Went into my doc's office the other day

Yup! I'm just gonna let the haters hate. I am trying to keep my life positive.

You have to keep positive. This is your journey so you do what you have to do.

There are not enough adjectives to describe how inhumane that woman was.  I want to poke her with many sharp sticks until she takes it all back.  Good grief.  

About that judgement you feel when you walk into a room - I know that feeling!  If I remember your ticker right, our starting weights are in the same ball park. 6 months ago, if I needed to choose a seat in a waiting area,  I would try to sit as far away as possible from anyone else because I was embarrassed to exist. Yes, I have issues.  

Now, 6 months after surgery, I have two examples of choosing a place to sit in the last couple of days.   In one instance, I chose a comfy chair that was located smack dab in the middle of everyone else.  No one batted an eye.  

The other time I chose a freaking wicker chair WITH ARMS and I CROSSED MY LEGS.  Oh, and I was wearing a normal sized robe at the hair salon instead of my usual who-knows-how-large robe I needed in the past.  The who-knows-how-large robes are a different color from normal size robes.  So. Everyone knows.  It is like sized based caste system.  But, I digress. 

I am, of course, still obese.  But, I literally fit into society now. (Unfortunately, in America, run of the mill obesity is pretty common.)  You are going to feel better very, very soon!   This next 6 months will go by so fast.

Maybe that woman-thing has some awful digestive issue that she will still have in 6 months. I am sure she will still be stuck with her dreadful personality forever.  

Best wishes, 

~Shel

I can sympathize with you as i was a BIG GIRL prior to surgery. I've been called fat b*tch by both strangers and my own brother. Have people look at me googly eyed. People not wanting to sit next to me in public and little kids asking their moms why I was so fat. It did hurt to hear and experience all those things and very upsetting and now that's i've lost the excess weight, i find it hard to adjust at times. Of course the truth hurts (except i'm no B) but, why the hell do people, perfect strangers at that think it's their right to say hurtful things to others is beyond me.

So many judgemental and plain rude people out there and it's hard to ignore at times but you just have to bru**** of and move on. Sorry you had to experience that and good luck with your surgery.

She was rude... There will be so many victories along the way, focus on them... Good Luck next week, before you know it, you will be on the other side :)

I would have asked how much weight she had lost and after she said it would have responded, "Wow you were HUGE!! I hope you keep listening to the doctor so you do not gain it all back."

I'm sorry she hurt your feelings. Honestly, I do want to shake some of my friends and tell them to DO SOMETHING!!

The older I get, the more I realize that not taking care of our health is very selfish. Our loved ones are the ones who have to carry the burden of taking care of us when we have a heart attack, or stroke, or other health problems that we could have prevented by taking care of ourselves. I do not want to be a burden for my kids. That is my inspiration now. (and yes, I realize things still happen to seemingly healthy people who do everything right but thee is a lot we all can do).

Focus on the future and learning good habits to improve your health. Do not let others get in your way.

Yeah, she was a *****  But the world is full of them.  The thing I keep going back to is that she did not say anything incorrect, she just shouldn't have said them at all.  I guess the thing that ticks me off is that in our lives there are struggles we can hide and struggles we can't.  We can't hide our struggle with weight, and when it is plain as day for people to see they often feel it is well within their right to discuss it.  Definitely not the case, but they just keep interjecting.  

I just want my struggles to be hidden.  LOL

I am so sorry you were subjected to that woman's completely inappropriate behavior/words. Words do hurt. 

I've had experiences like that and always feel so badly about myself afterwards. I'm sorry you had to deal with that! Most of the time it's been with strangers or Dr's making rude, horrible comments but sometimes family or supposed friends. The absolute worst is when in your mind you're agreeing with them. I hate that **** :( 

I think my worst was when I had cancer and heard that some so called friends were discussing me saying that they couldn't believe I was going through chemo - shouldn't I be losing weight? (When actually a lot of people gain weight during chemo due to steroids they give you)

I worked really hard to convince myself I didn't care what anyone else thought but it was never true. 

Good luck on Friday!!

Honestly I don't think she said anything wrong to you. I think your perception of what she said to you is skewed so it appears negative. Of course I was not there, so I couldn't have seen her body language and whether or not she was sneering with contempt at you with beady squinting little eyes. Assuming that is not the case then maybe she was just trying to be encouraging and supportive. Of course you would be embarrassed, I would have been mortified too! But if she has never been in our condition then it may not have occurred to her to so blatantly point out the elephant in the room (ha ha that works two ways for us huh) would be embarrassing and unkind.

Really my point here is don't always assume the worst, though I know exactly how you feel and I probably would have perceived it that way at the time, or even if I didn't think she was being mean I still would not have thanked her for it. We know we are big fat roly poly land orcas, the less people draw attention to us the better right?

One thing I hate about my family, my mom being the main offender, she would point out people who were fatter than me and say "See you aren't that bad off, at least you aren't like that guy." As if that was going to make me feel any better, it just made me think about what I must look like to be compared to this other huge dude and made me depressed.

Anyways, point being, she may have unknowingly been mean when she might actually have wanted to be supportive.

However if she had this curly mustache that she kept pulling straight to have it snap back and she rubbed her hands in a sinister fashion then yeah she's just cartoon evil.