new sgry date the 6th...question

I am blown away. I was so scared the doctors office was going to call right before my surgery and tell me they were pushing it back. I have seen this happen to a lot of people, but this morning Dr. Williams nurse called, her first words word, I have to reschedule your surgery I almost started crying and they she said we are moving it up and then I was rejoicing, one less day I have to wait to be on the losers bench. i was reaching everyone else who is having it done of the 6th and I too am an emotional wreak. I am irritable, getting mirgraines from stress and alergies are not helping, my mind wonders to this mostly. "Does this surgery have the ability to shorten my life span over all?" I have never read anything about it one way or another. I really thought about it and had to realize it is not about how long you live but the quality of life you have. For the last 5+ years I have had NO LIFE and have slowly pulled myself out of the human race. I have become someone I don't like very much. i am looking forward to having myself back, even though I know I will be different in a lot of ways. My family is not used to me taking care of me. This is the first time in my life I have felt enough love for myself through Gods eyes that I want to take care of me. I have a question for everyone. Does anyone find that over spending and binge spending seem to go hand in hand with obesity. I know in my family it has. I have heard a couple of people mention it, so I am curious if others have this simiar problem. So, it looks like I am sharing my new birthday with a lot of people so I am excited about that. My angle has not contacted me in a long time, I don't know how to get a hold of her so I need a new one. Anyway 1 more day of regular diet before my life changes. i have a 2 day bowel prep where I take a bunch of laxitives and can only have clear liquids for two days. i am blabbing now I am just so excited I can't put it into words. Love Trish

Dear Trish, I don't have all your answers, but I know The Lord led me to have this surgery at the exact time that I did - only 3 months ago. It will not cure our compulsions, it will/does make us feel full in a shorter peiod of time than we used to (if ever- I can't remember ever feeling full the way I do now). It can make certain foods less enjoyable, at least it has for me. Please email me at [email protected] & we can go into more detail. I can relate to what you're saying, but need to go to a meeting now. God Bless, Laurie

Hang in there you'll make it. I'm so excited for you, this is going to be a whole new you soon. Just imagine how great it'll be to do the things you haven't been able to for so long! I'll be keeping you in prayer and you deserve the very best life God can bless you with. Best wishes. Karen

Trish, How exciting.....I certainly believe that all timing is God's timing.....You are in my prayers. I was born to shop.....I do mystery shopping which helps some with my "hobby" Seriously, though, my closet is only full because my size is stable....I rarely "outgrow" anything any more...which is great. Blessings, luvitsunnyv

Trish, First let me say congrats on the new date. Monday is a great day for surgery and starting over. I really don't know if the surgery will legthen my life. Like many people on this board, it really isn't why I had it. It was about quality of life. I was 'checking out" also. Now I find myself volunteering at my church again, stepping up and helping my family more. No longer afraid of someone saying things about my weight behind my back. All in all I have to say I am very happy. Now I do think that it is easy for people to follow their compulsive behaviors over to another dangerous area. I hear people all the time talking about how that now they have more self esteem they are leaving their marriages, or going out to bars and meeting strangers. This to me is very dangerous. Another one you hear a lot about is drinking problems. Also shopping problems. Many different ways to abuse yourself. The key for me, and I am offering this advise to you is to find a Christ-centered 12 step program. I use Celebrate Recovery. Every day I am working my steps to find a way to leave my problmes/baggage at the foot of the cross. This sight has been a blessing to me. I try to check in daily (not always successful, but I know when I am failing). I don't think you are thinking about these things today because of fear - I believe that it is the prompting of the Holy Spirit warning you to prepare now. Well that is all I have time for today. I am very excited with you and wish you nothing but an uneventful surgery. No drama, No trauma. Just Peace and Blessings from our Lord. Sally