Topic: Body Image Issues
hi kellie!
i'm doing well from the plastics...no problems -- and i'm now wearing size 8 pants! talk about amazing.
i'd love to get breasts and arms done, but i've been financing the plastics by borrowing from my 401k...and my 401k is currently worth virtually nothing. my employer's stock has gone from $47 to $5 a share in the past month...so no more surgeries for me. but still, i'm delighted with what i was able to get done.
wow, your next round is coming up really soon! how exciting! i can't give you any thoughts on recovery from those procedures as i've not had them yet...but i'm sure you'll do great. i'll be thinking of you on dec. 16th. and you have a happy thanksgiving too!
deb
I'm glad you're doing well, Deb - what a blessing. Size 8? Amazing! I think I'll probably wear size 12 or size 14 pants when the swelling from my tummy tuck finally subsides. But I think it'll be a while before that happens.
I'm lucky that my insurance covers part of both of my surgeries. So it makes the other work more affordable, since insurance is covering operating room, anesthesia, etc. Any more work I get done will be self-pay, so I'll have to save to get my thighs done. And I haven't decided yet about getting my booty or face done - will just have to wait and see.
If you want it, I hope that you find a way to finance the rest of the work you'd like to get done!
I'll take notes (and pictures) on recovering from BL/brachioplasty in case you're ever interested.
Best -
Kellie
Deb
I live in Indiana but have know clue where Fort Wayne is..
But i live in Aurora how close our you to Indianapolis or Columbus?
If your close enough id love to get with you sometime.
My social skills suck i went to dinner with friends and i looked stupid i had all this silverware and didnt know which one to use so i cleared my throat and said okay does anyone wonna show this redneck with fork is the salad fork and they laughed and i felt like my social skills improved fdrom there.
Im the last one finished cause im always talking and not eating,and im usually the loudest.
Oh no now youll probaley never have dinner with me now....
Good luck sweetie you have done wonderful..............
I live in Indiana but have know clue where Fort Wayne is..
But i live in Aurora how close our you to Indianapolis or Columbus?
If your close enough id love to get with you sometime.
My social skills suck i went to dinner with friends and i looked stupid i had all this silverware and didnt know which one to use so i cleared my throat and said okay does anyone wonna show this redneck with fork is the salad fork and they laughed and i felt like my social skills improved fdrom there.
Im the last one finished cause im always talking and not eating,and im usually the loudest.
Oh no now youll probaley never have dinner with me now....
Good luck sweetie you have done wonderful..............
greetings!
aurora -- is that near lawrenceburg? i have an aunt who lives in lawrenceburg, and i'm thinking aurora is near there. fort wayne is about as far from there as you can get and still be in indiana! we're in the northeast corner of the state -- close to the ohio and michigan state lines.
next time i visit my aunt, i'll get ahold of you and see if we can work something out to meet! that would be fun!
deb
aurora -- is that near lawrenceburg? i have an aunt who lives in lawrenceburg, and i'm thinking aurora is near there. fort wayne is about as far from there as you can get and still be in indiana! we're in the northeast corner of the state -- close to the ohio and michigan state lines.
next time i visit my aunt, i'll get ahold of you and see if we can work something out to meet! that would be fun!
deb
I will share my good as far as my body image is concerned. I do take photos each month and am amazed at how different my body looks. I cannot believe I was able to hold up my belly pre-op. I should have the spine of strong ox given how much it had to work. So the pictures help but what also helps is realizing how much I can do. I know my "old" body was incapable of doing 1/8th the things I have been doing lately, so yes I have a big ol' belly that hangs over my thighs but even with that belly I am taking on the world.
Another thing that has helped is the attention I am getting from males. I really thought that I would really shy about this and very uncomfortable but what I have learned is that I am secure with who I am and I don't base my worth on someone else's response to me. I believe that because I feel that way I project a certain sense of confidence that propitiates the attention. I love it!
It also doesn't hurt that I got into this whole process knowing that I would have plastics, so for now this body is temporary. I hope I still feel this way in a year.
Another thing that has helped is the attention I am getting from males. I really thought that I would really shy about this and very uncomfortable but what I have learned is that I am secure with who I am and I don't base my worth on someone else's response to me. I believe that because I feel that way I project a certain sense of confidence that propitiates the attention. I love it!
It also doesn't hurt that I got into this whole process knowing that I would have plastics, so for now this body is temporary. I hope I still feel this way in a year.
Hi Kix,
Never posted here before on the over 50 BMI board, but I saw this post and felt compelled to respond. I started with a 54 BMI and now at 27.8 and still dropping. I first had a band and then now the sleeve. People tell me I look good, that I am beautiful and I have trouble believing them. And its been 5 years since I started my journey with siginificant loss, some regain and now I am at my lowest weight ever. Its really tough because when I look in the mirror, I dont see what others see. Body dysmorphia is an ass kicker. So I decided to do something about it. I hired a trainer recently and I am back in the gym trying to build my own self confidence and stamina again. The answer is inside you. No one else can raise your self esteem and self confidence.
Babs
Never posted here before on the over 50 BMI board, but I saw this post and felt compelled to respond. I started with a 54 BMI and now at 27.8 and still dropping. I first had a band and then now the sleeve. People tell me I look good, that I am beautiful and I have trouble believing them. And its been 5 years since I started my journey with siginificant loss, some regain and now I am at my lowest weight ever. Its really tough because when I look in the mirror, I dont see what others see. Body dysmorphia is an ass kicker. So I decided to do something about it. I hired a trainer recently and I am back in the gym trying to build my own self confidence and stamina again. The answer is inside you. No one else can raise your self esteem and self confidence.
Babs
I'm 8 months out today WOO-HOO! i've lost almost 130 lbs, but have severe body image problems. my balance is off, my body is still not sure where it is (neither is my balance). I'm starting to have knee issues, having trouble bearing weight, i'm like what NOW? that i've lost weight! I had some of my husbands friends over 2 weeks ago, for the first time EVER, i was not the largest in the room, that was a lot to digest for me, i don't think that has ever happened. I'm also alot more critical of my body now, instead of the head in the sand approach i took for the last 20 years, its a lot of CHANGE! but all for the better. Thanks for raising this question, Kix. Lys
I'm a little late in posting to this thread.
However, I was talking to a co-worker today and she was complimenting me on how small I was getting. I told her thank you but that the only place I really see it is in my face. I have lost about 140 pounds so I should be able to tell. I told her that when I move around, walk etc. I feel
"skinnier" but when I go to the restroom and see myself in the mirror all I see is a Fat person looking back at me.
I have accepted the fact that I probably will not see a skinny me for a long time.
However, I was talking to a co-worker today and she was complimenting me on how small I was getting. I told her thank you but that the only place I really see it is in my face. I have lost about 140 pounds so I should be able to tell. I told her that when I move around, walk etc. I feel
"skinnier" but when I go to the restroom and see myself in the mirror all I see is a Fat person looking back at me.
I have accepted the fact that I probably will not see a skinny me for a long time.
Hi, I never posted on this forum before but I find the topic fascinating. In 2003, I managed to lose over 200 pounds without WLS and was an average size I am 5'10.5 and went from a size 28-30 to a 12-14. One horribly stressful job and 5 years later, I regained all but 30 pounds and am hoping for WLS. I've lost significant amounts of weight in my life - but have had problems keeping it off.
I never totally wrapped my mind around my weight-loss. Oh I really liked how I looked in clothes for the most part and I loved being able to shop in any store. but like a lot of others, I didn't have a good internal sense of what I looked like. I thought I was attractive - but I wasn't sure. At 40 years old I didn't want to go around saying "Am I pretty?". Sometimes, when I was alone, I would try on dressy clothes or ball gowns - not that I really had occasion to go to these things, but having never really dated in my young life - combo between weight issues and self-esteem issues. In those moments i mourned for the adolescence I never had and who I could have been instead of celebrating who I was.
It was an actually shock to me to realize, to really know that after the hoopla, after folks get used to you thinner, weight loss is just what it is. Its not happiness, its not love - [however it is a hell of lot more convenient]
I think my fear of being "out there" and my failure to accept a thinner me paved the way for me to regain the weight. Having explored some of the issues in counseling and experiencing the pain and disappointment and self-esteem issues surrounding this last ride on the yo-yo - I believe I have a more realistic view of body size and an understanding of WLS as a tool to help me keep the weight off.
I guess all this is just to say, I think dealing with the body issues is imperative in keeping the weight off. Not being able to see myself "thin"; I recreated the fat person I was in my mind.
Thanks for a thought provoking question and best wishes on your journey!
I never totally wrapped my mind around my weight-loss. Oh I really liked how I looked in clothes for the most part and I loved being able to shop in any store. but like a lot of others, I didn't have a good internal sense of what I looked like. I thought I was attractive - but I wasn't sure. At 40 years old I didn't want to go around saying "Am I pretty?". Sometimes, when I was alone, I would try on dressy clothes or ball gowns - not that I really had occasion to go to these things, but having never really dated in my young life - combo between weight issues and self-esteem issues. In those moments i mourned for the adolescence I never had and who I could have been instead of celebrating who I was.
It was an actually shock to me to realize, to really know that after the hoopla, after folks get used to you thinner, weight loss is just what it is. Its not happiness, its not love - [however it is a hell of lot more convenient]
I think my fear of being "out there" and my failure to accept a thinner me paved the way for me to regain the weight. Having explored some of the issues in counseling and experiencing the pain and disappointment and self-esteem issues surrounding this last ride on the yo-yo - I believe I have a more realistic view of body size and an understanding of WLS as a tool to help me keep the weight off.
I guess all this is just to say, I think dealing with the body issues is imperative in keeping the weight off. Not being able to see myself "thin"; I recreated the fat person I was in my mind.
Thanks for a thought provoking question and best wishes on your journey!
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