Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. What are going to do with it.

   Happy New Year everyone.    If  Tomorow is the first day of the rest of your life.  Then what are you going to do with it.     It time for more than a resolution to lose weight in this New  Year.   You need to change your whole life style.  So what are the one thing your going to do differently in the New Year.


   I, m hoping to smile and learn to be happy more often.   I,m going  to forgive myself  for lifetime of failures and unhappiness.   
       My biggest failure of my life has always been my weight.  I hated myself and my family because of my weight.  My whole family was over weight.  That,s and understatement they were super huge so I became huge.  Deep down I hated my whole family for that and myself.   My whole life has been defined by my weight.  Since I was a child.  I was told I was worthless as a fat person in some of the most cruel ways.   By the world at large.    I,m almost 40 years old and still have finely come to grips with the fact.  My weight is my responsibility.   I,m responsible for what I put into my mouth and how I treat my body.  I have to do right by myself.  I have to exercise every day.   I have to put myself first.  Because nobody else well.   I watch severial member of my family die young because their weight.   I always felt hopeless like I was trapped in this body that I hated.   I have always been a person of great faith an have always tried to be good and kind person to everybody.    But, a the  same time.  I had no faith in myself or that I was deserving of a mircle or forgiveness or a better life.
  I have learned that even being fat that I am still a person of worh.  I am smart and beautiful and I love my self.  I still weigh 359. pounds but,  I know in my heart as a fact.  That this year will be different.  Because,  I will make it different.  
    I still have 40 pounds to lose.  Before I can have my weight loss surgery.  But, I am going to lose them and I am going to change my life for the better. 
  Happy New Year. 

WOW Doris!

thanks for this post - I could have written it about myself!! esp the "My weight is my responsibility.   I,m responsible for what I put into my mouth and how I treat my body." part...

I am coming up on 40 years old ... and am close to you in weight and also have 40# to lose before I can 'apply' for surgery ... 

I literally spent ALL of 2009 screwing around, in denial, trying to talk myself into believing that 360#, then 370#, then 380# was OK for me and IT IS NOT OK for me - it is a health issue that I need to address. 

So I need to stop lying to myself. I will combat it second by second, minute by minute, choice by chouce ... just like the 12-step says 'one day at a time.'

And I am not going to lie anymore because I LOVE MYSELF and I DESERVE TO BE CARED FOR, and I DESERVE TO BE HEALTHY, and with God's help I HAVE THE COURAGE AND POWER to make the choices and stay on the path to get where I want to go.

Yes you will make 2010 different, one day at a time, one choice at a time - I believe in you! 

God, grant US the
SERENITY to accept the things we cannot change
COURAGE to chnage the things we can
and the WISDOM to know the difference

Happy New Year!

Doris and Denise - I'm hoping for the BEST for each of you this year!   Happy New Year.  Love your body now, for what it has been through and carried you through.  Your body has functioned, like mine, in spite of the extra weight we carry.  Weight runs in families, but we are responsible to treat it well.  Love yourselves, you both deserve that.

thanks for the kind words and kind wishes - and CONGRATS on your journey so far - WOW! that is inspiring!

Hey, I'm rooting for both you pre op people. I had to lose 37 lbs to get my surgery. Took me 5 months, but I did it and I know you all can too. I wasn't smart like you to take care of the weight in my 30's or 40's. I didn't clue in until I was 57 and could hardly walk. Oh well, I have a lap band now and I'm loving it. Life is SO MUCH easier without food talking to me all day.

I agree that we have to start from a point of forgiving ourselves and loving ourselves and having personal dignity. Little changes helped me like making my bedroom look nicer or getting perfume. Some of it cost money, but lots of it was just organizing things and changing my schedule. I tried to change things around and made a little reading nook with music and good lighting so that I wasn't laying on the futon watchig tv for hours at a time.

The little changes made me feel better, then I was able to stuff LESS food in my face and work on NOT going through the drive through before or after work. My car just heads on home now where I know I have healthy food waiting. I'm not so "afraid" of hunger these days. I know I can drink some water or tea and I won't perish before the food is ready.

Let us know how you are doing. We love to encourage the pre ops!!