Super Duper High BMI

I understand your self confidence and desire to be you, but being 400 lbs is not by any standards a healthy weight. Think about your long term future, what will it be like to carry that weight in 10 years? 20 years? Obesity has been connected with many diseases, and there is clear evidence that joint and back issues are connected to being severely overweight.

I had a BMI of 64 at the time of surgery and had to lose 300 lbs to get to a normal weight, with the full DS you could get much closer to your ideal weight. It's just something to consider, as you search for the way to keep your health intact.

Scott

Hi Dondra,

My BMI isn't as high as yours but I think we all feel out of place when we're obese.  I agree with Scottie - Opt for the full DS.  You *DESERVE* to give yourself a chance at living healthy.   You're worth it.  Don't ever forget that. 

You are definitely not alone! Wow! 81lb since surgery??? That's FANTASTIC!!!!

First off...I'm sure that you've heard it before...don't compare yourself to anyone else. This is your marathon (please note...I did not say SPRINT!). I would suggest that rather than focus on your end weight, to focus on each pound that comes off. I was 597 when I started and 540 the day of surgery. I'm almost 2 years out and i'm still losing! I knew that I would not be to goal in 6, 12 or 18 months! I was hoping for 2 years, but now that it's almost december I know I will not make that...but do you know what? That is TOTALLY OK!!!! If I even thought oh I have to lose 397lb to get to my goal of still being fat @ 200lb I don't know what I would have done.

Focus on the present...like others have said, what you are able to do now that you couldn't do before. I have always loved clothes, but of course when the 5X is not big enough, the clothes were not loving me back lol But now...omg!!! I can wear heels again, I can shop in regular stores and actually have designer jeans!!! Besides the materialistic things (lol) the things i can do are incredible!!! I can RUN on the treadmill...ok..not for too long...BUT i can do it! When I first started exercising I was in the pool swimming laps because being weightless made it easier on my body to move around. Then I graduated to dry land lol treadmill, eliptical machine, weight training. Now i'm not gonna lie and say it is my favorite thing to do...I would rather be shopping lol but I do it and when i'm done i feel great!!!

I feel so in control of my life now. Probably the first time ever! I have a tool that helps me control my eating when my will needs some assistance lol

What I'm trying to say...is....be patient with yourself...be kind to yourself...you deserve it. The weight is going to come off...and probably more than you ever could have imagined. At this point...the only goal you need to have is to eat right, exercise and get plenty of water. If you do those things...the weight is going to take care of itself. Do yourself a favor and don't give yourself a weight goal as of now. It makes the road look long and impossible. Focus on the current, enjoy how your life is changing from day to day and before you know it, you will not believe how much weight has disappeared and how much joy you have aquired.

You CAN do this!!!!!

Dondra,

Do really think about what Scottie said. I was a 60+ BMI had the full DS and love where I am at. Yes people have had surgery at where I wanted to stop....I knew I would never get below 200 I'm just not built that way. But rocking size L shirts and size 10 jeans is pretty fun at 219 as many don't get to that weighing 130lbs. I am queen of the screw the BMI scale, but you really should think about the full DS to get to a healthier weight. And thoes stats for the VSG are for the first 2 years post-op...re-gain is quite common after 2 years. Cause even if you get to 400lbs, your still at extremely high risks for so much.

im so glad i found this one particular forum. i was 550 when i started with a bmi of 72.6 i was devestated. i had the RNY on August 16th 2010 and im down 134lbs. my new weight is 416 with a bmi of 54.9 i felt like i was the only super obese person on the board. if you ever need to talk im here for you

I too am glad I found this post. I was 464 at my surgery weight, my highest being 533. My BMI was 69+, I just had the sleeve done, I was scheduled for the RNY but my liver was too enlarged for them to do it, so they did the sleeve as a first step. I will see how much weight I can lose before deciding whether or not I have the second surgery. I have to wait at least a year before they can do it anyway.

You are not alone out there. There are many of us biggies and we are all in this together.

Hello! I am new to this board. I've been trying to get RNY for the last 5-6 years. At first I had insurance that would not cover gastric bypass surgery. Then when I finally got a job that had insurance  that would cover it, I found out I had cancer and had to deal with all the cancer stuff first. Well I am finally to the place where my cancer is in remission and I have health insurance that will cover the surgery. Unfortunately in the 5-6 years it took me to get to this point, I have gained another 50+ pounds. So now my BMI is like 73. So like you I am in the super morbidly obese category. I don't know if I will be able to lose all of my excess weight either. The chemo caused me to have osteoporosis, neuropathy and arthritis so I have a lot of pain issues. I know the excess weight is not helping my pain. I need to lose 200+ pounds and that seems like so much. I remember when I used to weigh 220 lbs and thought I was huge. Now, what I wouldn't give to weigh that amount. I was so upset when my weight creeped up to 300 lbs. I told myself I would never let myself get to 400 lbs but here I am just shy of 400 lbs. When I look at the whole picture I feel so overwhelmed. Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and let you know that you are not alone. I don't have many friends on here so I would love to be your friend. If you want to just send me a request. We can conquer these hurdles together! And by the weigh CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss so far. I think it is totally awesome that you'ved lost that much in such a short time. Be proud!