Super Duper High BMI
I'm lonely. My BMI was 91+ on day of op Aug 16. I've lost a total of 101lbs (20 of it was preop) but I read around OH and I cant help but feel like I am never going to be successful as those who had wls at 220lbs:( At 220lbs Id feel anorexic!
I had the sleeve as the first part of a DS but I have opted out of the DS part and made sure my surgeon gave me a small sleeve. I just have issues with the intesting thing....Ive seen too many people die, and the sleeve seemed no worse than having a gallbladder or appendix out.
Im excited about my weigh loss as on day of sugery I was 620, now I am 539. I did some looking around today and the % of expected WL for a VSG is around 60%....that would put me at about 400lbs. Im ok with that, Ive been super obese my whole life (75lbs @3, 140@7 etc) but I sorta already feel like a failure in other peoples eyes. Esp here.
Guess I just wanted to know if there were other bigguns out there....and to me a BMI of 50 isn't big, lol
I had the sleeve as the first part of a DS but I have opted out of the DS part and made sure my surgeon gave me a small sleeve. I just have issues with the intesting thing....Ive seen too many people die, and the sleeve seemed no worse than having a gallbladder or appendix out.
Im excited about my weigh loss as on day of sugery I was 620, now I am 539. I did some looking around today and the % of expected WL for a VSG is around 60%....that would put me at about 400lbs. Im ok with that, Ive been super obese my whole life (75lbs @3, 140@7 etc) but I sorta already feel like a failure in other peoples eyes. Esp here.
Guess I just wanted to know if there were other bigguns out there....and to me a BMI of 50 isn't big, lol
Hello sweetie! I think you've done great! Don't be discouraged.
I am not in this to look like a Barbie Doll (nor would I want to.) My goals are simple things like to be able to sit up and stand for longer periods of time without pain. So even though you might think I am smaller, if I can't hardly walk much less exercise then my weight is basically crippling me. I want to be able to sit up through a meeting or movie or church service without excruciating pain in my back and tail bone.
So look back and think about how you are better off now at one hundred pounds lighter!! Is your blood pressure a little lower? Can you walk a little farther? Stand up without someone helping you? Wipe your own butt or put on your own socks? Don't laugh. I've had trouble with both! My back is absolutely shot. You might not think about things like congestive heart failure. What if that 100 pounds you lost adds another 5 or 10 years to your life span?
That's what I'm after. If you look at things that way then you can see that you have indeed made progress and it was worth it! No victory is a small victory!
Don't let the percentages scare you. Those were averages they cooked up based on those little people you are talking about. You might break all their records because you are not a typical case. I hope you find some people you can relate to. If you need a friend add me.
I am not in this to look like a Barbie Doll (nor would I want to.) My goals are simple things like to be able to sit up and stand for longer periods of time without pain. So even though you might think I am smaller, if I can't hardly walk much less exercise then my weight is basically crippling me. I want to be able to sit up through a meeting or movie or church service without excruciating pain in my back and tail bone.
So look back and think about how you are better off now at one hundred pounds lighter!! Is your blood pressure a little lower? Can you walk a little farther? Stand up without someone helping you? Wipe your own butt or put on your own socks? Don't laugh. I've had trouble with both! My back is absolutely shot. You might not think about things like congestive heart failure. What if that 100 pounds you lost adds another 5 or 10 years to your life span?
That's what I'm after. If you look at things that way then you can see that you have indeed made progress and it was worth it! No victory is a small victory!
Don't let the percentages scare you. Those were averages they cooked up based on those little people you are talking about. You might break all their records because you are not a typical case. I hope you find some people you can relate to. If you need a friend add me.
I was at BMI of 68 and weighed 408 when I had VSG. I've lost just at 100 pounds...and the changes in my life are indescribable. You need to give yourself ALOT of credit lady. You have been through alot with this!! And you can keep losing....statistics are fine, but you can go beyond that!! I know how you feel about everyone having a lower starting BMI...I felt that way too...the lower their BMI the faster they seemed to lose and I felt like I was being left behind. No one really kept in touch much either...they lost the majority of what they wanted to lose and fell off the face of the earth....I am lonely too....lol. I have at least 80-100 more to go... I know you have a bit more...but ya know what....If you want a friend hun....you got it!! I wont desert you even if I hit goal before you do......If you want, mesage me and I'll send you my email and face book...I believe we are already friends on myspace....though I dont really use it much any more......Let me know...ok. <3 and hang in there!!! You are doing GREAT at the weight loss, now you just have to get with the emotional side of it!!! =o)
~*~Donna~*~ aka: KyMMi's~MoMMy!
taramarie123
on 10/26/10 12:38 pm - San Marcos, TX
on 10/26/10 12:38 pm - San Marcos, TX
My BMI was 73.3 on the day of surgery and I had lost 40 preop so it was over 80 when I started this journey. Trust me, you are not alone. I like this board the best because on other boards, people had surgery at my goal weight:) I find myself comparing my progress to others, but I have to remind myself, that I did this for me. For once, it's all about me!!!!!! Just remind yourself of that and when you feel like a failure, make a list of things you can do now that you couldn't do before. 1. I can walk 3 miles with NO back pain. 2. I can fit more comfortably in chairs at work. 3. I can order a meal and take home leftovers (saving $$$$). 4. I am off blood pressure meds. 5. I can mow my grass without stopping for breaks. 6. I can buckle my seatbelt in my car. The list goes on and on. And quite frankly, my new favorite hobby is trying on my pants that I wore at my highest weight. I kept a pair to remind me of how far I have come and it's awesome!!!! And to make myself feel really good, when people as me how much weight I lost, I tell them I lost Emily (that's my 16 yr old neice who weighs about the amount I lost) and then I tell them that I am working on losing Brenna (my 13 yo neice). LOL!!!! But the best question I had posed to me came from my doctor at my recent follow up. He said, "well, you have lost 120lbs. Do you miss them because I can strap on 120lbs of bricks and have you carry them around to remind yourself of your progress?" Can you imagine, pick up a 40lbs bag a dog food next time you are at the store and remind youself you lost 2 1/2 of those. Can you imagine carrying them around all day, everyday???
And last but not least, 100lbs in 2 months!!!!! You go girl!!!!! That's awesome!!!!
And last but not least, 100lbs in 2 months!!!!! You go girl!!!!! That's awesome!!!!
First off - WOOT! WOOT!
You are rocking that VSG!!! Depending on how restrictive your Sleeve is also determines your percentage. Not to mention how YOU use your tool. I read your post and said, "See, you aren't nearly as badass as you thought, this Chica had way more courage!"
I am going RNY, but still wonder if VSG would be enough. My Boyfrined is going VSG, he doesn't want his bowel monkeyed with. For me, I am feeling I need a certain amount of malabsorption, but dang it, it is a little scary how much is involved in RNY.
What I have heard is if you can drop 1/3 of your weight, you have done your body a GREAT favor. I am only down 40 pounds - a drop in the perverbial bucket - but I feel better getting around. I realize I am probably a lot more active then the majority of folks over 70+ BMI, but damn it, I hurt so much it is sometimes a battle to suit up & swim laps. My surgeon told me he doesn't think he could do the amount of laps I do, so I must be ahead of the game.
Stay positive. Yes, it is hard to look at the "shoulda, woulda, coulda's", but YOU are in control of how well you succeed. If you see just a two hundred pound loss, isn't it better than where you started? One hundred pounds HAS GOT to have made a HUGE IMPACT on mobility!
CHIN UP (I have more Chins than a Chinese Phone Book *chuckles*) and be PROUD of the loss YOU HAVE attained!!! WOOT WOOT! Girlie!
Brenda : )~
You are rocking that VSG!!! Depending on how restrictive your Sleeve is also determines your percentage. Not to mention how YOU use your tool. I read your post and said, "See, you aren't nearly as badass as you thought, this Chica had way more courage!"
I am going RNY, but still wonder if VSG would be enough. My Boyfrined is going VSG, he doesn't want his bowel monkeyed with. For me, I am feeling I need a certain amount of malabsorption, but dang it, it is a little scary how much is involved in RNY.
What I have heard is if you can drop 1/3 of your weight, you have done your body a GREAT favor. I am only down 40 pounds - a drop in the perverbial bucket - but I feel better getting around. I realize I am probably a lot more active then the majority of folks over 70+ BMI, but damn it, I hurt so much it is sometimes a battle to suit up & swim laps. My surgeon told me he doesn't think he could do the amount of laps I do, so I must be ahead of the game.
Stay positive. Yes, it is hard to look at the "shoulda, woulda, coulda's", but YOU are in control of how well you succeed. If you see just a two hundred pound loss, isn't it better than where you started? One hundred pounds HAS GOT to have made a HUGE IMPACT on mobility!
CHIN UP (I have more Chins than a Chinese Phone Book *chuckles*) and be PROUD of the loss YOU HAVE attained!!! WOOT WOOT! Girlie!
Brenda : )~
Hi. My bmi was in the 60's , weight was 449, and I felt really bad. Now bmi is 40, weight 284. Is this a huge accomplishment......yes it is. My next goal I have set is to reach 250. I will still be a big woman. but to me it feels like I am tiny. Others start at what I will be very pleased to say is my goal. It's ok. I did this for me and no one else.
Don't let anybody elses journey diminish all of the awesome things you are accomplishing. I bet I will be happier reaching my 250 than some one else will reaching their 140
Joanne
Forget about being failure in other peoples eyes. In your eyes is what counts. Believe in Dondra and others are not important. If you continue to worry about others you will not succeed and will not be happy. I have 3 P's that I live by now. Persevere, Patience and Positive. I want to encourage you to be and think positive about every aspect of your life. It is the only way to succeed. You are doing it. Just my being brave enough to have VSG you showed you have courage. Look how many do not have these WLS *****ally need it.
Keep up the good work Lady!! There are plenty of us bigguns around this joint!
Keep up the good work Lady!! There are plenty of us bigguns around this joint!
Dondra, I have read and re read your post many times since you posted. I am walking a mile in your shoes! (realling sitting on the sofa not walking much yet) I started with a BMI 74+ and now still pre op down to 71.2. Surgery for VSG is scheduled for 11/2/10. Was postponed once due to needing cardiac clearance. Now I worry that on Monday when I go into the office for a weigh in and I have not lost 10% of my weight He is postponeme again. I hve passed all my tests and done really good for me on the pre op diet, could not do all liquids this week , but ate very healthfully and very low calorie and lowlow essentially no carbs and no added sugar. EG carrots have natural sugar and ate few of those type of vegs. So here I go to the office to see if I get rejected. I guess all the past failures have made me a pessimistic person. I want to find the optimism I used to have. I know i have lost weight I have "granny pants" now for underwear. Ha Ha . Not running too fast these days may loose my unmentionables? 
I will keep you all advised of my contuning saga. Maja 
PS if you want to be my friend e mail me.
I will keep you all advised of my contuning saga. Maja PS if you want to be my friend e mail me. Most Active
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