where is your confidence

I have more confidence now that I have lost 145. I am at a standstill and need to loose 50 before the tummy tuck. Some days I have so much confidence in my self and other days I don't. Any one have suggestions?

 My confidence in my physical appearance improved greatly with this hundred pounds lost although I am no where near my goal.  This confidence has impacted other parts of my life - I am no more competent at my job than I was before WLS but, I feel more confident because I generally feel better about myself...

But truthfully, I have come to believe that confidence is a mental construct more than it is a physical one.  Confidence is an "act as if" thing.  If you act as if you have confidence then people tend to treat you better and that in turn actually builds your confidence.  Act as if you were as confident as you wanted to be each day even if you aren't feeling it.  Try this as an experiement - I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

Best wishes,

Rhonda

Thank you so very much, I have always heard that, but it has not been easy, but I am going to give it a try.

To be honest, my confidence hasn't ever lacked.  I'm so lucky that way.  I was raised that I could do anything I set my mind to do, so I forged ahead.  A heavy teen and obese young adult, I stayed in school, finally getting through graduate school to my masters degree.  I have done lots of public speaking and training all over the country.  I'm told by others I exude confidence.

However, as a 57 year old women with a BMI of over 60, I have been discriminated against during my career.  My most prestigious position was obtained when I had lost 100 pounds on optifast in the late 1980s.  That postion was lost due to layoffs in 1998, and I have been underemployed since.  I'm looking forward to overcoming the obstacle that my weight presents! 

I have to say that the place confidence suffers is that I feel I have to do better than others, be more clever, etc. to be accepted because of my weight.

If you don't mind me asking, what was your degree in and what was the prestigous job. Also what did you publicly speak on? The reason I ask is I am in school and just got my Assoc degree and working on a bachelors. I also want to do public speaking on domestic violence, since I was a victim of 19 years. Thanks for your help.

I don't mind a bit, but it is a bit off the topic.  I will send you a private message.

I have trouble with my confidence once in awhile.
But when i walk by a full length mirror it sure grabs my attention i have to backup and getanother look.lol
But ihave found that knowing i am working on imroving myself boost my confidence.
Good luck sweetie  and you have done wonderful

Thank you so very much. Your message really made me feel good.