ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT!

Words from the Wise: "Just wanted to share one word with folks here---PERSEVERANCE. Hang in there! It's taken me a little over 2 1/2 years to make my goal."- Elaine2

Thanks Elaine. What an important point. I was whining about how structured and focused I was before my move and career change. One friend said to me: you're not done. When I suggested to another friend that I'm tall and maybe I should settle at a size 14, she responded: unacceptable! Those comments were only a couple of days apart. I didn't realize that I was adopting a defeatist attitude. That's not like me. Lately, I don't feel in control. This is a mental issue.

Sometimes we need an attitude adjustment. Well, I need a big one. That's going to be my big goal for the next 2.5 weeks while I am on vacation. Unlike some people, I tend to lose during the holidays (even before VSG) because I take a long vacation and de-stress. I also visit instead of host so I don't have a house full of goodies, and I usually exercise more.

Action steps:

1. enough with work- even though I have a lot of work reading to do while on vacation (not a good start). I have let this new job consume too much of my energy.  I need to put it in its proper place and find time while at work to unwind  or de-stress a little- 10 minute walks at lunch, etc.

2. less TV - I learned in therapy last year that it is not a good stress reliever.  TV does not help me unwind. That is time I could spend on me (reading, OH, menu planning) or being active (walking, yoga, cleaning). I watched very little TV during my first 12 months post-op. I now have head hunger that I didn't have earlier. I think coming home from work and being a vegetable in front of the TV contributed to that.  So I think #1 and #2 will help with head hunger- I hope.

3. use OH and MFP daily- I think it will help me get my focus back to make my health my top priority. I've been "looking" at them every few days or so but not using them.

4. weigh weekly- I was never a daily person, but I weighed weekly. I stopped doing that because I knew I was not losing and suspected that I had gained.  So, I just put the scale in the coat closet. 

5. see doctor or physical therapist- when the gyn touched my leg I winced. The last thing she said to me was to get my hip taken care of and start back doing what I was doing before with the eating. She also told me where to go for physical therapy on my hip.

There is a lot going on during this vacation including surgery on my arms (I can't wait, they are too problematic- everything else can wait) and closing on my house. But I won't move until the end of next month. So, I will still use this vacation to re-boot.

That's all.  Just calling myself out.

Good for you!! I definitely think too many people in the weight loss community give up too easily and just "settle" for weighing more than they want to weigh. So much of it is completely in our control!!

 

Damn it I need a big ******g attitude adjustment right now. I just told myself I could deal with living above my goal weight, but **** that, I don't think so. 

Thanks for the little push away from my pity party. 

No settling! No abuse!

You can choose to not settle without beating yourself up. 

I am so excited for you!! You have been strong and forgiving. We need to stay on track and keep going towards goal without being abusive to ourselves - i mean did all of our negative thoughts and actions get us to goal before surgery?? Im just gonna guess NO since were all post surgery. You Will Make Goal. And that goal is personal to you. I know you will. have your surgery, have a fabulous vacation, and be good to yourself sleeve sis!!