Need Encouragement

Thank you. :) I am looking to get the VS done. Right now I am working on getting back on track after a horrific weekend.  After months of eating so strictly and really enjoying it, I was shocked at the results on the scale so I ate a few things that I hadn't had in a long time.  Now, I am trying to just get it all out of my system so I feel clean and healthy again. 

Next weigh in is 2 weeks away, wish me luck.  I will shoot for a 10 pound goal and start using my fitness pal today, I think that's the one I used before with great success. :)

Losing weight is not easy.  I'm sorry you're feeling so defeated, but DON'T GIVE UP.

I know you said you hate tracking what you eat, but statistically people who do are more successful long term in losing and keeping the weight off.  After a lifetime of eating whatever and whenever you want, you have to face your food demons and be honest.  I use My Fitness Pal to track everything I eat, and it's one of the key reasons I've lost as much weight as I have.  Also important is to measure your food quantities.  I thought I could eyeball them, but I was never even close to being accurate.  In fact, I would double what I thought the portion amount was until I started weighing everything.

I cook a lot of protein heavy meals in a crock pot, then portion out and freeze the leftovers so I always have something on hand that I know I can eat.  I bring these to work for my lunch and they are delicious!

I know that you feel you can't do any exertion, but you need to move.  Even the smallest amount of exercise will help your body begin the process towards losing weight.  My highest weight was 449 pounds, so I understand what it's like to be in instant pain once you get your body off the sofa.  My knees would ache, my back would ache, my feet would hurt , but even if I walked to the end of the block I was making an effort.   After my surgery, I bought a recumbent bike because I knew my knees couldn't handle the pressure.  Maybe you can find one and try that out.  No pain on your joints and you can do small sessions throughout the day.  Now I enjoy walking outside every evening for 2-3 miles and all my aches and pains are gone.

Don't focus on the huge milestone of 128 pounds.  It's too overwhelming and you will concede defeat.  Think in terms of every 10 pounds.  That's achievable through diet and exercise.

You deserve a better life.  Step up and seize the moment.  Small changes will make a difference, but you're the one who has to make those changes.  I hope you find the motivation and determination to try again.  Your life is valuable.  Don't give it up  

Thank you. :) 

I appreciate the encouragement. 

Beautifully said.  

Shirley

I don't usually post on. This forum,but happened to see your post and wanted to respond. 

When you say you have given up Nearly,all sugar,what does that man? What sugar items are you still consuming?

you say you don't want to goon shakes because the real world will always be there,and this is true,but you have to take things one step at a time. You can. Give up real food  and use shakes for a period of time and relearn how to eat in the real world when you. Get there. You are going to have to learn a. New way of eating after surgery anyway if you are going to be successful. 

So,given up all the foods you have given up,what is a day menu look like for you?

if I needed and WANTE d to lose 128# to qualify for surgery, I would have 5-6 protein shakes a day, and a large salad with some kind of meat on it at dinner. I would have all the chicken/ beef/vegetable broth I could drink and all the sugar free jello and pudding I wanted also. 

If you are eating carbs,even so called "healthy"ones,they are going to stop any weight loss. Our bodies are lazy and carbs turn In to pure sugar as soon as they hit our mouths,where digestion starts. Our bodies are going to burn. That free flowing sugar in our blood streams before they will start burning stored fat. Burning stored fat is what causes weight loss. 

I wish you the best

I am working with a nutritionist that wants me to eat, not do shakes or broth at this time.  If she changes her ideas because I have hit a wall then, yes, I would 100% follow her recommendations because she is working with the surgical team, the shrink, all of it.

When I say that I got rid of some sugary foods what I meant was that I still eat fruit, and carrots both which break down to higher sugary levels. I am not on an "atkins" style diet. I took out the salt, the sugar, the crappy carbs, junk food, and working on any supermarket "quick" meals like the smart ones as I don't want processed foods.

When I snack, I have the kids prepackaged fruits and veggies that go into the lunchbox, so I know its a good portion control because its meant for children.  I usually pick fresh apples or carrots.  I do have Atkins shakes which are good with protein, I think only 2 grams of sugar. I do use those if supper would be after 5pm because I don't do Meals late at night as that was an issue in the past due to my husbands work schedule.

I appreciate your well wishes, and information and I will certainly speak to my nutritionist about the benefits of a liquid based diet but I think the time it would take to be on the diet wouldn't be the best for a thyroid patient as its not the most nutritionally sound.

Definitely feeling more "here" after all of the encouragement.  My aunts celebration of life event was also helpful.

Thanks so much for replying, its nice to know people care.

I certainly understand what you are saying. On the other hand, what the dietician is having you do,is not working,by your own admission.

when something is not working,smart ppl change what they are doing.

were I in your position,and I thank GOD I am not,though I also know I am always one bite away from that as I am a food addict,I would do the most drastic thing I could do to get that weight off so I could pursue a more permanent solution. I also have a thyroid condition and using protein shakes and broth for a limited period of time,until the weight is lost ,is not harmful. You are being harmed more being the weight you are,than a few months of protein shakes would cause. 

When I read that you are immobile,I take that to mean that you cannot move your own body. Is that correct. I shudder for you if that is the case. Being immobilized is the only thing I truly fear. I,personally,would choose death before I would live immobilized in this way. 

Please know I have every sympathy for you. This is a time for drastic measures.

Why do I feel like Im being insulted? "smart people would" as if I am not intelligent? OUCH.  Maybe you didn't mean that the way it sounded.

What I did not say is that what I'm doing isn't working.  What I did say is that I probably since August packed on a ton of weight and then started losing THAT weight so when I weigh in I was up. So if I gained 50 pounds say since August which was my last weigh in, and lost 23 of those 50 pounds that would have me showing a gain of 27 pounds. 

I was shocked because I didn't know I had gained.  My clothing is very oversized I am PRIMARILY immobile which means specifically I can walk to the bathroom and back.  I can get in and out of my wheelchair to go to the doctors and I can stand for 10 seconds for them to weigh me before my back starts to spasm. 

I do feel like I am giving 100% that is why I had such a bad reaction to the weigh in.  It hit me blindsided as I didn't know I gained.  Everyone noticed my weight loss, and I know there were details left out of my original post but at the time I wrote the post I was so beyond deeply depressed it wasn't even funny.  I had just lost my aunt, my mom was found to have a tumor, and I had been all excited to weigh in and then it went sideways.

What will be the true test of what I am currently doing is the weigh in I have 10 days from now. If I lose weight from my last weigh in, then I am on the right track, if I do not, then (as it is a NUT appointment) I will ask the her about the liquid approach and if that is safe for a long period of time. 

I already went through cancer and hypothyroidism/hypoglycemia which left my body suffering from effects of stress and malnurishment which if you have gone through that you know its not something someone will sign up for ever again. 

I want to do this the RIGHT way.  If I thought I had all the answers I wouldn't be at the weight center in the program getting help from all the professionals.  But I did reach out here because I was despondent and giving up which is NOT like me.  I have really appreciated all the feedback and the love, support, and people telling me they understand and that has helped me rally!! I am grateful that God gave me a second chance after dealing with cancer and I know now that it would be selfish to give up/ give in.  It was a momentary lapse and I hope never to be there again!!

I meant it the way I wrote it. Smart ppl make changes if necessary. It is good to know you are on top of that. 

If I meant to insult your intelligence,I would have said something like"if you were smart..." 

When you said you were shocked you had gained because you were on plan,I thought that meant,well,you were on plan and still gained. My mistake. 

Thank you for clarifying your statements. :)