A confession

I also attend a celebrate recovery program and I can honestly say it helps me stay forcused on the way I want to be. Now as for you husband. You do not mention the ages of your kids but you look young so I will assume that they are not grown adults. Please do not discuss your husband with the kids. No matter what he does, he is their father - the man you chose to father your kids. Their assessment of him may be spot on, but it is improper to listen to them talk this way. Encourage them to pray for him rather than talk about him. I would like to suggest that perhaps you need to separate from this man for a season. Your children are being damaged by this. My husband and I separated about 10 years ago and after a month of my praying for him, being kind and yet firm in what I would no longer tolerate as a married woman, I can say we reconcilled with great success. Oh - and he had a few complaints about me as well. I don't know if that is the path you will take, but I do know that you are not required to play the martyr or to sacrafice your children. Just remember that you can not "start seeing anyone" until he divorses you - but that does not mean that you have to stay bound to a man who is cruel. As for you last statement that if something goes wrong you will need him - well I don't see how he can be the horrible person you say he is and then suddenly become the "source of strength in your time of need". You are fooling yourself - either in how he is or how you think he will be. Time away may be the best answer for now. I will keep you in prayer. Sally