to many changes

 so i got my surgery approval date for hernia repair and corset procedure tummy skin removal sept 9th.. i went on a lil weekend get away with some friends to a lake to celebrate john/hubby didnt want to go... i had an amazing time.. but came home to hell jealousy spite ettc.. he said some  unforgiiable things sayting he wished i hadnt lost weight an he wanted a BIG woman not that im small by anymeans but he liked it when i never went anywhere an layed around waiting to die.. so i finally decided i had enough packed my personal belongings an left... am staying at my brothers an see lawyer on the 7th.... the thing that hurt me more then anythng was he wouldnt let me take my pups....  iv4e had one for 10 yrs an other for 3 yrs.. they are my children.. since i wasnt ever able to concieve i find it just manipulative an spiteful that hes keepin me from havin them... since only things i took were clothes etc.... anyhow... just wanted to update my fav ppl an say..... that even tho this is a crazy time for me i dont regret having surgery losing weight an becoming me again yet new an improved..

I am so sorry.  The lawyer should be able to help with the babies.  Try not to put off the surgery, but expect some low emotions afterwards.  Always after suregry, but more so now.  PM if you need plastic surgery advice.  Many good wishes and prayers.  Loris

Stay strong! You are an awesome woman and deserve the best!

From things you've said here before, I had a hint that John was pretty controlling. Now that you are shedding the old husk and emerging as The Real Peggy, he's lost control. While what he said was hateful, it's good that you know what poison he harbors inside. Run!

About the pups, that's just mean.

(((((((Peggy)))))))

(((HUGS)))

Peggy, since you started posting, you've always been one of my heroes. You've overcome so much of what this horrible obese life does to us. I usually find myself bawling after I read one of your posts about a NSV that a non-SMO person just wouldn't understand.

This is just another step out of that life.

Hang tough! You're one of most resilient women I've met here on OH.

Patti

 thanks for the encouragement ladies.. means more then u know.. huggles... 

You can go to court to get custody of the furbabies. Don't let any man ever let you feel like crap. It is inexcusable for what he said!!

You've had good responses from everyone here, Peggy.  Let me just reiterate that you are awesome and on your way to good health.   Don't let ANYONE get in the way of that.

All the best to you!

oh I'm so sorry that happened. But...you know what? this is another NSV....the ability to walk away when you know something isn't good for you and you deserve better!

I know it's probably difficult, but keep moving forward, you are soooooooooo worth it!!!!

....the ability to walk away when you know something isn't good for you and you deserve better!

Great reminder for all of us as well!  Not just a significant other, but ANYONE or ANYTHING that isn't good for you.

Some relationships/things/situations are toxic, some are good. Seek out the good ones. You deserve it.

Peggy, you're undergoing another life-changing decision, no doubt. But things happen for a reason, so this transition may be an intended result of your growing stronger. You have indeed become so much more independent, and that seems to intimidate some men who want to control their mates. I view you as a butterfly emerging from a cacoon, discovering her beauty and abilities as she goes...

I'm proud of your successes and ongoing progress; best of luck on your upcoming surgery, and understand that you are not to blame in your marriage issues. Damn sorry about your doggies, though...my two are my kids and I know the bond.

Keep on being strong & getting even stronger!

~Linda in S FL