Mom Update

Big hugs to all of you!  Glad you are all able to make every day count.

Love,
Jana

Big hugs to all of you!!! 

I would like to make a suggestion to you... see about a support group in your area for cancer patients & their families.  It would be a great source of information for all of you.  I know there are some support groups especiallly geared for children also.

Enjoy your cruise!!! 

Caroline

Jan,

I am sending you hugs and prayers.

Thank you all so much for all the kind words.

Mom and I talked a lot last night, we talked about the cruise, which I have my concerns about going. She insist she wants to go, and she wants a family portrait on Formal night. Even if it comes down to the night before my brother and I have said we will cancel if we don't think she can make it.

Mom and I also talked about Christmas, she asked if I thought she would still be here by then. That broke my heart but I instead of answering her I asked her what she thought? She said yes, she'd be here. I told her even if it meant having Christmas on the 10th or 15th or whenever we would have Christmas together this year.

While we are on the cruise one of my dear friends is going to decorate Mom's house. So when we get back on the 29th it will be a Christmas wonderland. We have close family working on trying to come from KY to be with us and all family here has said we will be together. We're going to make this as special as we can.

I love my Mom so much and this is a very hard time, it's also a "Yes" time and were not saying no to any of Mom's requests. Today she wants me to make her Mom's mac and cheese with her, so she can show me how it's done. I'm not going to tell her Grandma showed me years ago how to do it, I'm just going to enjoy my time with her.

I'm so sorry. I will keep your mom (and family) in my prayers. Your mom is so strong and I see that in you as well. Many hugs to you.

Love, peace, and prayers to you, your Mom, and your family at this time; it sounds like you are all facing this with a great deal of grace, courage, and serenity.  I will continue to send positive energy and intentions into the universe for you all -

Love,

Kellie

Jan,
I'm so sorry that the news wasn't what you expected, but now at least you know where things are and prayerfully, they will be able to come up with some type of game plan.

I would agree with her doctor that taking the trip now is better than waiting for awhile longer.

Make lots of memories on your trip and treasure this time that you have with your mom.  I will keep her in prayer.

Hugs,

Oh sweetie i was hoping things would be better for her.
But i agree with the others make more memories and give her lots of extra love and just be  there.
I think its so sweet about her wanting to show you how to make mac n cheese.
You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers..
Many huggs

Jan~
    My prayers and well wishes are with you and your family at this stressful time.  I think you are right to cherish the memories you are making now and enjoy your trip.  And celebrate Christmas everyday.  You are doing the best thing for you and her to be there and listen to her concerns and voice your own, it sounds like you have a great relationship that you can treasure forever.  Hugs to you. 
~Melissa

Jan, I'm late in responding because your post brought back memories of my own mom's last weeks.  Once she heard from the doctor that there was nothing to be done and her cancer was too far gone, she cried for a bit, then asked the doctor what to expect.  He told her she wouldn't be in any pain and that she would just go to sleep and then not wake up one day.

That's pretty much what happened.  As she worsened, she pretty much didn't want to eat or drink, al she wanted to do was sleep.  The hardest part for her was that her cable TV went on the fritz and thus she couldn'****ch any TV!    TV was one of her favorite things and she was really mad that it wasn't working.

My advice is to enjoy your mom, follow her lead, and the rest will take care of itself in due time.

Hugs,
Kix