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Hi Everyone, I just wanted to introduce myself and say Hello. I am so glad that is forum exists, it is a testament to the fact that there are others out there that are in the same boat as I am. Not that I wish this on anyone anywhere in the world, but I can not tell you how glad I am to finally know for a fact that I am not alone any more.
I finally told a counselor today that I am most excited about the posibility of weight loss because I am hoping that I will finally get to really know who I really am. I feel that I have been hiding behind all this excess weight for so many years, that I litterally do not really even know who I am or what my capabilities are. I have been overweight all my life, just not this much. I am a 53 year old woman who only has 1 of 2 kids still in the nest and finds herself recently divorced and unemployed and wondering what life will bring me. But today I realized that I have been wondering what life will bring to me, instead of what I will take from my life experiences to become what or who ever I want to be. I need to find the "real" me and let my personality finally shine to make that happen. (I have stifled my dream for so long I barely even know how or where to start/)
I have been on a wait list for 2&1/2 years with Dr. Amson in Victoria, but recently switched dr's to one that is closer to my home.
I have recently had my first consult with Dr. Ngyuen in Richmond BC, and I am really hopefull that he will be a man of his word and give me the Bypass surgery that I am seeking within the next year. I know that it is only 1 tool in my very long journey and I have a great deal of work to do on my own, but at this point it is very important for me to hold on to the option of having and using the surgery as a tool, as I am so totally overwhelmed in the amount of weight I have to lose. I weigh 359.5 and I am only 5'2" tall, so my BMI is in the higher 60's and I have more weight to lose than I hope I end up weighing if and when I reach my goal. So more than half of me needs to go!
Thank you for reading and listening to my ranting, I hope to be able to get on here often and be of support to any who need it from me, I promise to do the best that I can and be of support to you as well as much as possible in the future days to come.
I finally told a counselor today that I am most excited about the posibility of weight loss because I am hoping that I will finally get to really know who I really am. I feel that I have been hiding behind all this excess weight for so many years, that I litterally do not really even know who I am or what my capabilities are. I have been overweight all my life, just not this much. I am a 53 year old woman who only has 1 of 2 kids still in the nest and finds herself recently divorced and unemployed and wondering what life will bring me. But today I realized that I have been wondering what life will bring to me, instead of what I will take from my life experiences to become what or who ever I want to be. I need to find the "real" me and let my personality finally shine to make that happen. (I have stifled my dream for so long I barely even know how or where to start/)
I have been on a wait list for 2&1/2 years with Dr. Amson in Victoria, but recently switched dr's to one that is closer to my home.
I have recently had my first consult with Dr. Ngyuen in Richmond BC, and I am really hopefull that he will be a man of his word and give me the Bypass surgery that I am seeking within the next year. I know that it is only 1 tool in my very long journey and I have a great deal of work to do on my own, but at this point it is very important for me to hold on to the option of having and using the surgery as a tool, as I am so totally overwhelmed in the amount of weight I have to lose. I weigh 359.5 and I am only 5'2" tall, so my BMI is in the higher 60's and I have more weight to lose than I hope I end up weighing if and when I reach my goal. So more than half of me needs to go!
Thank you for reading and listening to my ranting, I hope to be able to get on here often and be of support to any who need it from me, I promise to do the best that I can and be of support to you as well as much as possible in the future days to come.
Hello Linda, and welcome!
This forum is a great place to come, good that you found us! Yes, we all generally have a common factor of needing and wanting to lose weight. Surgery is exactly that.... A tool! I wish for the best in your wait for WLS. May it be in the next year! You can do it! Live will reveal many scale victories and along with that... What we cal non scale victories (NSV's). Patience...patience and then some more patience. Surgery process...recovery....and weight loss! All in due time!
It is possible to lose large amount of weight, it generally will take longer but is so doable. Your tool will be only as good as you use it. It will not fix your emotional eating or head hunger. I personally started this at 654 lbs... I am still working on this to get to goal and I know I can and will do this. I now weigh 284 lbs.
YES, YOU CAN DO THIS AND DO NOT THINK ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU HAVE TO LOSE. NO USE IN THOSE DISCOURAGING THOUGHTS. IT IS A LIFE LONG JOURNEY YOU WILL NEED TO COMMIT TO WITH WLS.
HUGS, best wishes.. Keep coming back!!!
Sherrie
This forum is a great place to come, good that you found us! Yes, we all generally have a common factor of needing and wanting to lose weight. Surgery is exactly that.... A tool! I wish for the best in your wait for WLS. May it be in the next year! You can do it! Live will reveal many scale victories and along with that... What we cal non scale victories (NSV's). Patience...patience and then some more patience. Surgery process...recovery....and weight loss! All in due time!
It is possible to lose large amount of weight, it generally will take longer but is so doable. Your tool will be only as good as you use it. It will not fix your emotional eating or head hunger. I personally started this at 654 lbs... I am still working on this to get to goal and I know I can and will do this. I now weigh 284 lbs.
YES, YOU CAN DO THIS AND DO NOT THINK ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU HAVE TO LOSE. NO USE IN THOSE DISCOURAGING THOUGHTS. IT IS A LIFE LONG JOURNEY YOU WILL NEED TO COMMIT TO WITH WLS.
HUGS, best wishes.. Keep coming back!!!
Sherrie
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Welcome! I have to agree with Sherri - don't think about how much you have to lose. Take it 5, 10 lbs at a time, one NSV at a time. I am almost half the person I used to be - I never imagined Id be here when I started, but slowly and surely, I'm working on it.
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Hi Linda
Welcome You are starting on a very exciting journey. Yes the process can be long but its so worth it in the end. It is exciting as the weight comes off. Take it one day and one step at a time. I must say for the first time in my life I am not thinking in 2 months I can lose x amount of pounds. I am just taking it one day at a time.
Oh by the way we are the same age and height. My starting weight was just a bit higher.
Good Luck
Welcome You are starting on a very exciting journey. Yes the process can be long but its so worth it in the end. It is exciting as the weight comes off. Take it one day and one step at a time. I must say for the first time in my life I am not thinking in 2 months I can lose x amount of pounds. I am just taking it one day at a time.
Oh by the way we are the same age and height. My starting weight was just a bit higher.
Good Luck
Talula
Starting weight 369
Hi Talula216
Thank you for replying to my first post on here. It is really encouraging to know that you are at least my same age and close to my starting weight. I just have to tell you that for me, self esteem is a huge issue, it is as if I have put me (my personality and alot of my self and good qualities) on the back burner and really have not much self worth. But I am learning, and slowly gaining it back, I expect I will see much better results after I start to see bigger weight loss due to the surgery. Although just getting myself prepared mentally and physically I am getting results that I had no idea I was able to obtain. (I do tend to ramble!) The point that I really wanted to make was that I really thought that any surgeon would take one look at me and see my age and actually think that thier time would be better spent on someone much younger than I am. I am finding however, that that is not the case. That I matter just as much as some young chicky that is also wanting the surgery. And that is so good to know and think about.
Congratulations on all the weight that you have lost thus far, keep going I think you are doing amazing!!!!
. I can hardly wait to be able to tell everyone in the universe that at some point I will have lost 60+ pounds as well.
Hope to chat again soon!
Thank you for replying to my first post on here. It is really encouraging to know that you are at least my same age and close to my starting weight. I just have to tell you that for me, self esteem is a huge issue, it is as if I have put me (my personality and alot of my self and good qualities) on the back burner and really have not much self worth. But I am learning, and slowly gaining it back, I expect I will see much better results after I start to see bigger weight loss due to the surgery. Although just getting myself prepared mentally and physically I am getting results that I had no idea I was able to obtain. (I do tend to ramble!) The point that I really wanted to make was that I really thought that any surgeon would take one look at me and see my age and actually think that thier time would be better spent on someone much younger than I am. I am finding however, that that is not the case. That I matter just as much as some young chicky that is also wanting the surgery. And that is so good to know and think about.
Congratulations on all the weight that you have lost thus far, keep going I think you are doing amazing!!!!
. I can hardly wait to be able to tell everyone in the universe that at some point I will have lost 60+ pounds as well.
Hope to chat again soon!
Thank you to all of you who took the time to reply and give such kind encouraging words. It means a lot to me especially as I have felt as if I am basically invisable for many years now. It was a huge stretch to go on here and tell anything about myself especially my weight and height, but I guess I have to start somewhere. Right? And I also know that as long as I do not reach out there will never be any sort of communication or support system for me, so I am so grateful for this forum..
It is definitely my hope that I might make some friends on here along the way, and offer the same to you if you should choose to want the same.
So, thanks again,
hope to talk to you again soon!
It is definitely my hope that I might make some friends on here along the way, and offer the same to you if you should choose to want the same.
So, thanks again,
hope to talk to you again soon!
Hi, Linda ~
I'm happy you found OH. I haven't been around too long myself, and I'm still working on the process of getting my surgery, but I've learned so much here, and everyone has been some helpful and welcoming that I already feel very much at home.
Just so you know, I'm 60 and like you, I've been overweight all my life. The pounds have just crept up over the years, until the last year or so when I hit 300+. I'm a little taller than you - 5'4-1/2", but my BMI is over 50. Because of my weight, I've also kind of lost who I am, if I even ever knew. I guess when I turned 60 last October, I decided I wanted and needed to do something to see if I could salvage the rest of my life.
So anyway, I just wanted you to know that surgery is definitely an option for anyone who wants to get their life back, like you and I do. Assuming I'm approved by my insurance, my surgery date is tentatively scheduled for July 6. Hopefully, yours will be scheduled soon, too.
Please keep posting and sharing what's going on with you. This is such a great place to come with all your questions, to share your feelings and fears, and to make friends.
Best wishes to you,
Beth
I'm happy you found OH. I haven't been around too long myself, and I'm still working on the process of getting my surgery, but I've learned so much here, and everyone has been some helpful and welcoming that I already feel very much at home.
Just so you know, I'm 60 and like you, I've been overweight all my life. The pounds have just crept up over the years, until the last year or so when I hit 300+. I'm a little taller than you - 5'4-1/2", but my BMI is over 50. Because of my weight, I've also kind of lost who I am, if I even ever knew. I guess when I turned 60 last October, I decided I wanted and needed to do something to see if I could salvage the rest of my life.
So anyway, I just wanted you to know that surgery is definitely an option for anyone who wants to get their life back, like you and I do. Assuming I'm approved by my insurance, my surgery date is tentatively scheduled for July 6. Hopefully, yours will be scheduled soon, too.
Please keep posting and sharing what's going on with you. This is such a great place to come with all your questions, to share your feelings and fears, and to make friends.
Best wishes to you,
Beth
Consult WT: 312 SW: 274 CW: 244
Beth,
thank you so much for all your kind words of encouragement, I am glad to meet someone else who is in their later years and doing what they can to salvage what ever they can of what ever years they have left. I hope that you get your surgery date in July that would be awesome.
Here in Canada my surgery will be paid for by the government, but that is why the wait is so long.
Mine probably wont come for about a year or so, but I plan to keep working really hard to show the surgeon that I am worthy of his efforts and that I will diligently work this so that I can lose the weight.
Again Good luck on your wls journey, keep posting also so we can follow your results. It is the people like you that are making this beginning part of my journey inviting. You are all making me feel at home here as well, and like I can ask or talk about just about anything related to obesity or weight issues.
Thanks again,
Linda
thank you so much for all your kind words of encouragement, I am glad to meet someone else who is in their later years and doing what they can to salvage what ever they can of what ever years they have left. I hope that you get your surgery date in July that would be awesome.
Here in Canada my surgery will be paid for by the government, but that is why the wait is so long.
Mine probably wont come for about a year or so, but I plan to keep working really hard to show the surgeon that I am worthy of his efforts and that I will diligently work this so that I can lose the weight.
Again Good luck on your wls journey, keep posting also so we can follow your results. It is the people like you that are making this beginning part of my journey inviting. You are all making me feel at home here as well, and like I can ask or talk about just about anything related to obesity or weight issues.
Thanks again,
Linda
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