When YOU Have A LOT TO LOSE

Well my daughter who lives with me just told me she is pregnant...and all i want to do is eat.. I started at 402 and now down to 245 and each step has been hard.. there is not a day when i do not want to eat......So my problem is i am still very heavy and while i am not circus fat i am still fat.... and i just want to get below 200 date a nice guy... and enjoy my fiftys ...... don't get me wrong I love my daughter i just know that babys our a lot of work... so question... what do you do when it seems like you will never get thin enough... you know where people think your normal thats my dream... I am five mos out.....

Cate 48

I am sorry that you are going through such a trying time and that it brings on feeling that makes you want to eat.  When it seems like you will never get thin enough remind yourself that some of us have a long journey and that you have come very far very quickly so far.  Remember that you really have a small percentage left to lose.  Remember that you have the tool to keep it off.  Count your weight loss blessings.  (Smile)  Loris

 Hey remember you are still only 5 mos out you still have over a year and a half to loss more weight but almost 200lbs gone thats great keep up the good work.

you look wonderful and have done amazing.
stress its horrible,most of the time i forget to eat until i get upset.
remember you did this for yourself .
take care sweetie

greetings cate

you can do this! even though your situation with your daughter is causing extra stress, try to think about losing weight as something you are doing FOR YOU. you can't get too caught up in your daughter's situation -- you gotta keep yourself in the front of your mind.

i started out with a bmi of 66 and now it's 24. it's possible. you can do it!

good luck.

deb

First, you've done a great job so far and you need to remember that. 

Second, it's totally normal to be stressed about the idea of adding a baby to your household.  Pregnant women can be tough to live with, babies are a lot of work, but they can also bring a lot of joy. 

Third, I think it's probably normal to feel a bit of resentment about your current situation.  You're working hard to achieve a goal that you want very badly, and now instead of being able to focus your time and energy on achieving that goal, you'll have to divert some of it to your daughter and the baby.  And, if you are like me, you'll also feel guilting about feeling resentful about that. 

Fourth, you are only 5 months out; you've got another 5-7 months in your honeymoon period.  So you should continue to lose, even if it slows down a bit. 

Fifth, it's super important that you work on finding coping mechanisms to deal with these stressors other than food/eating.  Many of us have historically turned to food for comfort when we are stressed - I know I did - but you need to find other ways to handle stress.  If you struggle with this, I'd encourage you to talk to a counselor or a trusted friend.  Changing our old, unhealthy behaviors is key for long-term success. 

Good luck on your continuing journey, Cate - it will all work out fine...

Kellie

  Wow Cate, you are so close to me! You should come to our OH support group. PM me if your interested.

Remember that even in stressful times it's important to learn to deal with things and not turn to food. I speak from experience when I tell you it's so not worth it, it just makes you feel worse.

Your doing fabulous for 5 months out, you still have plenty of time to lose more during the honeymoon period. You will get there, just set your mind to it.

*hugs* it hard when we are in a stressful situation to not want to turn to our best friend.

I would suggest that when you feel like eating take a walk, even if it is just 5 minutes or write in a journal. You could even write a journal to your new grand baby. It doesnt havent to be a long entry, just a few thoughts r maybe talk about what is going on in the world on that day. Or talk about your family/parents.

I understand, my daughters aren't pregnant,  but still life is hard. I am 49 and want the same as you except I have alot more weight than you do to loose.

 Hi congradulations. U must be so proud of your self ,I am only two weeks out ,and I feel great. I would think the supports u had inplace befor the surgery the dietition nut, psychiatrist would be very good supports especially the psychiatrist. are you dealing with why u ate in the first place  Take care .  
kitty64