I am in desperate need of encouragement
Please don't beat yourself up over this. We all understand how hard this battle is. And it never ends. You CAN start over again. It's never too late.
Therapy has been suggested and it's a good idea. It will help you to refocus on your priorities and deal with the underlying issues. Don't be discouraged and embarrassed because it will only make you spiral downward even further. No one here wants to beat you up because we could all fall into bad habits again if we don't remain diligent.
Love yourself enough to get back into the game. You are worth it. You can do this. Never give up hope.
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on 8/18/14 11:10 am, edited 8/18/14 11:10 am
Please be concerned enough about your age and weight to go forward and do what it takes to lose the weight. I also encourage you to seek therapy.
I myself, was not overweight till I started taking Lexapro. A hundred pounds later and warnings from my doctor that I will die if I don't lose weight led me to this choice. I am having the WLS done at the age of 65.
Please take care of yourself. We are not youngsters any more. People are pulling for you, but you need to care also. Good luck.
Thank you so much. My first appointment with a counsellor is made. I fought counseling and food diaries all of my adult life, and here I am. Better late than not at all. Your phrase " you need to care also" really hit home. I honestly had quit caring that my obesity was eating away (pun intended) at my life expectancy--how sad is that? I'll never give up. Thanks again for your very gentle kick to my backside.
Get back in to see your surgeon and ask him about your options. I'm guessing he/she will want to run some tests to see whether the mechanics of the surgery are still intact and lab work to see your health. He may talk to you about revision options but before I made that decision I'd look into a therapist too to talk through some of the other issues that may be at play. Hardest part of WLS in my opinion is the emotional/head stuff.
You have NOT FAILED... we will be waging this war against obesity all our lives... some battles we will win, sometimes the enemy will get the upper hand... go to the Dr, the therapist, arm yourself again and keep fighting.
Best to you!
P.S. You never should feel embarrassed either... especially with fellow WLSers We get it.
What about exercise? I can't do much walking either, as I need ortho work on my knees and left ankle. I can exercise in water, though. Water aerobics is really a great workout. If you don't swim, many pools are shallow enough that you can walk laps. I can only walk about 300 yds at a time, but I can swim 1000 yds!
Yesterday at the pool a friendly guy recommended hand weights at home to build the muscle that will help burn the fat. I knew that, but it was good to be reminded and encouraged.
Folks at my health club have been totally encouraging over the years, and not just staff, but fellow members as well. And now that I'm becoming more motivated, they are even more friendly.
