Jealousy

I can relate. My feelings are less jealousy and more embarrassment. I am embarrassed that I let myself get that large and stay that large for so long. I think about if I had contained myself in the 200s I would have a much easier path and not all the loose skin I have now.

Like someone else said, I basically ignore the people that start around 250, they get under 200 in 2 months and act like they have completed a magic trick.

Starting as high as I did, at 370, and trying to lose 200 pounds seems like I am just in the losing phase forever. I am actually getting tired of it. I would like to build a wardrobe again. I can't get attached to any clothing or shoes because soon they don't fit. I know these are good problems to have but after almost 2 years I am over it. I just want to get to my goal weight, or just chill where I am.

I can never get used to my new body because it is still always changing. I'm over it.

I sometimes see those posts and want to punch them in their gloating faces.

There, I said it.

OMG, after reading everyone's posts, now I don't feel so bad! I've noticed myself doing the same thing...wow, goal weight in 5 months...oh, wait...they started at what I weight now...pffft!

I know it's harder to lose weight at the lower numbers, but right after surgery (if you do everything right) most of us are cutting our calories down by 75% or more, so the initial few months will drop weight fast lol.

However, when I look at someone who started at a similar weight, then I DO get jealous--thinking darn it, why have I not lost that much by the same time?? My logical head knows everyone loses at a different rate, and age, metabolism, and diet...yada yada yada...have bearing on that as well. But my emotional, still thinks it's fat, head says "WTH?" Then I try hard to shake it off and just be happy with my progress so far--I mean I haven't weighed this little in 28 years!

I've only told 2 of my sisters and their families (my wonderful support system!), and my 4 BFFs. I decided to wait until after my 6-month follow up to let extended family and friends in on it. My baby sister is taking new pictures of me next weekend, and then they go on Facebook. I have one nephew to let in on the secret first (who I haven't seen in over a year), and will be having dinner with him week from Monday. He's going to be so shocked, as I've been SMO his entire life (he will be 30 this year). I'm not sure he will even recognize me when I see him!

P.S. Also, funny thing is, as long as I've lurked and been on this site, I swear I never saw the BMI Over 50 group until Gwen mentioned it in a post today. I knew there was a Weight Loss Surgery Over 50 forum (which is also me lol) but never saw this one for some reason. Glad she did, it's nice to be here!

I was a pokey loser - one of the residents told me that during my six-month follow up. Not what I wanted to hear. I was really afraid that I wouldn't lose it all, but I did. I just stayed super compliant, and it eventually all came off. I'd love to see the look on that resident's face now (and punch it, too!)

Wow, that was kind of rude of them! There's a reason for the saying "slow and steady wins the race!" Looks like you did it, so they can go jump in a lake! Congrats!

thanks! And yes - that's what I thought, too - what a rude thing to point out. I'm also female, older, post-menopausal, and lost 57 lbs pre-surgery - all factors that can affect weight loss rate (i.e, slow it down!). If he was comparing me to younger people - or males - well yes - of course I'd lose slower. Jerk!

I hear that...I turned 57 two months after surgery lol

I would just like to say you are awesome! Your preserverence should be commended and still losing after 3 years is total dedication! Please don't take anything away from your amazing work by comparing. You have the makings for LIFELONG success. I'm not a fast loser but i'm not slow either and i ride the wave...i know i need to be able to ride the wave with more maturity if i want to make it in the long haul...some people who lose weight fast also tend to get discouraged fast (imo)...that's a slippery slope. Keep doing you! You are inspiring!

i was one of the fast loser. BUT i want to say does not matter if you started at a higher number or a lower number. it is all about the work that you put into it. I am proud of myself and the success stories that i read on this blog. I agree with Laura that it is always inspiring to read of the hard work people are willing to do to keep the regain monster at bay. I do want to be here in 10 years writing about the work i have put in to continue to make this wonderful tool i have a success.

so please jealousy is not what i think of when i see a tag where someone weighs less then me, or started a different weight then me. I say more power to you. You are a rockstar!!!!

RNY best thing i ever did for myself.

Well, here's my thought on that ... why stop at being jealous of the people who lose their weight in a year. Be jealous of the people who never got fat in the first place. Be jealous of the person that's wealthier than you. Be jealous of the person who's prettier, has the more attractive husband, has the perfect kids, has the perfect life. After all that jealousy ... what does it get you? Are you happier? Of course not. Does it help you meet your own goals in any way? Nope.

The truth is that you really do need to learn to be happy within yourself because there is always someone is WORSE shape than you. Someone who is probably looking at your situation and wishing it was something they had for themselves.