an uncomfortable situation

This morning I caught a man, who I have worked with for years, checking me out. I was stunned and, well, confused as to how to handle it. I pretended not to notice. It was probably the best way to handle it, I guess? But as a Christian, I felt somewhat strange and uck! I don't know how to handle it when men flirt. It actually scares me and want to run for shelter and cry. I 'm not over dramatizing, honest. I really do panic when it happens. I'm pretty modest really, and don't want to come across like a prude, egotistical or something. I had been obese 8+ years, with the self esteem of a worm. And I lack confidence, don't want to go the other extreme, by acting like a total conceited jerk, ya' know. I don't trust my own ego either. I am certain the Lord will protect me from myself, I love my husband very very much, I would never commit adultery, (mentally or physically), and am grateful for the WLS. I guess my question is, how do I stop myself from feeling utter panic when some schmuck is just flirting? And how do I keep from making a mega fool of myself by reading too much into harmless situations? I know, I sound so dumb! I'm so glad you guys are there to read my ramblings. Thanks be to God!!!! A child of the Living Lord, Sally

Hmmm, a difficult question, but I think you answered it best! Just ignore it! Remember that their behavior is their choice...and no reflection on you whatever. God gave you your body and you are taking care of it, it is beautiful and you should feel good about that. Others will appreciate your beauty and that is ok...as long as their appreciation comes in appropriate ways. When someone pays you a genuine complement, be they male or female, smile and say thank you. If someone makes an inappropriate comment...which unfortunately, some will, ignore them and continue on about your way. If ignoring them isn't possible, just tell them you don't appreciate their comment, then continue on your way. A stranger (male) approached me in a gas station parking lot and asked me if I was married. Without stopping, I continued to get into the car and said "Yes, I am" he asked "Happily?" and I said "Yes, very!" He said "Too bad, cuz you look good enough to eat". I didn't acknowledge the last comment at all, I just left. He may have thought he was complimenting me, but I didn't get a warm fuzzy feeling from that! Stay safe, love yourself, and don't worry about the behavior of those around you! Susan

Susan, Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your comments. Sally