ever get frustrated?

Thank you all so much for responding and advice. There have been some good suggestions made here and I will certainly give them a shot. Especially having small goals of 5-10 lbs and a new piece of clothing in the next size down to work towards. And Tammy, I feel you. I haven't been exercising either. I wish I could but it's been so hard with my schedule (I am working, going to grad school and doing an internship). It's usually dark by the time I get home and I am up late doing school work. The only time I could even go to the gym would be at 5 AM but seeing I don't even get to bed until at least 12, sometimes as late as 2 or 3, there is no way I could function on even less sleep than I'm getting right now. Some people just don't understand. Especially some folks on the RNY board. A lot of those people are great, don't get me wrong, but just do not understand where we are starting from. Like I said before, some of those folks are starting out at like 220 lbs. They have no idea what it's like to start out at 400. When I was 220 lbs I never even thought about having surgery (maybe I should have) and I am only 5' tall. It wasn't until I had gained so much weight and developed several co-morbidities that I knew I had to do this. When you can barely move around, it takes on a whole new meaning. And I'm sorry, I cannot afford a big fancy gym membership and I do not feel comfortable (yet) in going to the gym/pool. I would love to do some water exercises but despite not having the time to go, I don't have a bathing suit that fits, cannot afford to spend $80 on a suit that will be too big in a few months, and am still very self-conscious. With the loss of 100 lbs, everything is going south... Anyways, thank you all again for your supportive comments. It's hard to post your feelings, looking for support and understanding, when you you get jumped on by people who started out weighing half of what we did.

I had similar thoughts when deciding on a surgery. I have weighed 100 lbs less and it only made a size or two difference in my clothing size and I was still big.

Reading your post was almost like you being in my head! ... It is exactly how I feel! I have lost 136 lbs since surgery and 176 from my highest and I still have another 100lbs to go!.. It is EXTREMELY frustrating. You are not alone!!

Seeing people reach goal in 6 months really makes matters worse. I just try to stay positive and realize that everyone's journey is different. We just have a longer one :)...

big hug!

OMG!  I'm right there with you.
Everything was going pretty smoothly until the end of November.  I had lost 90 lbs since August at my high weight of 510.

Then I stopped losing.  A week went by.  I figured everyone stalls.  Then my doctor cut my diuretic in half, one of my thyroid meds in half, statin in half.  I actually gained a couple of lbs -- I figured it was water since the diuretic changed.  I could see it, but figured it would resolve itself in a couple days.  But no, still stuck.

Then today, I'm doing laundry, thinking about what I need to pack to visit my mother for the holidays.  I think about a pair of pants that I used to wear to work all the time (been out of work two years).  I think I should try them on - they might be too big now that I've lost all this weight.  So... go to try them on, and they barely fit.  I knew I had gained some since not working, and know I had only gained 20 in the year prior to surgery, so I was kind of shocked to discover I had gained 80 lbs without realizing it.

No wonder I feel like I can't see a change.  

Hell, my goal weight is 200, which would still be obese.  And I'm barely a third of the way there.  Top that off with my recent stall, and knowing that the weight loss is only going to slow down.  Damn, it's depressing.

I still avoid seeing a lot of my friends because I know I haven't lost enough for them to see a remarkable change.  I wonder if my family will be able to see.  

It's hard to stay encouraged.  What's more is I'm really craving carbs.  I was very good about getting all my protein and staying away from baked goods.  But I've slipped some (so I shouldn't be suprised about a stall, right?)   

I really can't afford to lose my motivation here.  This surgery was my last chance.  I'm still over 400 and still have all the physical and medical issues that go along with that.  No hope of getting hired at this weight.  

Yep, sometimes it just seems impossible.