Telling people about surgery

I will be having surgery on February 1st.  This is the third time I have been scheduled, but because of other health problems it was not able to happen.  I am so tired of everyone (the family) talking about my weight and what I am going to do about it, that right now they believe I am having surgery for another stomach condition that I have been receiving treatments for.  I just don't want to deal with all of the comments from them again.  Is this a wrong attitude to have?  I have never been a normal weight, so I have been hearing this for 47 years.  Now I just want to do my own thing and move on with my life.  How have others dealt with "the family"?
Thanks   Joanne

This is always such a personal decision.  I am single no no in laws.  Once I made the decision I informed my mother (who lives with me and I knew was against it)  I told her I had done my research and I was moving ahead and that I would answer any of her questions, but would not entertain any negativity.  My brother and his family do not know, but more so because they have been dealing with my 10 yo nephew having cancer. But I would be honest if they asked.  Howver my adoptive family (my co-workers) have known since I started the process and they have been terribly supportive. I can't say that you have the wrong attitude, but your gonna need to put the comments and what ifs behind you, this is a new way of life.  I have found it easier when people know what I am going through.  So if these folks are in your daily life I think it is easier if they are on board.  If they are only occasionally around then probably no big deal, but it sounds like you have given them a lot of power over your thoughts and behavior, you may want to think about that.

I don't blame you.  I haven't told some people (even family) because I don't wanna have to deal with their negativity about the surgery.  I have told a few people close to me and my boss though.  I even have a mother threatening to come stay with me after surgery to help me get better, but I may have to decline her offer.  I don't need that kinda stress after surgery!  lol.  (Is that terrible of me?) I say if you don't wanna tell them then don't.  It's none of their business.  But I do think you need at least 1 person to confide in, someone that is going to be your support system.