Support

Okay so I have been struggling some lately. I am enjoying the weight loss but with the weight loss I over examine how I look and fear what I will look like a year from now. I really wanted to talk so some people at the support group. I get there last night(my first time) and no one was there. I was so bummed.

My husband is great support for me but he has not been through it, and I just want to be around people who understand. This is a hard adjustment. I feel moody somedays, and I just want to cry. Then other days I am excited and thinking about when I reach my goal weight trying to get pregnant.

Is this a roller coaster   I am on? Does it ever stop?

Hi Nicole,
Your website is soo empowering!! I was soo Blessed!! Let God continue to use you.. Press on>>  .. I am new to the OH site and I am hoping to have my surgery shortly.. I really would like to add you has a friend... 

Thanks for taking the time to read, I am sending you a request!!

I too snuck a peek at your website.. wow.. what an inspiration you are!  You are such a beautiful person.. and obviously getting better day by day.  I didnt have the surgery.. and unfortunetly won't be having it.  After insurance.. they wanted 25K up front.. it just wasnt going to happen, I am trying do this on my own.  God Bless you hon and Good Luck with your journey.  I would love to follow your progress..  If your hesitant to add me as a friend, I can follow your website. 
Take care.. and I will keep you in my prayers..

Thanks for taking the time to read my site too. I wouldn't know what to do without Obesityhelp and the kind people I meet on here!! Lets keep in touch. Sending a request to you!

PS  If you are having a lot of head hunger it may be real hunger.  Make sure that you are eating enough.  Loris

We all started on the same rollercoaster!! But believe me, it DOES get better. You are WORKING your program and it is going to keep working for you! The head hunger is like any other problem--it's best to face it HEAD ON and kick its ass. Those cravings are not the boss of you! You have done so well!

Over time, choosing good foods, good coping, and making the connection between these improved behaviors and how much better you feel physically and emotionally, will help you to maintain abstinence from compulsive eating. Sometimes we fall off the wagon, but it's important to just climb right back on! The Japanese have a proverb: Fall down 7 times, Stand up 8!

Thanks girl for your support. The head hunger is the worse!! The feeling you are mising out is irritating!!

My standing up may be over 8 already!! LOL

I know what you mean, and although people do show up to my support group we have had some guest speakers, and a lot of pre-ops(I have only been 3 times) so I haven't had a chance to really comiserate and learn, etc..  And I have a wonderful well meaning group of friends, but they just don't understand.  So while I can't tell you if this ever stops the cycles of thought, I can tell you you are certainly not alone, and myself and the others here will listen and support you.

It does even out for a while and then bing, swoop it starts again.  LOL  The thing that helped me most was keeping my sense of humor and living in the moment.  I am so glad I did.  If I had waited until I reached goal in Feb. to enjoy my new life I would have had a rude awakening.  I have suffered four major loses, including one today, since then.  Enjoy each moment and look forward to the future.  Don't worry about the future because it clogs up today.  Hugs, Loris