5 days to go and NOW my hubby is mad?!

I have been preparing for this WLS forever, and now the time is getting close... my hubby is upset, he says that when this is over I will leave him, that I will not be the same person he married. I have read all the info I can handle in the library of this site, but darn it - its almost all negative, I mean, I am committed, have been for 13 years and have 3 girls, I just dont see myself going anywhere - he is MO, and thinks I will change so much he wont be able to keep up with me... and like he said tonight, "yeah, you will be better at doing laundry too, huh?" (I never was good at keeping up with the laundry) He is afraid this will make things worse around here, all I do now is lay on the couch and eat, it has no where to go but better! Am I crazy for wanting to do this if he is being unsupportive? Hes hurting my feelings here - how do I cope with this, I need to stay positive to recover quickly and he is making it sooooo hard! anyone have any suggestions on how I can convince him I am not going anywhere???

Lisa, Maybe....he's afraid of the whole big thing. I mean he is probably started to recognize that this is seriuos surgery. He loves you dearly and is afraid of raising those three little ladies by himself. Try to re-assure him, but don't let his insecurities keep you taking care of yourself. I'm no licensed pyshc., so I'll have to put up disclaimer. No guarantees. Just trust God and seek his will. Good Luck Sally p.s. Is he willing to pray with you?

I am sure all I have to do is ask, maybe I should start there...it is so hard when I am mad at him... I need support right now, not criticizm and I al ready feel out of control, I want to do this and heal quickly so he sees all will be ok...

My wife has said the same thing. She is afraid that I am going to leave her for someone else. I told her she should be secure enough in our love for each other and my love for God, that I won't do that! This is only the devil putting thoughts in their heads. Rebuke it, pray for them and put it in God's hands. Tell your hubby this is for your health. God Bless, Randall

Amen ... I agree with you Randall. Georgeann

Lisa, only two more days to go. How are you feeling? How's your hubby doing with this situation. Geri