I hate when people say..."I know how you feel." No you don't!

Love the passive aggressive nodding.That's a good one.

I hear you! It can definitely get frustrating. I hate it sometimes that after 13 1/2 months... I am STILL not in ONDERland.... but hopefully I will be there soon. I still feel so far form my goal too... it's really an emotional roller coaster!

I hate that people keep asking me and my husband "what I'm doing" (I don't tell everyone about surgery). It's almost as if they're hoping I'm going to tell them some magical way to lose a bunch of weight lol...

Nikke, I am going through the same thing.  Everyone at my job keeps asking me how I'm doing it.  No matter if you get surgery or not, what it basically comes down to is eating better and exercising, but everyone wants advice like I'm going to tell them some secret magical way that they never heard of before lol

I have lost 142 lbs and I still haven't reached Onederland!!!  I am now 231 lbs and I am soooo damn close!!  Just need to lose 32 lbs and I will be in Onederland!  My personal goal is to lose that by my one year surgiversary.  

Exactly that, having that understanding that everyone's journey is so unique and individual. Whether you have 20 lbs or less or 500 lbs or less to lose.... It is a journey. The more you have generally the longer it takes. It can be frustrating when.... People that say WLS is the easy way... Or people that say "I know how or what you are going through or are feeling"... Or you should do this or that... Not eat that or exercise like this....!! Everyone for sure have their own journey unique. The physical and emotional parts are all different for us all.
Each has different difficulties. Time helps. As we transcend through our journeys we learn. Our needs change and what we have to do changes. Time never lessons what we have gone through when you come from "Rock bottom". Although all of our "ROCK BOTTOMS" looks different for each of us.

I used to hate people trying so hard to relate to me, although I would try to realize they really do care. When they seem to have such a little problem in comparison to me. But whom was I to say their problem was so small. Instead, I started thinking and saying to them... You are right... That advice is great and at some point in my personal journey I may be able to do that. I would remind them how lucky they are to work on theirs before it gets so much worse. I used to sit quietly when they would say I took an easy way out. Not for to long though because I knew that I worked my ass off before surgery even before I knew that I was going the surgery route. After surgery I fought to stay alive and continue to lose. Eating and an even more critical diet and good habits of vitamins. For me finding the exercises that I could do... And took some creative thinking. Being able to be "normal" in routines and the changes.

Bless each and everyone of us in all of our journeys!
Hugs

Oh, also.... I think this is one of the best forums to come to as I believe we all try to give space for all thoughts, concerns, and areas of greatness and also difficulties.

Hugs,
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I have worked in the mental health field for 11 years. The one thing I will never say to the people I serve is I understand. I do not understand. I do not hear voices in my head or have rapid cycling mood swings or crippling depression. As my boss taught me I can say that must suck but never that I understand.