do you get frustrated?

I know this is going to sound horrible, and I just kind of wonder if I am the only person who feels this way.  

Does anyone else get frustrated by the people who barely quailfy for the surgery having the surgery?  People who are only a little overweight? 

During this whole process it got very frustrating to go to meetings and see people there who were barely overweight being approved for the surgery when my husband and I are at least 200lbs overweight , who desperately need this surgery and we have to jump through hoop after hoop after hoop and wait to get approved!  

Please tell me I am not the only person who feels this way.

 At this point in my journey, I have stopped getting frustrated, but I still look at them like "really?"  You want to lose 80lbs???

I have stopped being as judgmental just because I understand we all have our issues, and we all have our "I cant live with this" moment. Theirs just happened to be before they got SMO. I personally would never have had this surgery to lose less than 150lbs or so because it wasnt worth it for me, but I get that sense of desperation. 

I do try and avoid reading posts about people complaning because they didnt reach goal by 6 months, and blah blah blah. Or even some innocent comments about how to reach goal or go back to basics  to lose a few lbs, or whatever - they have no idea of things we struggle with. Ive actually stopped spending as much time on OH because I was focusing more on comparing myself to other people and it was depressing. Especially these light weights. 

Thank you for that.  I tend to avoid the topics I see that I think are from "lightweights" (love that term).  But, you are right, they all have their own struggles.  It just frustrates me that someone who needs to lose as much weight as I do has to go through the same hurdles that someone who needs to lose less than 100 does.  But, then again, I understand the whole argument that they want to make sure you are serious about it as well.  

Thank you again.

I've been with you on this one. In fact, I backed away from OH for a few weeks because I was finding myself envious or too judgmental of folks. The last straw was a person starting at my goal weight....I thought she was probably really short...but that wasn't the case.

However, I'm passed it now. Everyone has their issues and I'm certain many "lightweights" wouldn't understand how I let myself get to SMO before taking action.

I don't think this is an unusual feeling. While some folks make their goals in less than a year...we are looking at 2 years...maybe more...to get to the number we want. It just wears you down a little so maybe we get a little bit&*^&y.

Just pick and choose the posts you read and you might want to avoid the "lightweight" board. It could send you over the edge!!!! (Although I have peeked and they all are very nice and compatible--kind of like all of us)

We're all prize fighters....just in different weight classes!  How's that for a comparison?

That's a very good way to look at it.  It does frustrate me when people are smaller than my first goal weight.  Oh well.  You're right, we're all prize fighters.

Yeah, my goal is 200-230 ad I see a lot of people starting there... Frustrates me. Makes me feel like I must be disgusting.

Is it really super unrealistic to lose 180 pounds in a year? Ehh that's 15 pounds a month. I guess it probably is unrealistic. Hopefully I can get to 150 pounds in a year then. I see people saying they lose 100 pounds in 6 months. As of now, I lost 16 pounds my 2nd month and nothing the 3rd month! 

I guess I can't hate them for their decision but it does make me jealous and also wonder why they are chosing this. If I really think about it, WE started at 230 pounds too and we were light weights once too. I know if I could go back to that point and have surgery to stop all of pain I had to endure in the last 12 years I would do it. Who knows how many of those light weights would turn into us if they don't have the surgery... I just hope we're all successful.

One thing though, I have heard people say that my addiction is no worse than their addiction. I think that's bull**** I don't think you can compare food addictions of someone our size to food addictions of light weights or even medium weights. I think our struggle with food is so much harder and it is evident by the size of our bodies. I also think our bodies are so much more damaged and have to go through more in the weight loss process. I just think the bigger you are, the harder your struggle.

Hey---I just wanted to address one thing in your post and that's about time.....

Is it really super unrealistic to lose 180 pounds in a year? Ehh that's 15 pounds a month. I guess it probably is unrealistic. Hopefully I can get to 150 pounds in a year then. I see people saying they lose 100 pounds in 6 months. As of now, I lost 16 pounds my 2nd month and nothing the 3rd month! 

I don't know the answer to this but I'm the one that posted 2 or 2+ years.  I almost went back to delete that because I didn't want to depress anyone. I'm speaking from my experience and note that I'm almost 60, have lost 100+ multiple times and even take med to slow down my metabolism. Hopefully I'll make it by my 60th birthday in June.

I think 150 in a year is aggressive but can probably be achieved...but weight loss seems to slow down as we get further out. I ask myself the question----What will change when I hit goal? I'll still track and plan, exercise daily,  watch carbs and protein, drink a shake a day....the only thing I can think of is maybe 200 more calories a day----a piece of fruit and 2T of peanut butter. Yahoo!

Well, just my opinion.

You shouldn't take it down. It does make me sad to think 2 years though! Eek! But the more weight to lose, the more time it takes. 150 pounds should average about 12 pounds a month and 2.9 pounds a week. Right now I'm in the very beginning and I'm averaging 5 pounds a week. I guess if this is the "amazing" time, I doubt I'll be averaging 3 pounds a week at 8 months out! :( Damn.

I'm 28 and I lost 60 pounds once (gained 100 back) and maybe 20 pounds another time (gained 50 back). I have PCOS which messes up my metabolism.

In FOURTEEN months I was 165 pounds down - so it takes as long as it takes.

Some of us lose really really fast, some of us are "consistent," and as I love to say, "your results may vary!"  Did it take only a year to GAIN 180 pounds?  No?  Then figure it will most likely take more than a year to LOSE 180 pounds.  The heavier you are, and depending on activity level, and many other things are factored in.  Ahem, menfolk, they lose FASTER, grrrr, I love'em, but GRRRRR!

Nothing happens overnight - well, I take that back, you are usually only overnight for surgery!  Stay positive, and it will all happen in due time.  Anything worth doing is worth doing WELL!

Brenda : )~

BTW, I started at 474, and am presently hovering around 300 - 305

 Yes, I do! Eventhough, I really do try not to judge. I read a post earlier today from someone who weighs 190 lbs doing her pre op. All I could think was damn- I would kill to be 190 pounds.