a sweet and precious spirit you have. Your DH sounds so wonderful! God has richly blessed you, Cindy. When I read about your health issues, I almost feel ashamed of myself for being so selfish and thinking only about my own decision. The thing that we truly share is our love for Jesus. We serve a mighty and powerful God, don't we? I really hope to hear from you again. God bless you, sweetie! Sher Lo

If God leads you to it He will lead you thru it. Is your mom over weight??? I can not believe a mother would stop talking to her child for having surgery to improve her life.. It was proabley a fear of the unknown reaction. show her the research you have done and tell her of the many success stories. I am almost 50 and this has added YEARS onto my life and given me the chance to do things I have not been able to do in YEARS!! Good luck and God Bless. Linda