Dealing with Depression

Hello everyone I just found the Christianity Forum its nice to see that there are others with the same beliefs on this wounderful web site. I've been dealing with depression now for 6 months or more & I'm on medication and I've been a lot better but I just can't get myself out of this funk. Here it is another Sunday morning and I sould be getting ready for church but I just don't want to go. I hardly want to do anything anymore. I've gain so much weight this last year and I know that it hasn't helped my depression not to mention my cousin had WLS in December and that really pushed me over the edge. Jealously is an awful thing. I've gotten over that and I'm very happy for her not to mention that she looks awesome. I guess one of the reasons I haven't been too eager to get up for church is I don't have a lot of friends there and the ones that I do have are either married w/ childern or single moms. Sometimes I feel that my church is too clickish. I'm single never been married and have no childern and I just don't seem to fit in that well but I'm not ready to change churches. Well I'll not say anymore. Thanks for letting me vent. Just keep me in your prayers. Debbie

Dear Debbie, What medication are you on? If you are still so depressed that you do not want to get up and get dressed, then something is wrong. It is possible that you are on the wrong meds or not enough. Also, you do realize that you have an enemy? he does not want you to succeed. If you are not finding friends in your church, then perhaps it is time to find another one BUT if you still have the same baggage, then you will just take it to another church. Are you reading your Bible? Praying everyday. It is in the prayer closet that we become overcomers. Nothing can take the place of God in your life. He wants to be first. Take tiny baby steps. Go to the Psalms and read 10 verses. Tomorrow read 11 and so on. The word of God is strength to us. Don't give up. Are you able to have the surgery? If not, why not? Love, Gena and God is for you and not against you.

Debbie, Sometimes we know all of the things that we need to do. It is doing them that sometimes chokes us up. It is just a matter of crusifying the flesh. I know it is easier to type than to do. I am right there with you. I have a tendency to be jealous. I have to remind myself that it is only an act of the devil to be in that state of mind. The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvaiton, my stronghold. Psalm 18:2 I will be saying a prayer for you and I will put you on my prayer list at church tonight. I know that your depression is just the devils way of trying to keep you down and I will pray that those strongholds be broken and rebuked from your body. Keep us updated and so we will know how to pray. If you need to talk to someone email me anytime. Take care of you and God Bless. Shannon The Irish Lassie 266/223 -43

I know this was directed to Debbie, but thanks for sharing the scripture Shannon. I needed to hear it this morning as I am struggling with my daughter. She is nearly 20, raised in church, and knows right from wrong, but she is currently dating an unsaved young man and doing and saying things that she knows are wrong; justifying her behavior in order to be with him. I did get a great opportunity this weekend to speak with her at length and I am reasured that she KNOWS she is out of God's will and KNOWS that she needs to get her life straightened out. Now I just need strength to hang on and trust her to God's care and calling again, just like I did when she was little. Thanks for reminding me that God is my rock...unmoveable, unshakable, and everlasting. ((hugs)) Julie

Julie, I am sooo glad that the Lord was able to work through me to help you. I give Him all the praise and the glory for any good that is within me. I have a word for you Julie. Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Prov. 22:6 I will be in prayer for you and your daughter and the young man that she is seeing. I will be praying for his salvation. Take care of you and God Bless Shannon The Irish Lassie

Hey Debbie! I know very well how depression can keep you from doing things. I agree, if the medication isn't working..you need to talk to your doctor..they may be able to adjust it or change it for you. Have you joined any small groups at your church? Like choir or something? That's what did it for me. I know what you mean, a lot of my friends have kids or husbands or both. I am also single and my daughter is grown and lives in Michigan. I live in Modesto, so we are not far away. If you would like to email me, maybe we could exchange phone numbers and get together sometime?? Also...there is an awesome worship service at our church this Friday night, June 4th. It is open to anyone, people come from all over, it is a community wide worship service that is held the first Friday of every month. It's called Generation Worship and this month is Worship in the air and is being held outdoors. We did this last year and it was the most awesome thing to be outside and praising God under the stars, I can hardly describe how cool it was. I attend Calvary Worship Center here in Modesto, it's on the corner of Briggsmore & Coffee. Email me if you would like more info. God Bless You Debbie! Sara

Debbie, I read youe profile and I'm so sorry your having so much trouble. I live in Citrus Heights (Sacramento) and I am a pre-op and I have my appt. with Dr.Coirin this month. I heard that UCDavis is accepting patients as long as your not Medi-Cal I know this because they are my Primary Care Providers but wont see me for WLS because of my Ins. Please dont give up, I have gone thru a bunch of things trying to get this far... just read my profile be patient and smart and dont give up you can do it. Hang in there and Good Luck! JB

Debbie, I think you will find that a lot of people here completely understand how your feeling. It took me about 7 months to finally get my WLS. There were many many bumps along the way. I would be reading many profiles here and they may have started their journey and got their WLS in 2-3 months! I was happy for them, but I was very depressed and wondered when my turn would come. With lots of prayer and LOTS of patience it finally did come. I understand about the clothing thing. I was raised that you dressed nicely for church. I have always felt that you needed to wear a dress to church but I haven't been able to wear one for at least 6 years now. I just wear my every day clothes. Although the everyday clothes are clean, they still are not a dress. I just can't get comfortable in a dress and I hate that. Although, I hope soon I will be able to fit in one and be comfortable. As far as a church, what religion are you? If you are a christian, there is a church of Christ in Lodi that you can go to. They are wonderful people there. My brother and his wife go there (they have a almost 4 year old girl), and I know some other families there that are wonderful. There is no judgement there, just love. If you are interested, email me and I will get you in contact with them. Also, there is a gathering that will be going on Saturday June 12th. We usually have it somewhere in Modesto, but this month it is at a house in Sacramento. It will be at a lady's house called Connie Sue. EVERYONE is welcome to come. We would LOVE to have you there. Please email me, and I will give you the specifics on it. Another thing, I am a volunteer for OH and I am in charge of helping people find an angel. Do you have an angel? I have an angel that would be just perfect for you. Please let me know and I will get you in touch with her. An angel is someone that can give you GREAT support before and after surgery. Anyways, Debbie, I am praying for you. Please let me know if I can do anything for you. Also, there is a great CA message board you can go to for support. It is a very active board and everyone is so very kind and supportive there. Brenda T email: [email protected]

Dear Debbie: I pray this message gets to you, either via e-mail or through you reading it here on the post. I know a little bit about what you're going through. I've have had my own battle with depression, off and on, for several years now. Sometimes it lasts a few days, sometimes it lasts a few hours. Once it lasted six months. It hits harder at some times than it does at others. It's a very disabling feeling because even getting out of bed seems futile. Why? Why get up when there's nothing to get up for. It's a feeling of hopelessness and complete withdrawal. I started forcing myself to stop thinking about what I was feeling and focusing on what was important, but even that didn't help all the time. But God has taught me a very valuable lesson that even today, when I get depressed, I use. It sounds simple, but it's alot harder to do than you'd think. When you're at your lowest or any time you're feeling down, and don't want to do anything, lift up your hands and begin to praise God. You'll have to force yourself to do it at first, but it gets easier. Praise him over and over again. Before you know it, the spirit of God will begin to flow and you'll begin to feel so good inside. When we focus on Him, we don't have much space in our minds to focus on us. Well, I hope this helps. It works for me and I'll pray it works for you, too. Good luck Sharon

Hi Debbie, I know exactly what you are going through. Recently I missed almost 2 months of church because I just couldn't get up and get dressed and go. I have a difficult time with depression and I had to increase my dosage on my meds. Now I feel like, "Boy, whatever was the problem?" The fog has lifted and I can actually see the sun again. I definitely agree with the other sisters that you need your meds adjusted. I recently posted a message where I was discouraged because my Sunday School class is clickish and I never get invited to coffee dates with the skinny pretty women. It is so hard when you are with Christians where we are all suppose to feel loved and welcome. Well, my loving brothers and sisters on here reminded me that they are all just human too and trying to make their way in the world, so pray for them. I will pray that you will find a singles group that can minister to you. As for the envy of your cousin, why don't you use her as an inspriation? Look at her and think, "That's going to be me someday! I am going to have WLS and look fabulous too, soon!" Love ya and praying for you my sister! In Jesus love, Sherri