I have nobody and need positive conversation. BMI - 54.

I had my DS in March of 2011 and went from a BMI of 68 to 26 currently. It was a total success. I still have moderate restriction and malabsorption, but I eat like a normal person who happens to have a small appetite. I still can lose weight even 4 years out if I wanted to, but I'm pretty happy where I am. 

What you're trying to do (alone) is difficult, but it can be done. Embrace the positive person and you're good to go. The others will either come onboard or not, and that's nothing you can control. Concentrate on yourself and your future.