whiny light weights

boy there are a bunch of whiny light weights on the vsg forum lately , they are starting at 200 lb and are complaining about losing only 15-17 lb , I wish I weighted 200 lb , that is my first goal  and 15-17 lb a month is great

 I wi**** was magic and 50 lb would drop off each month but I am happy if I lose 10 , if it takes 1 1/2 years to get where I want that is great

I hear you and totally understand!  I have noticed that on the VSG board as well.  I try to read most of your posts and I think your doing a great job. Slow and steady wins the race!

Smiles:),

Lisa

i just wanted to add to this that while I was being empathetic, and a little jealous actually, I don't begrudge anyone their weight loss challenges.  Everyone has their own weight lossy cope with.  I did not mean any disrespect to anyone by the above comments.  It is hard sometimes when you are over 300 pounds trying to get to 150 and you read someone is upset because  they are  starting at 150 and are upset they only lost ten pounds.  SMO people just have different challenges but we really are all the same in what we want, weight loss, happiness and peace.........again, am sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings...........

so true.   I feel bad because I really have zero interest in those people, cannot relate at all.  They are starting out where I'd like to end up!!!    those poor dears, wearing their 14/16's when they aspire to wear size 2/4 ....  never have experienced not fitting in chairs, booths, never experienced public menacing...  blah blah blah.  lol   i know i shouldnt say all these things, but... it's what I feel and think inside.  

sing it sister!!

If I may add another perspective or two, some of the "lightweights" who are posting those things might be failed lap band patients who were revised to sleeve after only losing part of their excess weight.  That's one reason I avoided the lap band like the plague and went directly to sleeve.

I once dieted/exercised my way down from 315 pounds to 201.5 pounds.  I wish I had stopped my weight regain at 201.5 or even 250.  Instead I stupidly allowed myself to regain all the way up to 357, which of course made my eventual postop recovery harder and longer.  If they are sparing themselves that agony and having this surgery before that happens to them, I applaud them.  Losing weight is a difficult and frustrating business for almost everyone. 

I feel your pain.  That's why I love this board.  Those of us on here can really relate to each other and our struggles with starting out so large.  My goal is to be a size 12 or 14. Last year, I was a size 28.  My goal weight is in the 180s and I've seen a few people on the VSG board who started not much heavier than that.  But I just have to tell myself that we have completely different body types.  It sucks but there are still things we have in common... they are uncomfortable in their bodies at size 14 like I was at size 28. But truth be told, I do roll my eyes a bit when I see such a low starting weight. lol Green with envy :-)

I do the eye roll when I see a ONEDERLAND post and then open it up to find out they started at 230 and haven't "been in the 100s in 15 years" lol

Like you're saying... I'm green with envy; therefore, the eye roll haha!

I think what bothers me the most about the lightweights is that bariatric surgery is supposed to be the ultimate last resort treatment for obesity. It makes me sad when someone who is barely 200 lbs is planning vsg or some other surgical solution. 

I also understand that oftentimes there are some pretty severe cormorbs happening, and I definitely don't want to discourage them from taking steps to improve their health. I know how surprised my surgeon was when he saw that the only cormorbidity I had was some mild sleep apnea. 

I'm trying to understand their perspective, but I'm still having some trouble. :/

I try to remind myself that their fat bothers them as much as mine bothered me. But there is some sizism in the wls community. The smaller the size the more
praise, which kind of makes sense in a weird way. Lots of people equate thinnesswith not only health but also with worthiness.
Sometimes I have to bite my tongue when someone bemoans being a size six. It kind of hurts my feelings. If they are disappointed as a six, they must think I am huge as a 12. But then I step back and tell myself that their struggle is about them, not about me. They are making judgments about themselves not me. If they are unhappy it doesnt have anything to do with me.

I am just sitting here golf clapping all of you! SO dead on.