Fat Discrimination is acceptible in America. How many of you have been discrimated against?

Fat discrimination in America.  How many of you have been discriminated against or fired or turned down for a job or openly laughed at because of your weight ?

A few years back I weighed between 425 and 475lbs and I was looking for a different job. I sent my resume to this job and a man called me and more or less hired me over the phone. I had all the qualifications and experiance he was looking for. He was thrilled because I fit the job to a T.  I was to go in the next day and do a face to face interview.

I showed up at 8:00 am and entered the office.  He gave me a funny look and looked me up and down and said may I help you?  I am Tommi I think we spoke yesterday about the job. His next comment was you are Tommi?  I said yes. He took me into his office and proceded to tell me all the bad parts of the job and how he did'nt know if I was the right fit.  I just could'nt believe it.   I held it together but after I left I cried all the way home.

The worst part is he was probably about 300lbs and in his late 50's  what a hypocrite. People can be so cruel.   Sometimes I think people who judge like that miss out on some of the best employees.

After that I found job and put in 3 weeks notice with my current employer. Was all set to leave and on my last day. My boss walked out and instead of the owner chasing her down. He chased me down all weekend and offered me a huge raise and the supervisor position. I have been her ever since.

His LOSS!!!!

I am right there with you.  People just assume we are pigs or something (hate to be so cruel) and look at us like we don't deserve to be on this earth.  I hate it.  My friend had WLS about 2 years ago and she told me how people are going to look at you so differently after WLS.  I am still the same person.  Can't anyone look past the shell and look at the inside of me?  I worked in a real estate office where the boss allowed another agent to refer to me as a "fat pig" and he did nothing about it.  I was sitting right across the room when she did it.  He allowed the discrimination to continue and he himself even referenced the size of my a**.  I was devistated and finally left and opened my own office so I didn't have to deal with it anymore.  People are so mean and cruel. 

When I was 18, I auditioned for a role in a play and was better than the girl they cast in the leading role. When I talked with the director and asked what I could have done better, she said that I did a great job acting, it was just that I was too large to play the leading lady. The part had absolutely nothing to do with size. There was no mention of her being small or petite or anything like that, it was basically just that she didn't think a fat girl could be wanted by two men. Oh and she was a very large lady herself!

Oh, I had this happen too!  I always was a character actress when I was in high school because I was plus-sized.  Looking back, I was beautiful!  And I was talented enough to be the lead for sure.  I was always the aunt, the crazy neighbor, the mother, the housekeeper - never Maria or Eliza or any of the other great female leads.  The drama teacher at my school was a heavy woman and it always made me mad she couldn't think outside the box a little and let a girl who was a size 20 or 22 play a "pretty girl" role!  Ugh.

i had a total stranger (neighbor) tell me to "waddle back into my apartment" when he was mad that I took the handicapped space in the parking lot.  He was in his early 20's and I'm middle aged and walk with a cane.  I called the police on him I was so mad.  The officer chewed his butt out.


I also had a kid tell me I "was fat" at a restaurant.  I replied "tell your mother to raise you better" and proceeded to eat my dinner.  On the way out I "thanked" the mother for ruining my dinner.

I never thought of saying that to a kid, that's a great way to put it. I have had so many kids say something about my weight. If they are young I think maybe they dont' know any better but the older ones always leave me feeling so sad and depressed. I get even more sad when I think of the fact that I am letting an 8 year old ruin my day.
 

     I worked in a nursing home as Medication Aide.  It seem that every day on matter what one of the residents.  Both men and women would remind me that  I was fat and should lose weight.  That actted like I must have forgotten that  I was fat .  Because , The same people would remind me  daily.  They would never let themselves get that big.  It seem that it was the ones that should know better were the ones who always did it.  Some residents were just out- right cruel.   All most evil.
     

I got turned down for jobs i was very qualified for.
But the worse is my husbands sisters he has 4 and 1 always accepted me ,but 250 and 18 yrs later the other 3 accept me with open arms.
I know they are proud of me but i needed them before and i am the same person on the inside that i have always been...
I hated to go to resturants cause everyone would look to see what i was eating,i notice how diffrent i get treated now and it makes me angry....

I think it is horrible how we are treated. I go out to a restraunt and ordered a chicken dinner and people at the next table looked at me like I should have my mouth wired shut or be eating a carrot for dinner.

I was always told that as we get older people become more mature. I was told:

don't worry people will be nicer in middle school

by high school you won't have to worry about those people.

college students are more mature than in high school


well when is that going to happen???
I have been spit on, had things thrown at me, tripped, mooed at, and then some.

I tried to get a job and was told they werent looking to hire. I went back to the store 2 days later and guess what... there was a skinny blond girl working the job I asked about and she was hired the day before

People need to be more compassionate towards other people. The problem is that it is what the parents teach the kids and they do not do a thing about it. I know someone whose husband calls his wife fat in front of their kids who aren't in school yet and the kids turned around and called me fat. if this woman lost any more weight she would look sick.


People just need to grow up already.