Putting up with less crap / savoring joy

I wasn't really sure how to title this, but hopefully I can adequately describe it.

The more I lose weight, the less patient I am and the less I put up with crappy stuff or things that don't feel in harmony with who I am, my values, or my needs.  I resigned from an organization tonight b/c I realized I didn't have enough hours to commit without me having to take away some time that I give to myself (via cooking, exercise, etc.).  I was getting overwhelmed and the feelings were way too close to the pre-op feelings of anxiety and stress that I struggled with. 

Do you find yourself putting up with less?  Craving positivity?  I wish I could completely surround myself with "glass half full" folks.  After soooooo many years of feeling like crappola both physically and emotionally, now that I have a taste of what the "good stuff" is like, when the bad happens it feels ten times worse than it used to.  I think I kind of got numb to it all before.  And clearly buried my woes in Ben and Jerry's.  

Am I alone in this?

no your not alone in this. I so had a day like that today, so I have been having some issues with my car not passing smog and its in the shop to get fixed tomorrow but still stressful. Then today at lunch at work I'm eating and chatting not paying attention and I felt pain I never felt before like something was getting stuck. I looked at my sister and was like ok I got to go throw up, so I rushed to the bathroom almost puking in the hall, I made it to the bathroom puked up my lunch and was better. I talked to my sister this evening and told her my feelings of being a little sad cause Sunday is my birthday and I cant have cake lol. She was like you where given a gift and blah blah and omg you have issues with food, ummm hello duh, she made me so upset cause she doesn't understand what I'm going thru. Do i dare try some cake no, but I did tell her I tried a tiny piece of a cookie the other night cause I wanted to know if I would dump yes I was trying to see if I would dump, I think the piece was so small it did nothing to me, was I going to try more no, but i was thinking about it but i didn't. So anyway sorry I took over your post I feel so much better getting that off my chest. I love this site. You all understand what I'm going thru.

You nailed it! I am going through the same exact thing. I am feeling so isolated! I just cannot put up with the typical garbage that I used to. I really don't know how I did it before! I find some people absolutely insufferable now. I never felt this way before. I over looked people's idiosyncrasies, over extended myself, and did EVERYTHING that was asked of me. Not now. I almost don't want to leave my house b/c I get so irritated with the demands that are being placed onto me. Worst of all, I don't think anyone in my immediate support system understands where I am at emotionally. Thanks it sure feels good to get that off my chest.

Yes, Michelle, I can empathize as well...I've learned to wean negative, energy-draining acquaintances from my company, and I've entered couples counseling with my SigOt of 10 years to enhance our relationship. It's definitely freer and happier to surround yourself in positive energy as we emerge from our numbified pasts. Rather than turn to once-beloved Ben & Jerry's, we are learning to deliberately distance ourselves from the actual stressors, when possible.
Life is so much better these days, no doubt!

Thanks for posting, friend...I "feel" ya! Have a great Wednesday and rest-of-the-week!

~Linda

Yep.  I get it.   I sure do get it!

It's called healthy attitude and living your life to the fullest - DO IT!!  Surround yourself with healthy, happy people as much as possible.  And be that way yourself.   Lighten up!  Be good to YOU!!!

You are on your way!

from the poem Solitude:

Laugh and the world laughs with you.  Weep and you weep alone.
For the sad old earth must borrow it's mirth, but has troubles enough of it's own. 

I love that one!

I am struggling with this often, thank you for sharing it does make it a little better knowing I am not alone in this.  The hardest part I find right now is telling myself that I have the RIGHT to take negative things or people out of my life.

I totally understand this.

I've come to the same realization myself recently after returning home after 2 weeks back east on a visit to my hometown. During my visit I had booked myself into a motel with a pool so I could de-stress and exercise. For most of those 2 weeks, my schedule was my own and I didn't have to deal with my disabled husband (auto accident) and his thoroughly unpleasant 27 year old son, also disabled (Asperger's & brain injury).  This "kid" is pure negativity.

It was the first "vacation" I'd had in years.

Now these guys aren't incapacitated, are smart and can do chores. They just choose to amuse themselves on the internet all day. When I got home, I spoke very frankly to my husband about how the time away had made me realize that I was no longer going to be the doormat I had been. He needed to step up, and son needed to find another home.

We'd already been working with local agencies to get the son support services and out on his own. Clay agrees with me that J has become a negative influence on the peace in our home and has agreed to accellerate the transition.

Woo Hoo!

 I am so with you on this!  I am only a couple months out from surgery, but had to omit some things and people from my life that bring me down.  I am just allergic to BS now!  And I chose not to surround myself with drama.  I crave positivity and like being with positive people.  I also have developed a self-confidence to not be treated as a doormat any longer.  I am better than that and don't deserve to be treated like I am unworthy.  But I am still respectful, but won't be walked on anymore.

Thank you all for sharing your experiences!  It's nice to know I'm not alone.

I'm on the cusp of making a decision that could seriously improve my own emotional wellbeing and the environment that I'm in, but frankly - change is hard and scary.  As someone who just can't deal with "uckyness" anymore I have to take the leap.  But I'd be lying if I said my (tiny) stomach wasn't doing flip flops over it.  :) 

I was told that that it is a hormonal thing and I needed to get it under control!!   Is not! I have found it very very hard to be around negative, makes me want to bite off the poeple's heads!  HAPPY THOUGHTS ONLY PLEASE!  LOL