Sorry........I need to vent!!!!!!!

I just got home a few minutes ago. We live on a small street in a large city where people like to hang out on their porches. My fiancee and I had to walk by a few guys who live next to us (ages 20-21) who obviously had nothing better to do than to hang out on their porch. My fiancee was walking ahead of me because his hands were holding heavy bags of groceries and was in a hurry to put them down on our porch. When I walked by, they started telling eachother, "Look, there's Budha. That right there is Budha." As many of you know, I have had a panniculectomy, as well as have lost over 120lbs. I KNOW I LOOK GOOD!!!! But the funny thing is, my fiancee is very overweight and had a big belly. (due to my panni, I no longer have a belly!) So, why am I Budha, and not my fiancee????? Why was nothing said to him, but I was called names???? This has happened more than once!!!! About 2 years ago, (when I was definately big) my fiancee and I were walking home, and a bunch of guys in a car started shouting "It's the great pumkin!!!!" at me because I was wearing an orange shirt. AGAIN nothing was said to or about my overweight fiancee!!! WHY???????????

Men are such chickens!!!!!!!!!!

That's the only reason why I can figure they would only yell stuff at me and not my man!!!!! Any one else encounter stuff like this where you are with someone else overweight and, yet, YOU are the only one targeted for verbal abuse?

I'm sorry that they made those hurtful comments... people can be so cruel :( 

I was targeted in high school by a group of boys that would yell "moo" everytime I tried to enter the cafeteria from the front doors.  So I'd slip in through the back, get my junk (nachos, choc chip cookie and pop) and go hide out elsewhere in the school to eat.  What was more hurtful were the male administrators that "monitored" the area and witnessed it, but did nothing.

Some say it's more socially acceptable to have some excess weight if you're male.  Though, I know my dad was teased often in his workplace, I don't think the level of viciousness was as high as what I've seen women endure.  Kind of like how gray hair on a man can make him look "distinguished" but on a woman supposedly they just look old (which is BS - I know women with gray/white hair that are gorgeous).  But, it all depends on the person and their experiences - I'm sure many men have horror stories of ridicule as well. 

At any rate, I am sorry that those men felt the need to insult you in such a way.  Says a hell of a lot more about them than it does you, though.