Past friendship problem..please help

Ok lets start with the first thing. I have only been living for God for 2 years and I, therefore, have past friends that live lifestyles I no longer agree with and I am unsure what to do. My ex-best friend is a lesbian. I didn't know that when we became friends but before I fell in love with Jesus I accepted it with no questions. Today she called me after over 2 years. Her father is dying and she wants me there. What would you do? I do not want to be unkind to her, but I do not want to watch her and her girlfriend kiss all over each other either. Any ideas?

If it were me, I would probably go. Sometimes we are the only Jesus others may see. Maybe you could go for a little while and if it starts getting too uncomfortable then you could leave. Just an idea. Sorry I do not have any words of wisdom. Shel

I would go. I have very few friends in this town (almost all my friends live away) and almost all of my friends are gay. And all of my gay friends are Christians. I figure their sex life is between them and God. When we are together, we don't discuss my sex life and we don't discuss theirs. I would go and if you feel uncomfortable, like Shel said, I would make an excuse to leave. But just being there will help your friend and let God's light shine on her. Good luck, Joni

I think that you should still support your friend. I am seeking God still daily...some folks may disagree with me, but I feel I can still seek God without being against certain things that most Christians are against. I have never had a problem with homosexuality. My personal opinion is that the only difference between gay folks and straight folks is what we do in the dark! People are people in the end. Yes, God may judge them for it later, but that is not what we are here on Earth to do. Show your friend some love...she needs you. Losing a parent is so difficult. God is love, right? Show that to your friend in her time of need. I understand though, you not wanting to see it...frankly I don't want to see ANYONE make out, regardless of their orientation! Valena

I am pretty sure the homosexuality is a sin and is state so in the Bible. I am also just as sure that gossip is a sin and so is over-eating (I put food before my God - but that is another discussion). You probably can see where I am going with this. You have not forsaken your friends who commit these other sins, why would you forsake this friend. My second point is this. You do not say that they believe in Jesus as Lord, so I will assume that they are not saved. With that assumption I do not hold them to the standards of a Christian. If she was a Christian I would go to her and share that she is not walking with Christ in this, same as I would go to a gossip or an adulterer. But because she has not committed herself to Christ I hold her only in love - as Christ loved the world. Do not judge the world, this is God's job, but rather show the love of Christ. She is simply a "tax collector". My good and dear friend is a lesbian. She is constantly amazed that I "don't treat her like other Christians" treat her. I have explained again and again that my desire for her is to know Christ and when she knows him, he will convict her heart. I am not her Savior, just a messenger. Bring your friend the message of love. In His Grip Always, Sally

Wow Sally, I like how you said that. Valena

In agreement with you Sally. Kim M.

Ahh, those are the words of wisdom that I knew someone would have. Love you Sally. Shel

Sally said it best. I would go. I have a few friends who are gay or lesbian. My own son admitted to me years ago that he is bisexual. I didn't disown him. I told him there was nothing he could do that would make me stop loving him, and that he knew what scriptures say about homosexual behavior, but I still love him and Jesus loves him more than I could try to. Right now, both he and his brother live with girlfriends. I still visit them, and treat them with love and respect. Love her and treat her the way Jesus would treat her at this time of need. Hugs, Trish

Thank you all and you are all right. Thanks Sally-you have such wisdom in those few words. Actually my sister is gay and I still love her and she knows the scriptures. I do not hang out with her though because they are very open about their relationship and I just think it is rude, gay or hetrosexual, to make out in front of other people. My friend though is not like that and is out of the closet but not in your face. I remember years ago having to explain to her that the word sodomy comes from Sodom in the bible. She simply does not know nor does she care to. I will go to see her and love her as always. Thank you again-Amy