Just a hello. :)

 Sometimes "lightweights" can be a bit disheartening. Hearing about it all!
I'm FAT! Heh I want to know other people like me, or who were like me, and have (or had) a lot to lose.

So hi! :D

 Hi! 

I can relate. My surgery BMI was 51.6. I'm extremely grateful for my weight loss, but it can be a bit disheartening sometimes to see people who started with much lower BMIs rocket to their goal, while I'm still chipping away at this last 25-30 lbs.

Hey Mommy!

I am waving from the Seattle Washington Area - and guess what, I am FAT.  Not a BBW/SSBBW - I am a CFC wanting to just be a CC - Cute Fat Chick...

I am a Heavyweight - started this year at 474 - slowing working my way down the scale - just hit 447 - so, at least I am headed in the right direction.

The pain hurts (physically), but I still keep pushing forward.  It is NEVER easy feeling eyes on you, worried what is going on in their heads, but you have to just say, "And?!"  I have had confrontation - sometimes I react with creativity, sometimes jokes, other times I just try to turn the other check.  Then again, who knows, they may be saying, "Wow!  She is graceful..." or maybe "She looks cute in that outfit..." 

Be true to yourself; Try to forgive yourself when you fail; Never give up; LOVE yourself!
Brenda  : )~

Welcome, I can relate to how you are feeling. My starting BMI was mid 50s and it is difficult. I used to get overwhelmed when I reallized that if I lost a hundred pounds I would still be "fat." I am finally past that, and I have been able to focus on running the race to be a healthier me. I still have a ways to go, but I am getting there.

I totally feel ya! I started with a BMI of 59 and could just not relate to the lightweights who were grossed out at being over 200 when I was praying to be in the 200's. Well here I am a year and 3 months later and I'm almost a member of the double century club (8 more lbs!!!)

Hang in there and you've found a great place for support!

Well...I have lost over 300lb and I'm STILL Fat...LOL These days I have changed it to almost skinny LOL

If I ever said to myself I have to lost 397lb to be close to normal...but still overweight I think I would have just stayed in bed with the covers over my head.

I knew going in I had alot to do...and so I gave myself a reasonable timeline to get it done. I have learned to enjoy the journey and not get frustrated trying to get to my destination. I will get there eventually...but for now, I'm enjoying every little thing I can do now that before I couldn't and all the marvelous clothes that I can fit into now, that weren't even a thought before. I'm loving it...(I'll take mcdonald's slogan, they can keep the fries lol)

Good luck...we're all here to support one another. Have fun on your journey!!!!

 My BMI was above 80 when I started.  I've lost 275 lbs and it still 32 - obese.  Do I feel like a failure? No way - my success is not measured by other people's standards.  Stay away from the lightweight boards if they are discouraging.  The key to success is doing what you are told to do and do it faithfully.  Do I eat off plan? Sure, I do.  Am I aware that I am eating off plan and do it deliberately?  Indeed!  Mindfully eating is the key - knowing why you are eating what you are eating and deciding if it eating it is worth it.  Usually I go with it not being worth it, but some days - I indulge.  It makes me feel "normal".   And that is why I had surgery, to be "normal".  Keeping your long-term goal in mind is helpful when having to make those day in day out short-term decisions.    

Thanks for the replies!

I don't want this to sound wrong, but it's nice to see others who have similar weight amounts of mine to lose (or they have lost, or are in the process of losing, heh).

I try not to let it bother me when people get to "goal" after losing 70lbs, but sometimes, I can't help it! :D I hit over 400lbs this year so definitely determined not to let it get any worse! Just crossing my fingers surgery goes well.

I feel your pain!  I saw a post on another board from someone who had WSL and after a loss of only 26 pounds was halfway to goal.  I found that so discouraging.  I am from Canada and all I could think of was why are the WLS surgeries (which are very slow in coming - I have a 3 to 4 YEAR wait ahead of me) wasted on those with such small amounts of weight to lose compared to us.  It made me so very angry.  Okay, and I will admit, jealous.  I am so glad I found this forum because I feel so much more at home here.

Hey D,

Well as you will see I definitely can relate because I have lost over 200 pounds and my BMI is still 50....:-) Working on getting out those 50's soon and forever. I found this forum about a month ago and I love it because it does help having support from us heavy weights or the super morbidly obese. We are in a different category for sure.

I do not like to take anything away from those trying to lose weight but a person with less than 100 pounds to lose or even 100 to 150 pounds to lose do not understand have 200 to 400 pounds to lose. Wishing you a speedy recovery!!