Update on Prayer request

I am finally able to post about my prayer request. I still need lots of prayer as wisdom as to what to do. I got an anonymous phone call from someone telling me she saw my husband in a bar with another woman and this is not the first time she has seen them together. I know of at least 3 women that he has been involved with over the last 4 years. I talked with our pastor and we confronted him last night. He admitted to his guilt but does not care what God says. We have 4 kids ages 15-5. Our pastor said I have grounds for a divorce and have the churches permission if need be. Right now I need to stay put until the end of the school year. Then I have to decide what to do. My parents have a house that is sitting empty so this is an option but it is 7 hours away. I feel bad taking the kids from their grandparents but I can't let them live in that kind of situation.
We have been married 16 1/2 years.

My heart breaks for you in this situation.  My husband left me in 2001, but he did not cheat on me till after he moved out.  At least he was honest with me about that. 

It sounds like you are thinking through your options concerning separation.  I will pray for you, as you make these very difficult decisions.  In the meantime, I would suggest you pray for your husband, and your kids, as I will also.  Your family is in a lot of pain right now, and God can move, even in your husband's hard heart.

Hugs,
Trish

My kids know nothing about this. My husband does not want to work things out. He wants to live a lie. I can't do this. I would be willing to try and work things out, go to counseling etc but he is not willing. We could tell he was struggling last night but he is very stubborn and very against God right not. He stopped coming to church with us about a year ago making up all kinds of excuses. You know very well he is feeling guilt but is going to fight it with all his might.

I will be praying for you, the kids and your husband and your parents. This is not an easy thing to go through. Praying for peace for you.


In Christ
Karyn

What a difficult situation you are in, I'm sending prayers that God will guid your family. God bless!

I sure hate to hear that you're going through this very painful situation, Barb. You must do what seems right to you, for yourself and the children. You may need to let your 15-year-old know what's going on, so he/she will see the need to leave.
Your husband has fallen to the lies of the enemy, and, sadly, this happens all too often in marriages. Satan hates the family. God's plan is for the "husband [to] love [his] wife as Christ loved the church," giving himself, sacrificing himself.
It's clear that the Holy Spirit is working on your husband, and perhaps having you and the children 7 hours away will help him to see how much he misses his family. If not, the Word says, "Let the unbelieving one depart."
The Lord will give you the wisdom and strength to get through this. Don't let it steal your joy, and, ultimately, "the joy of the Lord is your strength." Show your kids what living in joyful strength looks like. You can do this.
I continue to pray for you. Please keep us updated, so we know you're doing all right.
Blessings and a BIG (((Hug))),
Mary

I have been told by one of his brothers to kick him out tonight. I have his family's total support. I will talk to the kids tonight. I need some sleep.