Family and Friends and loved one asking how much weight you have lost.
I have this problem. I have a wonderful family. Who has been very supportive of my having the surgery. Actually, They could not wait for me to have it. They wanted me to lose weight for years.
But, The first week after surgery. They telling that had lose weight in my face. So they ask how much weight had I lose. Well weighing my self a week after surgery. I actually gained 7 pounds. But, who wants to tell anybody that. How you make it through. Well two weeks after surgery. I lose twenty one pounds and was happy. But, how you live the expectation of others. I been able to live with people calling me fat and names my whole life. But, Idea of actually losing the weight is scarey. Not wanting to disappoint any one. But, If can,t even deal with my family asking questions. How do i deal other Friends and people I just know and work with.
But, The first week after surgery. They telling that had lose weight in my face. So they ask how much weight had I lose. Well weighing my self a week after surgery. I actually gained 7 pounds. But, who wants to tell anybody that. How you make it through. Well two weeks after surgery. I lose twenty one pounds and was happy. But, how you live the expectation of others. I been able to live with people calling me fat and names my whole life. But, Idea of actually losing the weight is scarey. Not wanting to disappoint any one. But, If can,t even deal with my family asking questions. How do i deal other Friends and people I just know and work with.
Your family sounds allot like mine. Very supportive of WLS. My weight has been the only point of contention in my family all of my life.
Family all ask how I'm doing on a regular basis...health wise. My mom was the only person asking how much I was losing week to week. I told her that I would tell her the loss number until I lost 100 pounds but after that, it was going to be private. I think she was a little hurt but is just happy that I continue to lose. Now we all just talk about my general health...feeling better, can walk better, back is better, etc. I really think that's what is important to everyone...not the number on the scale.
With friends and co workers, I have a standard reply to... Wow--how much have you lost? I just say... I've lost a ton with a ton more to go. We laugh and go on with business. They get the point that I'm not giving out numbers.
This approach works for me!
Family all ask how I'm doing on a regular basis...health wise. My mom was the only person asking how much I was losing week to week. I told her that I would tell her the loss number until I lost 100 pounds but after that, it was going to be private. I think she was a little hurt but is just happy that I continue to lose. Now we all just talk about my general health...feeling better, can walk better, back is better, etc. I really think that's what is important to everyone...not the number on the scale.
With friends and co workers, I have a standard reply to... Wow--how much have you lost? I just say... I've lost a ton with a ton more to go. We laugh and go on with business. They get the point that I'm not giving out numbers.
This approach works for me!
I did the same thing as Elaine with friends not my family. My family never really asked, I was so excited I told them too much probably! lol!! But friends and co-workers I stuck with over 150 pounds and that is where I left it. Majority never asked for specifics. There were a few idiots who went there and I kept repeating myself-- what i call a broken record and stuck with.
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
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