I wanna whine

I am a little over 5 weeks out now and I feel like my weight loss is at such a freakin crawl!!

I am doing everything that I can - drinking all my water, eating as much protein as is humanly possible at this stage, exercising as much as I can. My carbs are under 30 grams.  I went to a support group the other night and people were talking about eating donuts and fruit and sandwiches and I am not doing that! It was kind of discouraging because I didn't get to talk at all and everyone was complaining and talking about all the stuff they couldn't eat... it was my first support group with my surgeon's group and I really didn't like it that much. I did get to meet someone I had connected with through OH which was great but besides that, it was a big bust.

This week I have exercised every day, kept my calories between 500 and 600, my protein about 50 g and drank all my water. My husband and I were going to go out to dinner last night but he got called into work so I used the time to go to the gym and worked out HARD.  I ate a tiny protein only dinner and felt good. Then I weighed this morning.... Since Monday, I am UP almost a pound!! GRRRR I know this will pass but I am just whining because I am working so hard to stay focused and keep doing what I'm doing and I wanna see some results. I think it also messes with my head when people keep asking me how much weight I have lost expecting huge drops from week to week and that isn't happening.

I know exercise and strength training may cause me to stall for a bit and maybe I should raise my calories some. I don't know... I need to see a loss soon or I am gonna break my freakin scale!  Ok, whine over!! thanks!

don't worry it will come off, it might help if you can eat more protein

love my doctors support group

((((hugs))))

I promise it will get better. Take your measurements and celebrate your NSVs. The scale is a fickle ***** for certain.

Even though it shows you a higher number, we know you didn't gain weight. My own weight fluctuates within a five pound range in any given month. The causes are myriad.

I have been following the rules and for the past five months have lost two pounds a month. Not trying to undermine your frustration; but I can relate.

Sometimes upping my protein has worked in the past to break a plateau.

Look for another support group. It's not very supportive if you don't get to talk and share. I don't go to my surgeon's group since it's an hour drive and I have to pay for parking.

RosyKate is right.

If you are a slow loser, it usually means you are losing inches and your body is shifting. I do that all the time. Make sure you take the measurements. Hugs, Sharon

Thanks for the replies!  I think that I am going to put my scale away for at least a week.   I get on it every morning and it's starting to make or break my mood for the day.  I got 64 g of protein yesterday so with that and my exercise and all my water, I thought FOR SURE that I would be down today.  Just really frustrating to be just starting out and already feel like I'm not doing it right.

Thanks again!

Increasing calories isn't a good idea. Just stay on target with what you have now. There will be stalls, there will be gains, there will be losses. Just gotta keep going. I gained 6pounds on Tuesday and the by Wednesday I was down 7lbs and now I lost one more pound as of this morning. But I went a whole month where all I lost was 5lbs and I thought I was stalled out forever.

 

I also don't go to support groups. I tried one but first off they met in a diner! and secondly they were all eating crap from said diner, and then talked about how they cheated and ate more crap. Just because it fits doesn't mean it should go in your mouth!  Sorry, I just don't like being around people that justify their crap eating with more crap eating and trying to get other people to eat crap with them. So don't let the "support" group drag you down. I do just fine with OH as the support team.  I admit I eat fruit though. Fruit is not unhealthy and besides I'd rather eat the extra carbs in fruit and stay regular.

 

I know it is hard to face the scale when it doesnt move. The good news is it will move south eventually.

I did not go to any support groups at my surgeons office. I got yelled at early on by the surgeon's nurse who told me I had to stop eating carbs (green veggies and apples). I was forced to eat them because I developed an anal fissure from the constipation. The gastro specialist  scolded me when I listened to the surgeons office after seeing him and not getting better. I was in such pain and in such a quandary.I got no support from the surgeons office and it made me pull away and isolate from them. To this day, they are still pissed at me and leave mean messages on my phone. Ugh. So I did this by myself. The carbs definitely slowed my journey, but if I do not eat them I get so constipated and sick. It is a double-edged sword. 

Can you up your protein to 80 gms? I think with the amount of calories you are eating another protein shake would be just right. When I cannot eat a lot due to whatever i drink more protein shakes to get my 80 gms in. I like Premier because it is ready made, small and compact and holds 30 gms of protein. 

Think of this as a journey not a day to day thing. In the end you will be successful. 

Some people lose slow (like me) some people lose very fast like pinkjellybean . It is what it is. I promise you a year from now you are going to look back and feel great if you stay on program. 

We are all cheering for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs,

Sharon

Everybody as a different way of losing ut if you think you are a slow loser, which you couldn't really KNOW 5 weeks post up(swelling can take 2 months to disappear on some people), go have a peak at the forum for the slow losers. This is what I did when I thought I was a slow loser. Realized I was not at all as some people on there are losing really slowly. It gave me perspective;br />


A book suggestion, if you read: if you are going to eat at the refrigerator, pull up a chair



Carbs, the demonized carbs! Sorry girls but carbs we are not suppose to eat are the refined ones. Fruits and veggies are good carbs. They have to be cobsumed EVERY DAY. Mostly veggies. And one fruit a day AT LEAST. They are natural, non processed food, full of nutrients, vitamins, minerals, fibers. They are more important than cereals, or milk products.



This is not suppose to be a diet, another diet that we will try to cheat our way out as the people in the support group you went to were doing. But no wonder they binge on crap if they face this journey as a diet. Who wouldn't binge after dieting?



The more you have "forbidden" foods, the more you are at risks if binging. But I do not say this to start esting crap. But GOOD FOOD, auch as fruits and veggies(yeah carbs!) are excellent for your health.



I am not perfect, I deny myswlf lots of things I would love to eat. But I get frustrated more and more every day. And I know it is because I approach this journey as a diet. A non starving diet, but in my mind it is still forbidding foods



We have to learn to FEED our bodies, not eat! Hope you'll understand the difference as I don't know how to explain what I mean!



You are an amazing person and be good to yourself, try to talk to yourself as you would talm to your daughter, best friend, mother. Would you tell your daughter:"you are doing something wrong, you are a slow loser. Etc......."????



Love

Karine

I feel the same way! My calorie range is 500-600, but my protein is up to 98g & I still can't lose any weight! I just don't understand! :(

I'm embarrassed that I'm so jealous right now of other people posting " I lost 30,40,50 lbs in my 1st month" while I only lost 21...

Robyn,

Are you drinking water? Water: 80-100 oz per day ,gets rid of the fat. 

21 lbs is amazing! You can do this. Keep posting and journal!

Hugs,

Sharon