ever get frustrated?

Ever get frustrated with the amount of weight you have to lose? I do. I have lost 127 lbs but still have about 140 more pounds to lose. I know I should feel elated with the amount of weight I have lost so far but it just seems like I will never get there. I mean, so many people are starting their weight loss journeys weighing less than what I weigh right now and they are reaching their goals in 6 months. I know this weight didn't come on over night and it's not gonna come off overnight. I'm just frustrated. Since we all started out with BMI's over 50 (mine was over 70), I figured you all would understand. Is their anyone out there that has met their goal? Is it even possible? I know with the RNY we only have a window of opportunity of 12-18 months. I guess I am also frustrated becuz even in losing 100 lbs and going down 2-3 sizes, I still look HUGE and I just thought losing 100 lbs would look different.

I get extremely frustrated but I try to continually work on the negative self talk all the time. I've lost 170 lbs and I'm still bigger than some people who are just starting. BUT, I have to keep perspective and take it 5 lbs at a time. Other than to set my ticker, I really don't even know what my goal weight is. I just gotta see how everything turns out. I rarely ever think about how much I have left to lose.


I looked at a picture of myself from this weekend and my first thought was "damm I'm skinny". Then, I looked at the other person in pic and was like "damn I'm hugggeee". And then i got all depressed for a few minutes wondering how I could still be so freaking big. And then it dawned on me that it was a picture of me from my triathlon, and made peace with myself. Yes I'm big, but I'm not as big as I was.

I've come so far and so have youn- you need to step back and see truly how far you've come. When I wake up in one of those moods where I feel like I'm still 420 lbs, I'll try on some old fat clothes just so I can actually see I'm not that person anymore.

I should be happy. I was 395 pounds.   I lost 146 all together.  That a whole person. Since the beginning of my jouney to change my life.  But, My biggest worry was stalled at 6 months mark after losing 70 pounds. It took almost 2 month and  before I lost any more weight. I could seem to get under 252 pounds. No matter what I did.  I been big fear is that.  I was 230 pounds in  Jr. High school.   So I am not even sure if body will be able to be a normal weight.  I am forty years an I am not even sure what a normal weight is for me.  Will ever be a small as a normal person.  It just been two day since I reached a 249 which broke my stall.  But, I am still worried.  I still 99 pounds to lose to reach 150 pounds.  I am praying every day that the weight will come off. I bought a size 2x shirt today a Catherines and fit in it.  That is down from a 5x.   The pants were a size 26 down from a size of 36.   I should jumping for joy.  But, I still so big that.   I can,t jump yet.  Without breaking something. I am still huge.  My arms are so big and skin is hanging making them look bigger.  Plus my hair looks like. Hell no matter what I do.  Because, It is so uneven.  I been nothing but, frustrated, worried ,scared and then angery the last 2 month. Not knowing for sure what was going to happen.  I should feel relieved to have made it 249 pounds. But, I am  not. Because, I still have so much more to lose.
HW-295 SW- 340 CW -249

Doris -

Try making a list of all the things you can do now that you could not before. ESPECIALLY  a new 2x shirt!!! Make it pretty and hang it up and look at it every day. Leave room to add things. Take time each day to think about it. This process is honestly more mental than physical sometimes. It doesnt do us any good to dwell on the negative at this point. We have so far to go so its important to keep a positive attitude as much as possible. I say as much as possible because I too get really down sometimes about it - BUT you have to keep going. I give myself an alloted time to be all negative about it, but then its up and moving forward again. If you think about it - a lot of us were emotional eaters. Anger, frustration, depression - those things made us eat. We now have a choice to avoid spending too much time on those emotions which may ultimately trigger more emotional eating. At least that's what I have found for me.

I track all my food on myfitnesspal. At the end of the week, I will usually go through the charts that they put together and look back through my daily journals and reflect on whether I need to add more protein or eat/drink less of something. I always find at least one thing a week that i COULD do better the next. Now, whether I always do that is a different story, but I try my best - and thats all we can do at this point. The point is to reflect and be very conscious of the choices we make.

Absolutely, this is something that only us heavyweights can understand. Those lightweights as wonderful as they may be- have no clue what it's like to be imprisoned in your own body. And the task of losing all that mass can be very daunting.

However, I think that it's all about perspective. Like Alison said, think about losing 5-10lbs at a time. Have a goal of doing something fun, or finding a small chair or pair of pants that you want to fit into. Look to those things as your motivation.

You are correct, we did not gain all this in a year, it's going to take a while to lose it, so focus on the process. Focus on making good habits and finding a lifestyle you can live with, because trust me- maintenance is no easy thing either!

Hang in there, keep getting your protein, water and tracking everything you possibly can.

Good Luck

:Danni

I had an exceptionally frustrating day I usually let comments blow off me but today I was just irked.
I feel what your saying- today I just had a bad experience and below is how I felt about it.

I almost chewed out a coworker who is about 225lbs. She keeps talking about how much I have lost and how fat she feels like she can't even walk around. Hmmm... I know weight is all relative, so whatever weight you are uncomfortable at blah blah blah.... but lady I weigh well over 300 lbs and I have lymphedema, and a HUGE growth on my right thigh, Im deformed from this crap. I walk, I swim, I stand so please don't come in my office and ***** about how you can't move- give me a freaking break. I hold a water balloon I cant get rid of between my knees so shut the heck up and take a hike out of my life. Is it Friday yet?

I am generally pretty happy and I don't know maybe today she just caught me at a bad time.
There are many people who have met their goals, it just takes more patience then I have today.
JJ

YES  i get very frustrated.  i lost about 200 lbs and then managed to regain about 100 of them.  scariest part is that i don't remember getting bigger at all.  yet suddenly i find myself wearing larger sizes.  amazing. 
   but i've gotta start somewhere.  relosing that 100 lbs will be as your other respondents said - 5 to 10 lbs at a time.  reminding myself that the tool is still there and working.  i just need to go back to the rules that worked for me.
   and, of course, coming back to this site for encouragement and empathy.
stay strong...

I have had the same type of feelings.

I made a mistake about posting about it on the RNY forum instead of here. I felt attacked by some people, people saying I had given up. They didn't understand at all.

I haven't given up. I am losing slower than I wanted, but I'm not exercising like I need to, either. Hell, I'm having such severe arthritis pain I am lucky to be moving at all right now.

But life is definitely better than it has been in a long time.

Glad to see you around here Tammy!

I'm glad we have this board because most of the people on this site dont understand what we have to go through - especially all the people starting at our goal weights lol.

You have done great - especially with your arthritis. Keep up the good work and just keep plugging away :)