Yup, second hello post

Hi Tabby,

Thanks - it is nice to be remembered. :)  I don't get on here much - but I can say that your success is a major inspiration to me!

Only 11 more days!  Yikes!

Heather.

Welcome Tim!

Congrats on making the most important decision of your life! It took me 3 years to decide and I was 39 years old. By the time I went in I knew I had made the right decision and I never turned back. I was very positive and knew I would be fine. Since my BMI was 80 at the time of surgery I was really high risk! and I had to find a surgeon willing to perform the surgery. I had a surgery day in 2003 and the surgeon canceled on me because I do not take blood transfusions.

Please keep in mind you have to do some hard work to maintain your weight loss. The easy part is losing the weight. Especially in the honeymoon stages of this journey. Honeymoon is 12 to 18 months post surgery. Enjoy it, savor it. In my opinion the work comes in maintaining the weight loss.

In the last 3 years I managed to gain 80 pounds back. Since March 2010 I have re-lost 28 pounds back and it has not been easy but I am worth it and I refused to gain back the 300 pounds I had lost. I am feeling good and exercising almost every day and soon my BMI is going to be back in 40's and this time I plan not to be in the 50's ever again. I will not be in the 50's again! When I reached 388 and saw I was creeping back up to the 400's, I said OH NO you don't. I was not going back to 400 plus. Now my main goal is to get to 299 by March 2011. Never to return to the 300's and I am going to do it. My pouch still works for me and support groups, support sites have really helped me to get back on track.

Learn from my experience. 3 years ago I got ****y and was feeling good about weight lose and fell back into old habits. I stopped posting here, stopped going to WLS support groups. I was still exercising for the most part but that was not enough with poor eating habits. Listen to your surgeons recommendations and rules. Follow them to the full and you will be a success.

Positive attitude is everything Tim. Take you mental attitude very seriously. Get counseling. I was in counseling several years before RNY and several years after. Stay positive and I know you can do it!! I still feel good and my WLS changed my life and it will change yours too!! Keep in touch with us!!! Whooohooo! I am always happy for anyone taking this step to save themselves and have a better quality of life. I hear a lot in your post about how you are OK with yourself. Hogwash! I am not buying it for one minute. Don't fool yourself. Honesty with thyself is so important on this journey!! You want to ride a bike again and ride a roller coater. This does not sound like someone OK with current body.....:-) Self denial got you here so don't continue to go there Tim! Again KIT and keep us posted.

HA. your right... I tend to hate myself quite a bit...  I think I am just comfortable in my comfort zone, if that makes sense. 

I think more then anything I want to do this for my kids... My wife and obviously myself.  I want so badly to grow old and watch my grand-children play.  I want to be able to play with my children now...

Oh, do I ever want to play with them right now...


Thank you all *****plyed..  I love having friends and support here.

You're not really in a comfort zone...it's just easier to do nothing...i know that feeling...and I don't ever want to feel it again!

Wow...you have received some great advice! That was great Molly...

Yes...we are all here to support each other. Come on Tim...we have a space all set up for you on the losers bench!!

I am all set to go.  I just need my surgeon and shrink to say I am mentaly stable for a date lol. 

I hope not to long...

You guys are awesome by the way!

T.

"I look forward to running, riding a bike again...  And some day jumping out of an airplane (My wife thinks I am crazy lol).  Roller-coasters and Cedar Point!  I can't wait for it all...  And yet...  Can it happen?"

YES YES YES!  And YESSSS!

At my highest weight I could barely muster the energy to walk five minutes (and once I did, I almost always started sweating).  I hadn't rode a bike since middle school.  Never ran or jogged.  Didn't do much of anything.

Now I'm doing it all!  Cedar Point roller coasters with my daughter a few weeks ago!  Roller skating!  Bike riding frequently!  Doing the Couch to 5K training program and miraculously jogging!  I can't believe how active I am, and more importantly - how enjoyable it is!  No constant sweat.  No immediate exhaustion.  No dread.  Just go go go!  I would love to go sky diving too - sounds like a blast to me!

I wish you the best in moving forward in this journey, whatever you decide.  Like you, it's been a long process - I initially researched this nearly ten years ago and have stalked OH for all of the years in between.  At coming up on 10 months out, I have no regrets - only gratitutde.  But each person has to make the decision of what is best for themselves.  

Stick around - it's a great forum we have here!