Can take no more abuse please help me.

I had my surgery on April 13th my so called husband of 8 months said he would be supportive of me but in reality hes not since the surgery I have had lost of complications and still not able to do to much. My husband is so verbally abusive I dont know what to do I meet him in church but hes really turned out to be bad. He yells at me and cusses me out he says im lazy and stupid and makes me do things im not suppose to do. He got mad at me because I needed him to take me to the hospital and I was so dehydrated i needed 2 ivs but because he lost sleep he made sure he told me about it. He is a alcaholic and addict and i cant take no more I am praying the lord please help me remove me from him. Please help me if you have any words of wisdom and pray for me and my kids. mary

MARY HON, I WILL KEEP YOU AND YOUR KIDS IN MY PRAYERS. BUT YOU HAVE TO PUT FEET ON YOUR PRAYERS. I WAS IN AN ABUSIVE MARRIAGE FOR 21 YEARS, AND I FELT IT MY DUTY AS A CHRISTIAN TO HANG IN THERE, BUT I WAS WRONG. MY HUSBAND WAS MENTALLY ABUSIVE TO ME AND THE KIDS AND HE BEAT THE KIDS TERRIBLY. THE ONLY REASON I BELIEVE HE DIDN'T HIT ME WAS BECAUSE I HAD FIVE BROTHERS. ONE NIGHT I FELL ON MY FACE ON THE FLOOR AND PRAYED UNTIL GOD GAVE ME AN ANSWER, I WAS THERE MOST OF THE NIGHT. WHEN HE TOOK THAT BURDEN AWAY, I FELT LIGHT AS A FEATHER. NOT KNOWING WHERE OUR NEXT MEAL WAS GOING TO COME FROM OR ANYTHING, I TOLD MY HUSBAND HE HAD TO LEAVE, AND THIS CALM CAME OVER ME THAT WAS UNEXPLAINABLE. WELL GOD HAS TAKEN CARE OF ME EVER SINCE AND THAT WAS 22 YEARS AGO. I DIDN'T HAVE A PENNY WHEN WE DIVORCED AND GOD TOOK CARE OF ALL MY NEEDS. I NOW OWN MY OWN HOME. GOD SHOWED ME HE DIDN'T MAKE ANYBODY TO BE ANYBODY'S DOORMAT. IT WILL ONLY HURT THE KIDS THE LONGER YOU STAY. I NEVER BELIEVED IN DIVORCE BACK THEN, BUT THE WAY GOD ANSWERED ME AND TOOK CARE OF ME, I KNOW ONLY HE COULD HAVE DONE ALL OF THAT. THERE IS HELP OUT THERE FOR YOU HON. JUST KEEP PRAYING THAT GOD WILL SHOW YOU A WAY OUT, HE GAVE US ALL A BACK BONE AND EXPECTS US TO USE IT. I PRAYED FOR MY HUSBAND 17 YEARS SOLID, AND ITS LIKE GOD SHOWED ME SOME PEOPLE JUST DO NOT CHANGE, AND HE GAVE ME THE STRENGTH TO GET OUT. I'M NOT SAYING THAT THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO, JUST SAYING TO LISTEN TO GOD SPEAK TO YOUR HEART, WHEN I LOOK BACK, I KNOW HE TOLD ME TO MOVE ON LONG BEFORE I DID. US WOMEN HAVE A HABIT OF TELLING OURSELVES WE CAN'T MAKE IT ON OUR OWN, WELL I'M LIVING PROOF THAT YOU CAN AND WILL.(PRAISE BE TO GOD) AND NOTHING OF MY DOING, IF IT WAS ME, I WOULD HAVE STILL BEEN THERE AND TAKING THE ABUSE. AND NOW HIS 2ND WIFE IS GOING THRU THE SAME THING, THEY HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ABOUT 15 YEARS OR SO WHICH BY THE WAY, SHE USE TO BE MY BEST FRIEND, BUT I DON'T PITTY HER BECAUSE SHE KNEW EVERYTHING I WENT THRU. HOPE I HAVE HELPED IN SOME SMALL WAY. JUST KEEP SEEKING GOD FOR THE ANSWER, HE ALWAYS KNOWS WHAT'S BEST. HUGS, AND GOD BLESS YOU, TRUDY

Mary, continue to ask the Lord for guidence and we'll pray for you.

Mary, Being verbally abused is very hurtful to you and your children and can lead to physical and sexual abuse. It is not your fault! Nothing you do gives him the right to treat you this way. You said he makes you do things you are not suppose to do...I'm not sure what that means but it sounds dangerous. Please seek help for yourself and your children immediately. The domestic violence hotline number is 800-799-7233, it will connect you with a program in your area where people are trained to assist you. Their website is www. ndvh.org (take out the space) You are not alone! Please feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to. Whatever you do, please seek help. I will be praying for you. Susan

Mary, Susan gave you some good sound advice! TAKE IT! RUN! God does not intend for HIS children to be mistreated or ran over. I'm praying for you! Randall

Dear one, I left my first husband during the Christmas holidays in 1983, when my kids were 2 and 4. I lived in a women's shelter for 45 days. It wasn't easy to leave my alcoholic husband, my beautiful home and financial security. But I had to spare my children the thoughts that our life was "normal". I didn't want my son to believe hitting his wife was acceptable. And I wanted my daughter to be cherished by her husband, not beat. The safehouse/shelter was awesome in helping me prioritise my steps. They counseled me through my own thoughts, (which weren't real sane sometimes). I was blessed with finding a way to move onto a better life. Struggles and obstcales still happened. However when the stress was there, I wasn't getting abused or yelled at in front of the sweet children God blessed with. The quietness of my life was precious during the days that followed. So Mary pray on it, prepare yourself physically, since you are still recovering from WLS, consider calling the Hotline #, and seek God's guidance. He loves you, he wants you and the kids to be safe, happy and healthy. Email me anytime. I'm praying. Sally